[Tsundoku]

Whatever changed - keep doing it?

Good to hear you're feeling better though.

[Mezla PigDog]

Thanks, me too! I can't really put my finger on what has changed apart from a lot of the "noise" of every day life has gone away. I'm not sure how to prevent that coming back in as real life resumes. I'll damn well try though.

[Imperial Historian]

Mezla PigDog, on 29 May 2020 - 08:24 AM, said:

So I'm pretty sure I was borderline depressed before the pandemic hit. Or probably not even borderline. I'd been miserable and exhausted for ages, we had a terrible 2019. Many of the Christmas cards we got last Christmas said something along the lines of "At least 2020 has to be better". Cue global pandemic. I thought I was going to have a breakdown in April but the fog lifted a few weeks ago. The problem I've been having for a few years is that I like all of the aspects of my life but I can't handle keeping them all going all at once. Life suddenly seems a lot more simple and I think it has lifted the cloud. I feel like myself again, it's bloody brilliant. How to keep it going?

Glad you are feeling better Mez, I think the expert consensus on how to get out from under the cloud is keep doing what you are doing which keeps you out of the cloud. In terms of keeping it going some form of therapy/coaching that helps you address what was causing the cloud in the first place, though what form that therapy takes can vary wildly.

Totally understand the liking all the things you are doing, but somehow all of them together becomes to much, and then not being able to do things like you want/enjoy them as much. Sometimes things just have to be dropped, but that's a hard calculus.

[TheRetiredBridgeburner]

Mezla PigDog, on 29 May 2020 - 08:24 AM, said:

So I'm pretty sure I was borderline depressed before the pandemic hit. Or probably not even borderline. I'd been miserable and exhausted for ages, we had a terrible 2019. Many of the Christmas cards we got last Christmas said something along the lines of "At least 2020 has to be better". Cue global pandemic. I thought I was going to have a breakdown in April but the fog lifted a few weeks ago. The problem I've been having for a few years is that I like all of the aspects of my life but I can't handle keeping them all going all at once. Life suddenly seems a lot more simple and I think it has lifted the cloud. I feel like myself again, it's bloody brilliant. How to keep it going?

Lovely to hear you're feeling better
I wonder how much of it is the quieter pace of life the pandemic has enforced? Are there things in the general "life noise" that you could continue to do without once it isn't enforced?

[QuickTidal]

Imperial Historian, on 29 May 2020 - 12:40 PM, said:

Mezla PigDog, on 29 May 2020 - 08:24 AM, said:

So I'm pretty sure I was borderline depressed before the pandemic hit. Or probably not even borderline. I'd been miserable and exhausted for ages, we had a terrible 2019. Many of the Christmas cards we got last Christmas said something along the lines of "At least 2020 has to be better". Cue global pandemic. I thought I was going to have a breakdown in April but the fog lifted a few weeks ago. The problem I've been having for a few years is that I like all of the aspects of my life but I can't handle keeping them all going all at once. Life suddenly seems a lot more simple and I think it has lifted the cloud. I feel like myself again, it's bloody brilliant. How to keep it going?

Totally understand the liking all the things you are doing, but somehow all of them together becomes to much, and then not being able to do things like you want/enjoy them as much. Sometimes things just have to be dropped, but that's a hard calculus.

As someone whose wife is very much the "take on too much all the time and stress out/depression cloud" type of person, this above info from IH is very accurate. Keeping things simple means very distinctly keeping things simple. Because you have a family and young one at home, you're plate is already like 70% full of daily stuff, so adding too much to the other side of it is going to cause you stress even if it's stuff you like to do. Once we paired down what we both do in our lives to less things, life became easier.

My own way may not help you as I find not every can do it, but I focus on one main thing to look forward to and enjoy at a time. Like I'll look forward to a movie, TV show, or book, and I keep that in the back of my head whenever I'm doing other stuff. Like "My reward for all this banal daily life stuff, like doing laundry, cooking dinner, trying to get my kids to eat, brush their teeth ect., is to get back at that one thing I enjoy right now." and then that one thing is done, I find something else to focus on. Rinse and repeat. It's worked for me for years.

Also, I like doing dishes. Like love doing dishes. I find it insanely cathartic/therapeutic. So at the very least my wife will never have to do dishes in her life (which pleases her as she hates it) unless he wants to. I give her the stink eye when she tries to do them (she's used to being helpful, can't blame her) and she usually laughs and says "Oh fine, I'll leave it to you."


