[Traveller]

QuickTidal, on 09 October 2018 - 12:37 PM, said:

Sorting out who will come and look after our daughter when my wife goes into labour (Friday is due date) and how she will deal with that person is stressing both of us out.

Most of my family, and my wife's family either live far away (and thus cannot make it to look after her in time for us to go to the hospital) or cannot come (her mother is terminally ill, and her father is the main caregiver)...and as such my daughter has seen all of these people only a handful of times in her life...and her reaction to "strangers" (even my mother, for example) is to cringe away and cry, not talk ect. Even at family gatherings she only warms up to family after an hour or so. So we are worried that whoever comes is going to have a hell of a time managing her, especially if they have to pick her up from daycare, or they are what she wakes up to after sleep (if we go to hospital in the middle of the night).

She can be very obstinate...AND is in her "terrible" twos. So she's extra cranky these days.

I realize I should not worry about this, nor should my wife as no matter which family member comes to watch her (probably my wife's godparents who are retired and she knows DECENTLY well), she will be well looked after and we should focus on the birth.

Anyways, I'm sure it will work out. We are just getting so close to the birth (we had two touch and go days on the weekend where she thought she MIGHT be in labour and has been having pre-labour signs for a few days) that it's causing me extra stress.

Hope you can sort some friends or family to help out - there's already enough on your mind I expect. Try not to stress over her, I'm sure she'll be ok for a short time. Best of luck to you all over the next week, QT, hope all goes well.

[Tiste Simeon]

QuickTidal, on 09 October 2018 - 12:37 PM, said:

Sorting out who will come and look after our daughter when my wife goes into labour (Friday is due date) and how she will deal with that person is stressing both of us out.

Most of my family, and my wife's family either live far away (and thus cannot make it to look after her in time for us to go to the hospital) or cannot come (her mother is terminally ill, and her father is the main caregiver)...and as such my daughter has seen all of these people only a handful of times in her life...and her reaction to "strangers" (even my mother, for example) is to cringe away and cry, not talk ect. Even at family gatherings she only warms up to family after an hour or so. So we are worried that whoever comes is going to have a hell of a time managing her, especially if they have to pick her up from daycare, or they are what she wakes up to after sleep (if we go to hospital in the middle of the night).

She can be very obstinate...AND is in her "terrible" twos. So she's extra cranky these days.

I realize I should not worry about this, nor should my wife as no matter which family member comes to watch her (probably my wife's godparents who are retired and she knows DECENTLY well), she will be well looked after and we should focus on the birth.

Anyways, I'm sure it will work out. We are just getting so close to the birth (we had two touch and go days on the weekend where she thought she MIGHT be in labour and has been having pre-labour signs for a few days) that it's causing me extra stress.

We'll all take shifts looking after her! Abyss first as he lives closer but I'll fly over for a bit.

[Puck]

Lady Bliss, on 08 October 2018 - 05:05 PM, said:

Andorion, on 08 October 2018 - 04:50 PM, said:

Lady Bliss, on 08 October 2018 - 04:24 PM, said:

I was hit by a train last week and broke fingers in both hands. This sucks it hurts a lot I'm bored and typing with my thumb.

My first reaction is that you got off lightly, considering it was a train, but seriously, a train?

I was running for it and it was taking off. Both my hands got hit. You are right, I very much realize I could have dirf

I'm trying to work out the logistics of that in my mind.. but seriously, I hope you heall well and ir doesn't take too long, Bliss. All the best to you!



My groove is also being messed by train related issues, though by far not as bad. Picture this: the train I take to work managed not only to be late today (that's standard), but then proceeded to just stand there for a solid half an hour for no good (explained) reasons. Then it was like normal for two stops before the announcement came that it's not going any further today. Fine. Naturally, ALL the passangers at once decided to run for the only other train that goes straight to the same city, which was already standing there about to depart... Stupid as I am (I COULD'VE taken a bit of a roundabout trip and, in hindsight, gotten to work only about 15 minutes later, seeing as I was already going to be an hour late), I decided to run for it, got myself winded in the cold October morning air (yay asthma), then had to stand for 40 minutes sandwiched like a sardine between all the dickheads who can't think far enough to put their backpacks on the floor. Had trouble breathing for all that time, got weird lookd for rying to do breathing exercises, and couldn't get to my asthma spray because I DID actually put my backback on the floor between my feet. Assholes. People also seem to magically turn stupid when on packed trains here because EVERYONE wants to stand by the door, even if they're going to the last stop of the line anyway.

