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Caesar Chavez...jeezus.

[worry]

Yeah it's brutal stuff. I couldn't really finish the NYT article -- the first three accounts it details (including Dolores Huerta herself) are devastating enough.

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worry, on 18 March 2026 - 04:48 PM, said:

Yeah it's brutal stuff. I couldn't really finish the NYT article -- the first three accounts it details (including Dolores Huerta herself) are devastating enough.

The thing I note is that once this info dropped, EVERYONE moved to distance themselves from Chavez...which is what SHOULD happen....but 1million mentions of trump in the Files, multiple allegations from multiple women over countless decades, and a civil conviction for rape....and MAGA Republicans refuse to do anything close to the same.

The left usually does the right thing when one of theirs proves to be terrible (see Neil Gaiman), but the Right knows that if it does the right thing it tarnishes their "movement" and they can't stomach that.

[amphibian]

The removal of Chavez from acclaim doesn't mean that labor isn't recognized. Shifting focus to other leaders is a good thing and helps the community get better/heal in addition to supporting the disclosures and pursuits of justice that is truly done.

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So Taylor Frankie Paul, who was apparently a MomTok influencer who then ended up on like 5 seasons of The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives...was going to be the new Bachelorette (had shot her season) and it was debuting this Sunday....ABC/Disney has now pulled the plug on the whole season with the release of a video showing her domestic abuse charge from 2023 that the husband shot on his phone.

For anyone who has ever wondered about my personal incident being abused as a man by a woman who claimed to care about me, and then gaslit about it by her that it wasn't that bad, and then how no one believed me that this diminutive 4-foot-something girl could abuse a nearly 6 foot guy...

This video of Taylor abusing, choking, and throwing metal stools at her husband (in the vicinity of her kid, and hitting the kid with a stool ricochet), is a pretty decent representation of what it was like, and I'm not going to lie...this was like a 'Nam flashback for me to a time I felt helpless. Now, I got fist punched in the jaw twice, and had a cell phone thrown at my head (which missed only because I dodged it, but it was thrown with such force that it shattered on the wall)...but the vibe is the same. What's worse, my ex has literally been on the local news morning shows for her business years later and seeing her standing there like a ghost from my past is...hard.

Anyways, BIG trigger warning for DV in this video. DO NOT WATCH if you have trauma that might resurface.

But yeah, I hope this woman is not allowed near her kids again until she gets whatever help she needs...(also, ABC/Disney is not off any hooks, they KNEW this before she was on Mormon Wives that she'd done this, season 1 is when this video incident happened and they shot 4 more seasons....the only reason they've cancelled her Bachelorette season is because advertisers heard about the video and dropped out, so they were forced to cancel and bag the whole season...but this was a self-inflicted wound by Disney one again going for sensationalism and profits over basic humanity, until it cost them enough monetarily to shut it down.

[amphibian]

I've had things thrown at me like this, some of which hit the dogs. I was beaten with a wire frame laundry hamper and limped for a week. It looked exactly like this.

I made the mistake of staying for years to fix the other person because I imagined that if they simply solved their rage problems, everything would be great. It was a bad idea then and it's a bad idea for just about everyone. If someone is screaming at you and escalating to following you around, throwing things, and violence towards your things or you, get out and don't go back.

It will be hard to set up your life again, but it will be a better life for everyone involved.

This post has been edited by amphibian: 20 March 2026 - 01:36 PM

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 amphibian, on 20 March 2026 - 01:24 PM, said:

I've had things thrown at me like this, some of which hit the dogs. I was beaten with a wire frame laundry hamper and limped for a week. It looked exactly like this.

I made the mistake of staying for years to fix the other person because I imagined that if they simply solved their rage problems, everything would be great. It was a bad idea then and it's a bad idea for just about everyone. If someone is screaming at you and escalating to following you around, throwing things, and violence, get out and don't go back.

It will be hard to set up your life again, but it will be a better life for everyone involved.

Indeed.

I lucked out that I walked not long after that incident, and she chased me and called me for at least a year after I walked away...but eventually she got the picture and left me alone...and I only had to see her on TV a few times.

And I landed in a marriage with the kindest and most warm woman I've ever met, so I'm definitely one of the lucky ones to have gotten away from someone abusive.

Sorry you went through that, I know exactly what it feels like and it's never good.

[amphibian]

I stayed for 4 years after the initial thing thrown at me. I left multiple times, but went back because I felt that I had committed (to a person who really didn't exist as I thought of them) and that I was a tough, capable person who could survive this as they fixed themselves.

It was all a bad idea every single time I went back and leaving permanently made life so much better, even as I grieved what life before was. Being a great problem solver and being strong isn't how another person who is violently abusive "gets fixed". Enduring that much pain is a bad idea, no matter how many years in or how much a life has grown with them.

I am now with someone who is actually saved in my phone as "Name Who Is Kind" because it is immediately obvious to everyone who meets them. Unfortunately, they too went through a hard marriage with someone (no violence, a ton of cheating and financial misdeeds).

Reality TV production in general has a lot to reckon with in terms of checking for abusive pasts, not creating situations where people get hurt, and in making a cultural groove for abusers to flourish.

This post has been edited by amphibian: 20 March 2026 - 02:24 PM