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What's messing with your groove?

#25121 User is offline   QuickTidal 

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Posted 09 November 2018 - 02:47 PM

View PostAndorion, on 09 November 2018 - 07:40 AM, said:

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View PostAndorion, on 08 November 2018 - 11:38 AM, said:

My mother cut her finger open so badly that she needed stitches.

How? She forgot she was cutting vegetables, while cutting vegetables.


As long as she didn't forget WHY she was cutting them, then her memory and mind are fine (we all get into a groove sometimes and forget what we are doing).

I hope she's okay though man!


Yeah she is ok, She tried to lift heavy bags with that same hand today. I swear she is like a hyperactive 5 year old sometimes.

The memory issues are not bad yet. At the moment its mostly misplacing things.


As someone who's wife is in the health industry dealing with cognition and things like memory in older people, misplacing things is perfectly normal as we age.

She says the thing you need to watch out for is not "I forgot that I put a pot on the stove to boil", but rather "Why did I put that pot on the stove to boil"

Glad she's okay though.
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#25122 User is offline   Andorion 

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Posted 09 November 2018 - 05:37 PM

View PostQuickTidal, on 09 November 2018 - 02:47 PM, said:

View PostAndorion, on 09 November 2018 - 07:40 AM, said:

View PostQuickTidal, on 08 November 2018 - 02:15 PM, said:

View PostAndorion, on 08 November 2018 - 11:38 AM, said:

My mother cut her finger open so badly that she needed stitches.

How? She forgot she was cutting vegetables, while cutting vegetables.


As long as she didn't forget WHY she was cutting them, then her memory and mind are fine (we all get into a groove sometimes and forget what we are doing).

I hope she's okay though man!


Yeah she is ok, She tried to lift heavy bags with that same hand today. I swear she is like a hyperactive 5 year old sometimes.

The memory issues are not bad yet. At the moment its mostly misplacing things.


As someone who's wife is in the health industry dealing with cognition and things like memory in older people, misplacing things is perfectly normal as we age.

She says the thing you need to watch out for is not "I forgot that I put a pot on the stove to boil", but rather "Why did I put that pot on the stove to boil"

Glad she's okay though.


The thing with my mother is that she is a workaholic. She will work 12 hours at her school (she is teaching, plus in a supervisory admin role, like a vice principal) then come home exhausted and repeat. She does not take vacation days or sick days, prides herself on regularity and punctuality, and will literally give everything to the task at hand. What I worry about is what will happen when she retires in a few years. That sudden slump will definitely take a toll on her mind.
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Posted 09 November 2018 - 05:45 PM

Thats' what my dad was like, and when he retired he made sure to have a slew of little projects to do...and he did them one at a time. And as he did them, he learned to relax and take more breaks. 3 years past retirement and he's no longer doing things 24/7. I think it just takes time to ease out of a life like that, you know?
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Posted 09 November 2018 - 06:50 PM

View PostAndorion, on 09 November 2018 - 05:37 PM, said:

View PostQuickTidal, on 09 November 2018 - 02:47 PM, said:

As someone who's wife is in the health industry dealing with cognition and things like memory in older people, misplacing things is perfectly normal as we age.

She says the thing you need to watch out for is not "I forgot that I put a pot on the stove to boil", but rather "Why did I put that pot on the stove to boil"

Glad she's okay though.


The thing with my mother is that she is a workaholic. She will work 12 hours at her school (she is teaching, plus in a supervisory admin role, like a vice principal) then come home exhausted and repeat. She does not take vacation days or sick days, prides herself on regularity and punctuality, and will literally give everything to the task at hand. What I worry about is what will happen when she retires in a few years. That sudden slump will definitely take a toll on her mind.


By that stage you and Mrs Ando will have a horde of little Andos, so ... free babysitting! :p

On a more serious note, she might be interested in volunteering.

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Posted 10 November 2018 - 07:42 AM

I don't know, I kind of like the sound of lardtard.
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Posted 10 November 2018 - 08:31 AM

It's Norsk for "large penis" or something like that, isn't it?
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Posted 12 November 2018 - 11:41 AM

We had a sexual harassment awareness sensitization seminar at work today and it kind of left a bad taste in my mouth.

Both the speakers (both women) seemed to very defensive about the theme, they kept on repeating that the men in the audience should not feel like they are being targeted, how everyone is "friends" that men also face sexual harassment - and then they asserted that mostly effeminate or gay men get harassed. This just felt wrong and inaccurate.

Then one of the speakers said how once while she was part of an investigating committee into a case of workplace sexual harassment, she wanted the accuser to recreate or roleplay the incident and her memory was not good enough to do that, which cast doubt on her testimony.
I am pretty sure people who experience trauma tend to block things out. How can she be expected recall everything accurately?
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Posted 12 November 2018 - 11:51 AM

View PostAndorion, on 12 November 2018 - 11:41 AM, said:

Then one of the speakers said how once while she was part of an investigating committee into a case of workplace sexual harassment, she wanted the accuser to recreate or roleplay the incident and her memory was not good enough to do that, which cast doubt on her testimony.
I am pretty sure people who experience trauma tend to block things out. How can she be expected recall everything accurately?