Glad you're feeling better Mez. Keep it up as best you can!

This post has been edited by QuickTidal: 29 May 2020 - 02:07 PM

[Tsundoku]

Snotface was just awarded Student of Merit for her last two reserve officer training courses and received the Sword of Honour for being top cadet overall.
So now she's commissioned as a LT.

I still won't salute her though.

[Cause]

Lost another kg for a total of 7 in the usa

[Aptorian]

You're never going to fit in if you keep that up, Cause. Real Americans have early warning signs of type 2 dibetus.

[Obdigore]

Aptorian, on 02 June 2020 - 05:38 PM, said:

You're never going to fit in if you keep that up, Cause. Real Americans have early warning signs of type 2 dibetus.

Early warning signs? Real Americans have to deal with Type 2 'Beetus every day, because we put sugar in fucking everything.

[Cause]

Obdigore, on 02 June 2020 - 07:31 PM, said:

Aptorian, on 02 June 2020 - 05:38 PM, said:

You're never going to fit in if you keep that up, Cause. Real Americans have early warning signs of type 2 dibetus.

Early warning signs? Real Americans have to deal with Type 2 'Beetus every day, because we put sugar in fucking everything.

And yet your food sucks!!!

Hershey’s is a war crime, your chips are bland! Your candy excepting mike and Ike’s tastes like plastic (I’m looking at you twirlers). Okay your ice cream is god damn amazing!

Still on the whole this is good for me!

God bless the USA

[Macros]

Oh yeah, I have to post cadburys.

I'll wait until the weather cools down a bit, don't want you getting melty chocolate

[Slow Ben]

Cause, on 02 June 2020 - 05:18 PM, said:

Lost another kg for a total of 7 in the usa

What the fuck is a kg?

We use the American flag to bald eagle conversion measurement here.



Hershey sucks. Like Mac said, find the Cadbury bars. Fruit and Nut is my favorite. But Toasted Almond is solid also.

[Malankazooie]

Cadbury is garbage too. It's on the same crap level with Hershey. And that gross shit Cadbury does around Easter where they fill the chocolate eggs with Easter Bunny jizz can GTFO! From my Easter basket, I used to trade that trash with my siblings for their jelly beans, that or we damn sure gonna fight.

Do yourselves a favor. Any city worth a shit has a hipster enclave with an amazing chocolatier shop which imports chocolate in from Antwerp, Belgium and gets bizzaay with the delectable chocolate treats. I've had a chocolate mousse from my local hipster chocolatier shop that is sooo good you would punch your grandma in the tit for. You probably have one of these shops in your municipality, find it, it's worth it.

[Morgoth]

Cause, on 02 June 2020 - 07:38 PM, said:

Obdigore, on 02 June 2020 - 07:31 PM, said:

Aptorian, on 02 June 2020 - 05:38 PM, said:

You're never going to fit in if you keep that up, Cause. Real Americans have early warning signs of type 2 dibetus.

Early warning signs? Real Americans have to deal with Type 2 'Beetus every day, because we put sugar in fucking everything.

And yet your food sucks!!!

Hershey's is a war crime, your chips are bland! Your candy excepting mike and Ike's tastes like plastic (I'm looking at you twirlers). Okay your ice cream is god damn amazing!

Still on the whole this is good for me!

God bless the USA

They put corn syrup in their bread! And their dark bread is just light bread with colour added to it. I had to get a bakery to make me decent bread in Chicago.

[Macros]

Malaz, I've had this convo with KL and Obdi, murican Cadbury is shit too, you need the proper stuff from here

[Slow Ben]

Friggin chocolate snobs.

I’ve had plenty of chocolate from overseas. And it is better, but it’s not so dramatically, catastrophically, monumentally better that you can’t enjoy a f’ing Cadbury.

[Macros]

Silence you philistine.

[Morgoth]

American chocolate is awful. It feels like you're chewing sugar crystals.

[Mentalist]

Survived 2 intense weeks of deadlines. Now I can take it relatively easy for a while.

Also got completely soaked by a flash thunderstorm while coming back from my walk. Spring thunderstorms are the best, reminds me of happier times when I'd be stuck guarding in the rain.

[The Hust Legion]

pre ordered a sub press crippled god with my first pay check