[Arthur Dayne]

If you haven't already changed your phone number you might want to lay low for awhile. Find a good non mutual friend and just crash for a bit. Check behind you as you drive there for follows and then let the heat die down. If you stay and wake up to find her watching you sleep from inside your bedroom, don't say I didn't warn you.

[Andorion]

I am getting strange vibes too. My advice BK? Run. I once met a girl like this and she confided in me that she always carries Ninja stuff for self defence. She also said I looked like a tortoise, she wanted to put puppies on my back, and when I tried to get away she ran at me and head butted me.

Stuff like this never ends well

[QuickTidal]

Andorion, on 26 January 2016 - 04:54 PM, said:

I am getting strange vibes too. My advice BK? Run. I once met a girl like this and she confided in me that she always carries Ninja stuff for self defence. She also said I looked like a tortoise, she wanted to put puppies on my back, and when I tried to get away she ran at me and head butted me.

Um, are you sure didn't date Marvel's Juggernaut by accident?

[Andorion]

QuickTidal, on 26 January 2016 - 05:02 PM, said:

Andorion, on 26 January 2016 - 04:54 PM, said:

I am getting strange vibes too. My advice BK? Run. I once met a girl like this and she confided in me that she always carries Ninja stuff for self defence. She also said I looked like a tortoise, she wanted to put puppies on my back, and when I tried to get away she ran at me and head butted me.

Um, are you sure didn't date Marvel's Juggernaut by accident?

Nope. Thankfully we never actually dated. She was in my UG class, good looking and really interested in ancient egypt. I was going through an Egypt phase myself, so we got to casually talking and then the crazy came bleeding out.

Always maintained a safe distance after that. My GF used to be friends with her at one point and she told me the crazy went down pretty deep, like dancing randomly in the streets deep(Note: without alcohol or drugs. This was her sober behaviour)

[Coco with marshmallows]

Raging Cajun Gator King, on 26 January 2016 - 09:10 PM, said:

Oh my she's young. 26 to my 35. I think we're only going to have 1 thing in common.

I stressed the NSA a lot last night so hopefully it sinks in for her.

You're still in contact?

[amphibian]

Raging Cajun Gator King, on 26 January 2016 - 09:10 PM, said:

Oh my she's young. 26 to my 35. I think we're only going to have 1 thing in common.

I stressed the NSA a lot last night so hopefully it sinks in for her.

Have fun, help her be cool too, and yes, this will likely not last.

On to something else:

I had a night of fun with a lady who wasn't verbally communicative, preferring to use gestures - which was kinda cool for me since I'm deaf - and she was really into her own legs. Like showing them off multiple times and so on, but she didn't clearly communicate anything unusual or different that I should have been doing with them. We had fun, but something was sorta missing and I didn't pry or ask anything beyond whether she had a good time (received a warm affirmation and we parted on good terms).

A couple days later, I came to the conclusion she was indeed waiting for me to do something unusual or different with them, but I don't know what to do with a leg enthusiast as it was my first time with a person who vibed that way.

It was a traveling hookup, so it won't be repeated and I'm not in consistent communication with her, but I'm stumped on this one. Anyone have a similar experience?

[Andorion]

amphibian, on 27 January 2016 - 03:59 AM, said:

Raging Cajun Gator King, on 26 January 2016 - 09:10 PM, said:

Oh my she's young. 26 to my 35. I think we're only going to have 1 thing in common.

I stressed the NSA a lot last night so hopefully it sinks in for her.

Have fun, help her be cool too, and yes, this will likely not last.

On to something else:

I had a night of fun with a lady who wasn't verbally communicative, preferring to use gestures - which was kinda cool for me since I'm deaf - and she was really into her own legs. Like showing them off multiple times and so on, but she didn't clearly communicate anything unusual or different that I should have been doing with them. We had fun, but something was sorta missing and I didn't pry or ask anything beyond whether she had a good time (received a warm affirmation and we parted on good terms).