You think I'm doen yet? Nope!

AFTER work, my bus was late, so I missed my train, and behold, the next TWO trains were cancelled because of "persons on the rail tracks", which usually is code for "someone jumped in front of the train". I don't know why the main train station is such a popular spot for that.

I'm still short of breath and coughing from my morning adventure. Sigh.

Also, our heating doesn't work. And my mom is shit at the simplest paperwork and I'm sick of managing it for her. While making dinner while mom sits around reading. Come on, at least cut the damn salad.

...yeah, I've not been getting much sleep these past days.

/rant

[Andorion]

Puck, on 09 October 2018 - 10:57 PM, said:

Lady Bliss, on 08 October 2018 - 05:05 PM, said:

Andorion, on 08 October 2018 - 04:50 PM, said:

Lady Bliss, on 08 October 2018 - 04:24 PM, said:

I was hit by a train last week and broke fingers in both hands. This sucks it hurts a lot I'm bored and typing with my thumb.

My first reaction is that you got off lightly, considering it was a train, but seriously, a train?

I was running for it and it was taking off. Both my hands got hit. You are right, I very much realize I could have dirf

I'm trying to work out the logistics of that in my mind.. but seriously, I hope you heall well and ir doesn't take too long, Bliss. All the best to you!



My groove is also being messed by train related issues, though by far not as bad. Picture this: the train I take to work managed not only to be late today (that's standard), but then proceeded to just stand there for a solid half an hour for no good (explained) reasons. Then it was like normal for two stops before the announcement came that it's not going any further today. Fine. Naturally, ALL the passangers at once decided to run for the only other train that goes straight to the same city, which was already standing there about to depart... Stupid as I am (I COULD'VE taken a bit of a roundabout trip and, in hindsight, gotten to work only about 15 minutes later, seeing as I was already going to be an hour late), I decided to run for it, got myself winded in the cold October morning air (yay asthma), then had to stand for 40 minutes sandwiched like a sardine between all the dickheads who can't think far enough to put their backpacks on the floor. Had trouble breathing for all that time, got weird lookd for rying to do breathing exercises, and couldn't get to my asthma spray because I DID actually put my backback on the floor between my feet. Assholes. People also seem to magically turn stupid when on packed trains here because EVERYONE wants to stand by the door, even if they're going to the last stop of the line anyway.

You think I'm doen yet? Nope!

AFTER work, my bus was late, so I missed my train, and behold, the next TWO trains were cancelled because of "persons on the rail tracks", which usually is code for "someone jumped in front of the train". I don't know why the main train station is such a popular spot for that.

I'm still short of breath and coughing from my morning adventure. Sigh.

Also, our heating doesn't work. And my mom is shit at the simplest paperwork and I'm sick of managing it for her. While making dinner while mom sits around reading. Come on, at least cut the damn salad.

...yeah, I've not been getting much sleep these past days.

/rant

I can relate to literally everything that both Puck and LB said - delayed trains, people jumping on the tracks, running for trains, ultra crowded trains, moronic commuters... ugh commutes suck all the joy out of life.

[Abyss]

Tiste Simeon, on 09 October 2018 - 10:40 PM, said:

QuickTidal, on 09 October 2018 - 12:37 PM, said:

Sorting out who will come and look after our daughter when my wife goes into labour (Friday is due date) and how she will deal with that person is stressing both of us out.

Most of my family, and my wife's family either live far away (and thus cannot make it to look after her in time for us to go to the hospital) or cannot come (her mother is terminally ill, and her father is the main caregiver)...and as such my daughter has seen all of these people only a handful of times in her life...and her reaction to "strangers" (even my mother, for example) is to cringe away and cry, not talk ect. Even at family gatherings she only warms up to family after an hour or so. So we are worried that whoever comes is going to have a hell of a time managing her, especially if they have to pick her up from daycare, or they are what she wakes up to after sleep (if we go to hospital in the middle of the night).

She can be very obstinate...AND is in her "terrible" twos. So she's extra cranky these days.

I realize I should not worry about this, nor should my wife as no matter which family member comes to watch her (probably my wife's godparents who are retired and she knows DECENTLY well), she will be well looked after and we should focus on the birth.

Anyways, I'm sure it will work out. We are just getting so close to the birth (we had two touch and go days on the weekend where she thought she MIGHT be in labour and has been having pre-labour signs for a few days) that it's causing me extra stress.

