[Macros]

I'd rather like to think no one has any issues they would like to discuss.
I can read the "agony aunts" section of the daily sport if I want to see made up bullshit

[Arthur Dayne]

I typically don't complain much when i'm getting laid twice a day. Now when it's twice a month i'll be here until morale improves.

[Illuyankas]

Arthur Dayne, on 19 January 2016 - 06:24 PM, said:

I typically don't complain much when i'm getting laid twice a day. Now when it's twice a month the beating off will continue until morale improves.

[amphibian]

I doubt there's a person older than teens and with a job who can sustain a 2x a day pace beyond a couple weeks and still balance a normal life with hobbies, a social life etc.

[amphibian]

If such exists, that person probably has a loving saint of a partner for forgiving all that bad sex.

[Maark Abbott]

Hello, hotline? I'm very tempted by another woman!

[Maark Abbott]

Raging Cajun Gator King, on 20 January 2016 - 05:29 AM, said:

Maark, on 20 January 2016 - 04:48 AM, said:

Hello, hotline? I'm very tempted by another woman!

Me 4 yrs ago "go for it! Have fun!"

Me now "don't"

You were supposed to say "Homer Simpson!"

Naw, but whilst I am rather an irascinble flirt, no one else got the booty my missus do. There's a lot to be said for eight and a half years together.

[Una]

Raging Cajun Gator King, on 20 January 2016 - 04:26 AM, said:

So it's been 5 1/2 yrs since my divorce and what do I just get back home from? Ex sex. I mean we have 2 kids so we are bonded and I don't date atm so it's just easy/normal/casual I guess. I won't do it anymore when I finally do feel like dating but my ? to other divorced people is do y'all still bump uglies with the Ex and how long have y'all? Or are we just super rare?

Well, my ex was emotionally abusive. He particularly liked to compare me to younger/prettier women and tell me how much more desirable they were than me. So...no. Ain't happening.

I'm sure your situation is different. It must be nice to have a civil relationship with your ex, so in that way I envy you.

[EmperorMagus]

Una, on 21 January 2016 - 05:24 AM, said:

Well, my ex was emotionally abusive. He particularly liked to compare me to younger/prettier women and tell me how much more desirable they were than me. So...no. Ain't happening.

I'm sure your situation is different. It must be nice to have a civil relationship with your ex, so in that way I envy you.

This post brings two things to my mind.
1. I can never understand how people think behaviour like this is anyway acceptable, humane, or logical. What is going through that person's head when they act like that?


2. Do I do shit like that without being aware of it? Maybe the guy isn't actually aware he is an asshole ...

[Macros]

I don't see how someone could be unaware of what they are saying.
maybe saying it as a one off as an off colour joke, but you'd know immediately that it didn't land, and if you carried on, you're being an asshole

[Arthur Dayne]

It's funny what some people can justify in their minds. Whether it's from their upbringing where they expect everyone to have the same tough skin they feel they have or they feel justified like the other person deserved it somehow. It's alot easier from the outside to look in and say "man that's messed up, what's wrong with you?" than it is for someone who has only know it one way and grew up that way thinking that was the way you showed your love for someone else. Kind of like talking yourself into doing something you know is wrong but your brain tells you the benefits outweigh the risks. To them there's no risk because their head said it's right.

[Arthur Dayne]

As a messed up aside... My Ex feels that I emotionally abused her and "made her cheat on me" because I played World of Warcraft. She actually told me she felt I drove her to do it. Kind of entertaining to think about how much sex we had leading up to the divorce finalization...

[Illuyankas]

Anyone who uses the phrase 'you made me cheat on you by' you can just stop listening by that word because it's all on them at that point.

[Macros]

I see where you're coming from with the perception and environment Aurthur, like a group of friends 'banter' might seem like the people really dislike and slag each other from the outside, but that's just the groups dynamic.
However in a situation of a relationship, if the two people are coming from different back ground and have different valies in what they say and do, it should be fairly clear that things are not being received as intended, or are being taken to heart, and to continue down that line you'd be an asshole, anyone remaining completely oblivious to the consequences of their actions on a daily basis like that would have to have (imo) a loose wire disconnecting the bit of the brain that relays peoples reactions to them

[Una]

Arthur Dayne, on 21 January 2016 - 06:12 PM, said:

As a messed up aside... My Ex feels that I emotionally abused her and "made her cheat on me" because I played World of Warcraft. She actually told me she felt I drove her to do it. Kind of entertaining to think about how much sex we had leading up to the divorce finalization...

There was a period of time where my ex would play WOW from the time I got home from work until 4am, stopping only for a few minutes to eat the food I made for him. I could wait up for him until about 1 or 2 am, but that was my limit and I would pass out in bed. Then he would blame me for us not having enough sex.

But I still didn't cheat, so that part is all on your ex. However, I did seriously think of packing my bags and seeing how long it would take him to notice that there was no one making dinner, but I didn't. In retrospect, perhaps I should have, but at the time I thought that family honour was at stake and more important than my needs.

[TheRetiredBridgeburner]

Macros, on 21 January 2016 - 11:03 AM, said:

I don't see how someone could be unaware of what they are saying.
maybe saying it as a one off as an off colour joke, but you'd know immediately that it didn't land, and if you carried on, you're being an asshole

My other half occasionally falls in this trap. He seems to not realise just how often he repeats the same thing, when the first time it didn't land so well. Always claims to not mean it and not realise though, so I do wonder how much attention he pays to what he says sometimes!

And agreed with Illy - "you made me" is a bullshit attempt to not take responsibility for being an asshole. Whilst the situation might have made your ex unhappy, it's still entirely her decision and responsibility for cheating.

[worry]

Ask her if she thinks Sonic the Hedgehog is a poignant allegory of nature rising up against man's mechanization of the planet and its deleterious effect on the ecosystem.

[worry]

Yeah, obviously that's just the no-strings sex question. If you find you want to start dating you move onto "What's your ideal party setup in Chrono Trigger?", and when it gets really serious you delve into Ico/Shadow of the Colossus life philosophy territory. But I'm getting ahead of myself.

[Slow Ben]

Raging Cajun Gator King, on 26 January 2016 - 06:02 AM, said:

No she just got ahead of herself lol. I just said hey it's Tanner and then she blew my shit up with her life story kid/ex situation.

Get....away....

[QuickTidal]

Raging Cajun Gator King, on 26 January 2016 - 06:02 AM, said:

No she just got ahead of herself lol. I just said hey it's Tanner and then she blew my shit up with her life story kid/ex situation.

Urg...yeah no way is that "text conversation with person they just met" material.

Run.