A couple days later, I came to the conclusion she was indeed waiting for me to do something unusual or different with them, but I don't know what to do with a leg enthusiast as it was my first time with a person who vibed that way.

It was a traveling hookup, so it won't be repeated and I'm not in consistent communication with her, but I'm stumped on this one. Anyone have a similar experience?

Just a thought... maybe she had body image issues with her legs, put some work into 'improving' them and then wanted you to validate that by paying extra attention to them?

[amphibian]

I wish I'd done a better job of communicating, maybe even putting things on pause to ask what she was going for would have been a good idea.

It's pretty funny to find a situation where I feel like the 19 year figuring these things out all over again. We never do stop learning.

[amphibian]

Andorion, on 27 January 2016 - 04:10 AM, said:

Just a thought... maybe she had body image issues with her legs, put some work into 'improving' them and then wanted you to validate that by paying extra attention to them?

Whoa.

A few things beforehand just lined up and clicked with this. I will probably never know for sure, but she's a kickass, awesome lady and she'll get what she is looking for in her area eventually.

[amphibian]

Raging Cajun Gator King, on 27 January 2016 - 04:13 AM, said:

If anyone here is into feet I'd love to hear what it is about them that's so wonderful so I can understand it.

I have a friend who was a very high level mma fighter and she constantly gets feet maniacs launching truly weird stuff at her online. It's a weird/scary/funny thing and she's able to be safe and laugh about it.

I don't get the appeal of feet such to override all sense either.

[Andorion]

amphibian, on 27 January 2016 - 04:17 AM, said:

Andorion, on 27 January 2016 - 04:10 AM, said:

Just a thought... maybe she had body image issues with her legs, put some work into 'improving' them and then wanted you to validate that by paying extra attention to them?

Whoa.

A few things beforehand just lined up and clicked with this. I will probably never know for sure, but she's a kickass, awesome lady and she'll get what she is looking for in her area eventually.

Body Image issues can be strange and hard to deal with. A friend was told not to walk too much as it would make her legs 'thin' and 'unattractive'. She spent years worrying over them and her confidence took a hit. That's what I thought of as soon as I read your post.

[Maark Abbott]

Raging Cajun Gator King, on 27 January 2016 - 04:13 AM, said:

If anyone here is into feet I'd love to hear what it is about them that's so wonderful so I can understand it.

I think with any body part fetish, it comes down to the aesthetic of something being pleasing to someone. Same vein as why some guys like boobs, some prefer butts, and others are into legs. There's probably some sort of psychological thing which would give more insight but that would be my take on it.

[Arthur Dayne]

I was with a girl who would fish for compliments and looks so hard that she ended up basically just telling me to touch her and tell her how much I liked said body part. It actually made the whole ordeal way more awkward than if she had just let me do it on my own. Yeah that didn't last long, regardless of how naked she got. I'm glad I got locked down to my wife before Tinder because i'd be a total whore by now.

[TheRetiredBridgeburner]

Andorion, on 27 January 2016 - 04:35 AM, said:

Body Image issues can be strange and hard to deal with. A friend was told not to walk too much as it would make her legs 'thin' and 'unattractive'. She spent years worrying over them and her confidence took a hit. That's what I thought of as soon as I read your post.

I hate people saying this sort of thing to others - they never seem to realise the damage it does. I had years of "Your Mum's family all have big legs" (they're fairly typically British shaped and bottom heavy) from seemingly everyone, so had a fit when all the horse riding paid off in my teens and I grew muscle. It's taken until the last year or so to reach "You know what, they're fine, fuck everyone" with it - but the point still stands. I wish people stopped and thought before they said things at times.

[amphibian]

That is a really good point and I'm going to do better in not saying those kind of things.

[EmperorMagus]

TheRetiredBridgeburner, on 28 January 2016 - 06:27 AM, said:

Andorion, on 27 January 2016 - 04:35 AM, said:

Body Image issues can be strange and hard to deal with. A friend was told not to walk too much as it would make her legs 'thin' and 'unattractive'. She spent years worrying over them and her confidence took a hit. That's what I thought of as soon as I read your post.