We'll all take shifts looking after her! Abyss first as he lives closer but I'll fly over for a bit.

Sure, no problem....she’s already had basic close combat and knife training, right? ...no known allergies to cordite, sodium pentathol, or llamas?

[King Lear]

Insomnia, boredom, and what happened to chat?

[Macros]

Chat crapped out a long time ago.
And it got so little use it wasn't worth paying for to fix and or renew afaik.

Welcome back KL, I assume you have spent your time away binge watching Nicolas Cage movies

[Cause]

My colleague is an absolute Bitch. I honestly cant understand her.

She was demonstrating a technique today that I wanted to learn. I asked if I could observe. She sent me an email at 9:32 to tell me to come observe, I decided to go early because I didn't want to keep her waiting and I now from past experience if I am one second late (even if its because she didn't bother to tell me when she wants to start) she will just start without me. I got into the room at 9:37 and she was midway through the demonstration and by 9:38 the demonstration was over. She didn't even acknowledge I had entered the room.

Does she not like me? Is it a weird power play? I have no idea. She is supposed to be my supervisor but never has any interest in training me, discussing my ideas or helping me troubleshoot techniques which are new to me but not to her.

[Grief]

King Lear, on 10 October 2018 - 06:34 AM, said:

Insomnia, boredom, and what happened to chat?

We might be able to bring it back if there's some demand. I think that it was free unless you wanted more than 5 people or something? Idk but shout at one of the more active admin

[Silencer]

Grief, on 11 October 2018 - 08:30 PM, said:

King Lear, on 10 October 2018 - 06:34 AM, said:

Insomnia, boredom, and what happened to chat?

We might be able to bring it back if there's some demand. I think that it was free unless you wanted more than 5 people or something? Idk but shout at one of the more active admin

Unfortunately the actual issue is that IPS discontinued the chat module. The "turned the servers off, it's gone forever" kind of discontinued. So even if we wanted it back, we can't.

We would need a third party solution and for all three people who ever actually used the chat with any frequency....yeah, not likely to happen, sadly.

[TheRetiredBridgeburner]

Cause, on 11 October 2018 - 07:56 AM, said:

My colleague is an absolute Bitch. I honestly cant understand her.

She was demonstrating a technique today that I wanted to learn. I asked if I could observe. She sent me an email at 9:32 to tell me to come observe, I decided to go early because I didn't want to keep her waiting and I now from past experience if I am one second late (even if its because she didn't bother to tell me when she wants to start) she will just start without me. I got into the room at 9:37 and she was midway through the demonstration and by 9:38 the demonstration was over. She didn't even acknowledge I had entered the room.

Does she not like me? Is it a weird power play? I have no idea. She is supposed to be my supervisor but never has any interest in training me, discussing my ideas or helping me troubleshoot techniques which are new to me but not to her.

Whatever her reasons, it's unprofessional and not the sort of behaviour you should expect from a supervisor.

[Gorefest]

Or maybe she considers these specific skills a vital part of her role and she is worried that if she trains others, she makes herself obsolete or jeopardazies her own position?

[Gintokian]

So I finally have my review scheduled at work, for this coming Wednesday, with (hopefully) a discussion about salary increase. I mentioned a little while ago on here that I recently took on nearly double my workload, as the accounting clerk was moved to reception and I got his entire workload added to mine.
So now I need to figure out how much I should ask for. In an ideal world since I took over my coworkers job I should get the amount of his salary added to mine, obviously that's not going to happen.
The company's also really struggling right now so I don't wanna look like a huge prick by asking for too much, granted a did take a pay cut last year (while the partners kept on spending lots on meals and drinks).
I think I have a lot of ammunition for a good raise but I don't know how much I'll be able to get.
A little stressed trying to figure this all out.

[Abyss]

Gintokian, on 12 October 2018 - 05:22 PM, said:

So I finally have my review scheduled at work, for this coming Wednesday, with (hopefully) a discussion about salary increase. I mentioned a little while ago on here that I recently took on nearly double my workload, as the accounting clerk was moved to reception and I got his entire workload added to mine.
So now I need to figure out how much I should ask for. In an ideal world since I took over my coworkers job I should get the amount of his salary added to mine, obviously that's not going to happen.
The company's also really struggling right now so I don't wanna look like a huge prick by asking for too much, granted a did take a pay cut last year (while the partners kept on spending lots on meals and drinks).
I think I have a lot of ammunition for a good raise but I don't know how much I'll be able to get.
A little stressed trying to figure this all out.

