[Azath Vitr (D'ivers]

Tsundoku, on 06 January 2026 - 12:54 PM, said:

Briar King, on 06 January 2026 - 08:31 AM, said:

I'm hoping to get a hand off captured, the drone crew in action and which house they are poring out of once I'm more comfortable sending it out of direct eye contact which will be required in order to do so. I just have to figure out a way to block the bright lights without affecting its ability to fly/maneuver. To worried it ll be shot down otherwise.

You want to see if I get anything good captured?

Well, yeah, but safety first of course. These people don't exactly sound like model citizens. Please be careful. Maybe an anonymous tip to the local cops might be in order?

Is your drone loud? How good is the camera? Can you keep it a decent distance away?

Then again if they've seen it they may already think they're compromised.

He should set up an elaborate series of booby traps just in case. And escape routes---so they don't capture him (or worse).

(Mostly kidding... the main problem, aside from the difficulty of setting them up to be both nonlethal and effective, is that the booby traps probably wouldn't be set up to only be triggered by the proper people.)

This post has been edited by Azath Vitr (D'ivers: 06 January 2026 - 01:34 PM

[Tsundoku]

Back to work tomorrow after 4 weeks off.

Shit fuck fuckitty fuck shit fuck clunge!!!!!

[Abyss]

Tsundoku, on 14 January 2026 - 10:48 AM, said:

Back to work tomorrow after 4 weeks off.

Shit fuck fuckitty fuck shit fuck clunge!!!!!

Brutal. Want me to go in as your stunt double?

[QuickTidal]

Tsundoku, on 14 January 2026 - 10:48 AM, said:

clunge!!!!!

The only place I've heard this word is from that one extra gross dude from THE INBETWEENERS....does it mean here what it meant there?

[Macros]

Yes

[worry]

Oh that's not the Led Zeppelin song?

[Tsundoku]

worry, on 14 January 2026 - 07:59 PM, said:

Oh that's not the Led Zeppelin song?

Close, it's the drill rap version.

[Maark Abbott]

QuickTidal, on 14 January 2026 - 04:20 PM, said:

Tsundoku, on 14 January 2026 - 10:48 AM, said:

clunge!!!!!

The only place I've heard this word is from that one extra gross dude from THE INBETWEENERS....does it mean here what it meant there?

purjider

[Azath Vitr (D'ivers]

Hmm, "clunger" seems like it might be a nice slur for "human"...

(kidding!)

[Cause]

I don't know why but I have realized that despite nearly being 40 I don't think of myself as such.

It just hit me right now that a former colleague of mine who in my head was older and wiser is probably my age. I don't know why but I always tend to give everyone else but not myself the benefit of experience. I always say that I don't feel that much different today than I did at 30, maybe even 25 (Im sure im very different but it happens gradually). I know I am different. My career is further, I live in my own place etc but somehow it doesn't effect me the way I think it should.

Whether its colleagues, people I meet socially etc I seem to default to giving them seniority over me forgetting that I am old enough to be having a midlife crisis.

This post has been edited by Cause: 16 January 2026 - 09:51 PM

[Whisperzzzzzzz]

Cause, on 16 January 2026 - 09:50 PM, said:

I don't know why but I have realized that despite nearly being 40 I don't think of myself as such.

It just hit me right now that a former colleague of mine who in my head was older and wiser is probably my age. I don't know why but I always tend to give everyone else but not myself the benefit of experience. I always say that I don't feel that much different today than I did at 30, maybe even 25 (Im sure im very different but it happens gradually). I know I am different. My career is further, I live in my own place etc but somehow it doesn't effect me the way I think it should.

Whether its colleagues, people I meet socially etc I seem to default to giving them seniority over me forgetting that I am old enough to be having a midlife crisis.

I often feel similarly

[worry]

Time for you both to start your mid-life crises.

[worry]

Before it’s too late!

[Macros]

 Cause, on 16 January 2026 - 09:50 PM, said:

I don't know why but I have realized that despite nearly being 40 I don't think of myself as such.

It just hit me right now that a former colleague of mine who in my head was older and wiser is probably my age. I don't know why but I always tend to give everyone else but not myself the benefit of experience. I always say that I don't feel that much different today than I did at 30, maybe even 25 (Im sure im very different but it happens gradually). I know I am different. My career is further, I live in my own place etc but somehow it doesn't effect me the way I think it should.

Whether its colleagues, people I meet socially etc I seem to default to giving them seniority over me forgetting that I am old enough to be having a midlife crisis.

I do this a lot at work, for a long time the people Ive been in charge of have been older and more experienced than me. And up until the last....5? Years Ive looked a lot younger than I am.
Im always surprised when someone (even now) 10 years my senior is asking me how to do stuff and seeking instruction, in my head I can't fathom why they would be asking a youngster, then I realise Im 40

[Maark Abbott]

 worry, on 17 January 2026 - 05:49 AM, said:

Time for you both to start your mid-life crises.

Oh boy more part time catgirls

[Mezla PigDog]

Macros, on 17 January 2026 - 09:16 AM, said:

Cause, on 16 January 2026 - 09:50 PM, said:

I don't know why but I have realized that despite nearly being 40 I don't think of myself as such.

It just hit me right now that a former colleague of mine who in my head was older and wiser is probably my age. I don't know why but I always tend to give everyone else but not myself the benefit of experience. I always say that I don't feel that much different today than I did at 30, maybe even 25 (Im sure im very different but it happens gradually). I know I am different. My career is further, I live in my own place etc but somehow it doesn't effect me the way I think it should.

Whether its colleagues, people I meet socially etc I seem to default to giving them seniority over me forgetting that I am old enough to be having a midlife crisis.