I hate people saying this sort of thing to others - they never seem to realise the damage it does. I had years of "Your Mum's family all have big legs" (they're fairly typically British shaped and bottom heavy) from seemingly everyone, so had a fit when all the horse riding paid off in my teens and I grew muscle. It's taken until the last year or so to reach "You know what, they're fine, fuck everyone" with it - but the point still stands. I wish people stopped and thought before they said things at times.

errm, it really does damage?

Should I feel bad for all the horrible stuff I've said to my sister?

[Maark Abbott]

EmperorMagus, on 28 January 2016 - 07:19 AM, said:

TheRetiredBridgeburner, on 28 January 2016 - 06:27 AM, said:

Andorion, on 27 January 2016 - 04:35 AM, said:

Body Image issues can be strange and hard to deal with. A friend was told not to walk too much as it would make her legs 'thin' and 'unattractive'. She spent years worrying over them and her confidence took a hit. That's what I thought of as soon as I read your post.

I hate people saying this sort of thing to others - they never seem to realise the damage it does. I had years of "Your Mum's family all have big legs" (they're fairly typically British shaped and bottom heavy) from seemingly everyone, so had a fit when all the horse riding paid off in my teens and I grew muscle. It's taken until the last year or so to reach "You know what, they're fine, fuck everyone" with it - but the point still stands. I wish people stopped and thought before they said things at times.

errm, it really does damage?

Should I feel bad for all the horrible stuff I've said to my sister?

Depending on how mentally tough someone is, it can lead to depression, the recipient developing eating disorders, and other associated mental health issues. My fiancée is plus sized (size 18-20), but as I like a badonkin' booty anyway I make sure to know that she knows I think she looks great, compliment her when she's made an effort and try to be supportive if she's feeling low about it. Because she really is beautiful to me, and if I can make her see it about herself, then I will (losing battle perhaps but eh, gotta try).

[Andorion]

To me, the entire body image thing was a revelation once I got into a serious relationship. When my GF told me that there were actual body shape terms like "pear" and often people would give others unsolicited 'advice' about their bodies, it made me so furious. She had been on the receiving end of some of this as well and to this day she has a lot of difficulty considering herself beautiful. It affects everything from her general mood to her clothes purchasing habits.

Like Maark I try to be as supportive as I can and I complement her at every opportunity. But often its not enough. It honestly makes my blood boil and I want to hurt those imbeciles who did this to her

Living in a culture where body shape and skin colour (fairness vs Darkness, not black vs white) defines social worth can be extremely difficult.

I make it a point to never say something bad about people's bodies. If I can complement them, fine. Otherwise not.

[TheRetiredBridgeburner]

Andorion, on 28 January 2016 - 07:47 AM, said:

To me, the entire body image thing was a revelation once I got into a serious relationship. When my GF told me that there were actual body shape terms like "pear" and often people would give others unsolicited 'advice' about their bodies, it made me so furious. She had been on the receiving end of some of this as well and to this day she has a lot of difficulty considering herself beautiful. It affects everything from her general mood to her clothes purchasing habits.

Like Maark I try to be as supportive as I can and I complement her at every opportunity. But often its not enough. It honestly makes my blood boil and I want to hurt those imbeciles who did this to her

Living in a culture where body shape and skin colour (fairness vs Darkness, not black vs white) defines social worth can be extremely difficult.

I make it a point to never say something bad about people's bodies. If I can complement them, fine. Otherwise not.

It's the best approach I think. Nobody wants unsolicited advice (I find the very idea of it to be incredibly bad manners), and if you're asked for advice it's best to be constructive. That really shouldn't be too difficult, but it appears it is.

[Gorefest]

I usually check with my wife first what kind of constructive advice she wants me to give her, just to be on the safe side.