'I'm doing all of his work, he was paid X, so my raise should be at least 50% of X but because i'm not greedy i'll accept 35% which is reasonablyreflective of an individual doing the type of work and hours i am currently delivering, at my superior level or performance. Also, i want a company car, excessive benefits, generous stock options, and a personal needs staff of illegal immigrants with no morals, ethics, or legal recourse.'


...and settle for 25%.

[Gintokian]

Abyss, on 12 October 2018 - 05:35 PM, said:

Gintokian, on 12 October 2018 - 05:22 PM, said:

So I finally have my review scheduled at work, for this coming Wednesday, with (hopefully) a discussion about salary increase. I mentioned a little while ago on here that I recently took on nearly double my workload, as the accounting clerk was moved to reception and I got his entire workload added to mine.
So now I need to figure out how much I should ask for. In an ideal world since I took over my coworkers job I should get the amount of his salary added to mine, obviously that's not going to happen.
The company's also really struggling right now so I don't wanna look like a huge prick by asking for too much, granted a did take a pay cut last year (while the partners kept on spending lots on meals and drinks).
I think I have a lot of ammunition for a good raise but I don't know how much I'll be able to get.
A little stressed trying to figure this all out.

'I'm doing all of his work, he was paid X, so my raise should be at least 50% of X but because i'm not greedy i'll accept 35% which is reasonably reflective of an individual doing the type of work and hours i am currently delivering, at my superior level or performance. Also, i want a company car, excessive benefits, generous stock options, and a personal needs staff of illegal immigrants with no morals, ethics, or legal recourse.'


...and settle for 25%.

hm, I already have a car, but the illegal immigrants could come in handy... I have many "tasks" that need completing.

I was thinking of asking for 40% but maybe 35 is better to start, I'm definitely asking for another week of vacation though, two weeks is nothing.

[Macros]

2 weeks vacation is a joke.

[Gintokian]

Macros, on 12 October 2018 - 06:09 PM, said:

2 weeks vacation is a joke.

Fuck me I know. My brother just got 4 weeks vacation on a 1 year contract, in an industry he just started in.
I had 4 weeks before too, when I saw I was getting two weeks at this job I was pissed.

[King Lear]

Macros, on 10 October 2018 - 08:33 AM, said:

Chat crapped out a long time ago.
And it got so little use it wasn't worth paying for to fix and or renew afaik.

Welcome back KL, I assume you have spent your time away binge watching Nicolas Cage movies

There may have been some Cage, how did you know?

Grief, on 11 October 2018 - 08:30 PM, said:

King Lear, on 10 October 2018 - 06:34 AM, said:

Insomnia, boredom, and what happened to chat?

We might be able to bring it back if there's some demand. I think that it was free unless you wanted more than 5 people or something? Idk but shout at one of the more active admin

Not you apparently

Nice to know you're still alive though

Silencer, on 11 October 2018 - 11:26 PM, said:

Grief, on 11 October 2018 - 08:30 PM, said:

King Lear, on 10 October 2018 - 06:34 AM, said:

Insomnia, boredom, and what happened to chat?

We might be able to bring it back if there's some demand. I think that it was free unless you wanted more than 5 people or something? Idk but shout at one of the more active admin

Unfortunately the actual issue is that IPS discontinued the chat module. The "turned the servers off, it's gone forever" kind of discontinued. So even if we wanted it back, we can't.

We would need a third party solution and for all three people who ever actually used the chat with any frequency....yeah, not likely to happen, sadly.

Boooooo I disagree with all this. No sitting in chat on my own for me (who are the other two people lol)

I'll just have to stick to getting drunk and badgering people on fb when it's 4am their time

[Macros]

standard holidays are like 4/5 weeks paid vacation? (I think, I've been self employed for years)

[Gintokian]

Macros, on 12 October 2018 - 08:07 PM, said:

standard holidays are like 4/5 weeks paid vacation? (I think, I've been self employed for years)

sigh, it's a little different in North America. In Canada it's minimum 2 weeks paid vacation plus statutory holidays. Depends on the profession as well and the company, some give more.
I think my mom get's 4 or 5 weeks vacation but she's been at the same job for over 20 years and is almost 60 years old.

I also get 5 whole sick days which I used in February when I had the flu and have been trying not to get sick ever since...