That part in particular really rings alarm bells. It's perpetuating some quite dangerous ideas.
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Posted 12 November 2018 - 12:04 PM

View PostTheRetiredBridgeburner, on 12 November 2018 - 11:51 AM, said:

View PostAndorion, on 12 November 2018 - 11:41 AM, said:

Then one of the speakers said how once while she was part of an investigating committee into a case of workplace sexual harassment, she wanted the accuser to recreate or roleplay the incident and her memory was not good enough to do that, which cast doubt on her testimony.
I am pretty sure people who experience trauma tend to block things out. How can she be expected recall everything accurately?



That part in particular really rings alarm bells. It's perpetuating some quite dangerous ideas.


Yeah, someone called her out on that, and then someone spoke about Dissociative Amnesia and how people can and do totally block things out.
But she stuck to her guns and said that recreating the scene of the crime is a crucial part of any police investigation. Somehow I doubt if that just applies in a blanket way to all cases.
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Posted 12 November 2018 - 12:22 PM

Umm essential part to the police investigation? If we were to do something like recreate a scene it most certainly wouldn't be with a victim. Yes we want the victim to speak of what happened and that can be traumatic but flipping heck what she's talking about is a bit Hollywood tbh...
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Posted 12 November 2018 - 12:26 PM

View PostTiste Simeon, on 12 November 2018 - 12:22 PM, said:

Umm essential part to the police investigation? If we were to do something like recreate a scene it most certainly wouldn't be with a victim. Yes we want the victim to speak of what happened and that can be traumatic but flipping heck what she's talking about is a bit Hollywood tbh...


Yeah, that's what I thought as well
Like, are you going to make an assault victim act out the assault again? That's insane.

As I understand it, recreating a crime scene means reconstructing what happened where and when through witness testimony and forensic evidence, not have a roleplay... Also this speaker is a veteran lawyer.
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Posted 12 November 2018 - 02:12 PM

My countries deputy president David Mbuza is in Russia on sick leave. When asked how ill he was his spokesperson replied it was mishevious to assume because he is on sick leave he is unwell. Instead we are told that he is receiving further treatment for a past poisoning incident. He apparently received life saving treatment in Russia in 2015 for being poisoned. No one knows what poison, when he was poisoned etc.

Supposedly the former president was also once poisoned and needed to seek treatment in Russia. Again the public was never told what poison, who poisoned him or why only Russia seems to have the treatment.

There is also this whole shady nuclear deal thing where our former president and allies like david Mbuza tried to strong arm every branch of government to illegally sign off on an over 1 trillion rand deal (about 1 years entire tax revenue) to pay Russia to build us nuclear power plants we don't need. Its all so incredibly fishy.
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Posted 12 November 2018 - 07:10 PM

RIP Stan lee.


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Posted 12 November 2018 - 08:18 PM

Shit that's a big one
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Posted 12 November 2018 - 09:35 PM

Got halfway through emptying the dishwasher before I realised it hadn't been on. I salvaged most bits and put them back in but there are now some pot luck items in the cupboards. I hate dishwasher duty so doing the same stuff twice makes me mad.
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Posted 13 November 2018 - 03:03 AM

Stomach is gone. Shit.
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Posted 13 November 2018 - 03:14 AM

View PostAndorion, on 13 November 2018 - 03:03 AM, said:

Stomach is gone. Shit.



View PostBriar King, on 13 November 2018 - 03:13 AM, said:

Then you should probably look into getting a new one.


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Posted 13 November 2018 - 03:10 PM

View PostMezla PigDog, on 12 November 2018 - 09:35 PM, said:

Got halfway through emptying the dishwasher before I realised it hadn't been on. I salvaged most bits and put them back in but there are now some pot luck items in the cupboards. I hate dishwasher duty so doing the same stuff twice makes me mad.


I did it again! I even had my morning cup of tea from a mug that had not been washed before I realised.

*Checking upthread for that advice on memory loss*

Also need to fix the bout of insomnia I'm suffering with. First afternoon without caffeine in a looooong time. I've come out the other side of a major work deadline and seem unable to decompress. It's not like me, decompression is typically something I am very good at.
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Posted 13 November 2018 - 05:27 PM

The lack of sleep and dealing with the disruption of the work-pressured routine seem like bigger issues than the dishes. But it's your experience and life.

What's messing with my groove is that I can't seem to fully get across to my partner that I don't want to sit on the couch for three days during the upcoming holiday break with her visiting from London UK cousins or go outlet mall shopping the other bits of time with them. I'm also heavily isolated by the way they all talk with each other bc they talk over each other and frequently look down when talking (this is like a double dose of kryptonite for deaf people), so I end up bored to tears, unable to leave or read, and just endure the misery.

It's been days of this talk and she's not understanding. Furthermore, she thinks I hate them when I think that they're boring and my isolation last year with the same group is a terrible enough experience that I don't want to do it again.
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Posted 13 November 2018 - 07:05 PM

View Postamphibian, on 13 November 2018 - 05:27 PM, said:

The lack of sleep and dealing with the disruption of the work-pressured routine seem like bigger issues than the dishes. But it's your experience and life.


Pah. Lack of sleep and work pressure are eternal. Turning the dishwasher on once a day is something I really should have a grip on.

As to your problem - some people take having their partner with them at family gatherings as a given. I find it weird personally but my mum is one of those who drags her partner with her even though he doesn't want to. I think people see it as a status thing. Dig your heels in, cause as row, it's the holiday season after all.
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