amphibian, on 09 December 2012 - 10:01 PM, said:
Give her a few weeks. See if the crazy is too much to handle and make your decision accordingly.
Sometimes it just takes the right amount of maturation and personal growth to make the crazy past recede into the past, instead of it staying in the present. However, be aware that you may not be meeting her at that stage in her life. It'd be nice, but it's not definite.
D, on 10 December 2012 - 03:41 AM, said:
IMO, you just have to be sure that she is what you want. Nothing wrong with having a crazy relationship or a very random and enthusiastic significant other, as long as that is what you want. Furthermore, an emotionally unstable significant other does not necessarily equate to an unstable relationship. You just have to do some navel-gazing and ensure that she is what you want, and likewise she needs to do the same. Maybe she has gotten past her scars on her own and is looking for a new start, or maybe she wants you to help her get past them. As long as you are both honest to each other about what you want and it doesn't turn either of you away, you can be happy. With that said, go for it!
BalrogLord, on 10 December 2012 - 05:22 AM, said:
Just because someone has baggage, does not mean they fling that baggage onto their partner in a relationship. I was talking to one of my friends recently about a similar situation. Girl he met, they both thought it was going to be a short term relationship. She used to be a high level athlete then got several concussions, she can't even ski anymore. So naturally she has baggage, but she doesn't impose any of it on him, and he is not resentful about it. Guess what they are now in a long term relationship and have been for some time. I'd say go for it man.
I totally agree with all of the above. The only thing I want to add is a rehash of amph's reply and a caveat to Drek's comment on maybe your bird wants to move on: the fact that she was gunning for your pants is in my experience an indicator that she hasn't left the baggage behind. For a lot of women (in particular the unstable, non-confident ones) sex is a confidence booster and gives you lots of immediate male attention that works as temporal relief for the lack in confidence and emotional issues because it makes them feel better about themselves (more loved, more attractive etc). In the long run, it's the wrong kind of attention they need to get over whatever it is they struggle with. The "healing" needs to come from them first before you can do anything about it.
In the end, it's your call. But don't mess around with an already disturbed, hence vulnerable person. It's not a nice thing to do.
This post has been edited by Miss Savage: 10 December 2012 - 10:19 AM