I do this a lot at work, for a long time the people Ive been in charge of have been older and more experienced than me. And up until the last....5? Years Ive looked a lot younger than I am.
Im always surprised when someone (even now) 10 years my senior is asking me how to do stuff and seeking instruction, in my head I can't fathom why they would be asking a youngster, then I realise Im 40

I think this is pretty normal. When I speak to senior people at work who I don't know very well, I get a bit nervous with the eye of Sauron on me. I'm at the upper end of the middle manager ladder and have noticed lately more junior people are nervous when I speak to them. I am always surprised and it's a bit irritating, to be fair. You want to say "I'm just working, your career isn't on the line because I am talking to you".

Socially and professionally I always feel like others have their shit together more than I do. Like they know some secret to life that I somehow missed out on learning. I'm not thinking this every minute of the day but it is a general undercurrent.

I reckon if you don't have that to some degree then you are basically Donald Trump.

[Mezla PigDog]

Double post. Life has been pretty shite lately. My son has been having anxiety attacks. He's 9, he has nothing real to worry about. I don't THINK we have been terrible parents although I am sure we have our blindspots. I know anxiety is a thing that some people just have, it's how they are wired. I feel we could have handled it reasonably well except he throws up! So if he's at school he is sent home for 48 hrs, if he isn't with a parent he is sent home, or if he is out with us it's a bloody faff to sort it out and we're treading on eggshells all the time to avoid the puke. My nerves have been shredded. It's also got to be really bad for him physically to be throwing up so often. So our lives shrunk a lot while we tried to break the cycle of puking as the more he pukes, the easier it seems to come. Bless the little bugger, he's played football matches immediately after puking, been sent to holiday camps, trick or treat, aeroplane flights. He self-moderates by refusing breakfast a lot. He bounces back pretty quickly once he does puke but the build up is a nightmare as he doesn't want to puke, he doesn't even know why he feels sick, we don't want him to puke, but puking seems to be a release. We have been trying to break the cycle. Me and Mr PigDog haven't been getting along as we disagree with how to deal with it, which obviously helps nothing if not actively makes it worse. Everyone has an opinion on what to do but I'm the one the kid ultimately comes to for comfort.

Anyway, after 9 months of a lot of puking we're on about 12 months of it kind of being under control with occasional relapses. It has been replaced slightly with needing to wee but that's perfectly manageable! Physical causes have been ruled out so it's definitely psychological.

So now there is bandwidth to deal with the root cause of the anxiety. He's always been a high energy kid, not one for sitting down and he hates school work - anything where he has to hold a pencil is a battle. But he can do it. As the rest of his class settle down as they get older he is starting to stand out more. So his school last week said they think we should get him tested for neurodiversity. They don't lean towards a specific condition (which doesn't fecking help) but they think it's the only thing to explain what is going on. So we'll be doing that but if he does have something I expect it's borderline or otherwise we would have gone in that direction much younger. I'm leaning towards ADHD but he doesn't fit that many of the criteria (not that I'm an expert). However over diagnosis is a real thing now (not remotely criticising anyone with a diagnosis, it's just a big complicated thing). So I don't want him to be diagnosed with something he doesn't have. Or waste time going up a blind alley.

We had a good run at home over autumn so I kicked off looking for a new job because my current one makes me unhappy and I have been massively overworked now for years. It's a big task to look for a job, and work and parent and just generally do life. We have no family nearby (they wouldn't be helpful if they were) and friends he can go to are limited due to the puking.

So I'm climbing the walls basically. I know the right thing to do for each specific issue but there aren't enough hours in the frickin day.

[Tiste Simeon]

Dang Mez, that's rough. I've got nothing in the way of advice or thoughts really but it sounds like you're doing the right thing. Here's hoping for strength & breakthrough.

[Azath Vitr (D'ivers]

If you haven't already, you might want to try hypnotherapy---perhaps someone who's willing to do standing hypnosis and rapid inductions and/or speaks very quickly.

And is okay with the possibility that he might puke on them...

https://www.youtube....rts/ol7umPLK8Dc

[Cyphon]

My wife has just got her diagnosis as having adhd and I have somehow become the exec sponsor at work for the staff disability network (the sub 40 but people looking up to you is so weird...) so I know a little, and have listened a fair bit. As well as having a dyslexic diagnosis myself. I know how little I know as having met one neurodiverse person, youve only met one neurodiverse person. And there's 1/7 of the population being one, so i dont think its over diagnosis, but more catching up as lots of people in the 90s earlier were just called odd rather than what we understand now.

On the neurodiversity diagnosis for kids, it sounds like from your timeline this has been an issue for 2ish years which would be from 7. That's the point at which school conformity requirements really kick in and can create a lot of anxiety for kids, particularly neurodiverse ones. And certainly having gone through the adhd forms with my wife the things that can trigger the different levels of issues only increase (secondary school, self management). So while not 'manifesting' earlier, it's not out of the realms this has been latent and now coming to bear. Or not at all, worth checking with the pros.

You'll likely have to do a lot with the GP to help with this, but given you have got a history with them hopefully this willbe easier. Don't know how it works with kids yet, but you'll want to make sure they do shared care arrangements and the look at right to choose to get an appointment - that got us through relatively quickly. A bit of minor research can weed out the non-reputable ones. For example the one my wife used has the person who set the ADHD clinical guidelines on their Board etc.

Having done the process with my wife, im anticipating my daughter, who is 5, is going to need an assessment in the next few years because she's showing the same traits as my wife, and I want my daughter to have better scaffolding than my wife did so life isn't as anxiety full and stressful. We are trying not to project... Going to be an interesting conversation with the school when we flag it... anyway, my point is sending solidarity and some support!

Sorry this is all coming at once, its the British way though as buses always come together. At least youre looking for a new job from a position of security.

This post has been edited by Cyphon: 18 January 2026 - 12:47 PM