[paran falcon]

Waiting for Irma to get to us, do what its going to do and get by already. The waiting gets to be the hardest to deal with. All preparations complete, nothing left to do to be ready as possible. F-ing sucks.

[TheRetiredBridgeburner]

Staring down the barrel of quitting with the bird of prey centre. It's such a shame when a small number being shit people spoils something that used to be so full of joy for everyone else.

[Mezla PigDog]

What happens during a woman's middle age that makes them want to tell you everything about their bowel movements? And their friends bowel movements? Actually I even know about my mums next-door neighbours bowel movements and I've never met her. I want to say that I will never do this but older people seem so into it that it may be inevitable.

[paran falcon]

TheRetiredBridgeburner, on 10 September 2017 - 03:09 PM, said:

Staring down the barrel of quitting with the bird of prey centre. It's such a shame when a small number being shit people spoils something that used to be so full of joy for everyone else.

I assume that means you get to be around birds of prey daily? That would certainly be a dream job for me, also! It would be awful to have other people make a situation so bad it would make you want to leave.

[TheRetiredBridgeburner]

paran falcon, on 10 September 2017 - 03:34 PM, said:

TheRetiredBridgeburner, on 10 September 2017 - 03:09 PM, said:

Staring down the barrel of quitting with the bird of prey centre. It's such a shame when a small number being shit people spoils something that used to be so full of joy for everyone else.

I assume that means you get to be around birds of prey daily? That would certainly be a dream job for me, also! It would be awful to have other people make a situation so bad it would make you want to leave.

Not every day, I've been volunteering there for just over a year at weekends. It's wonderful and the birds are fantastic, but the owners are awful - petty, jealous and insecure and they take it out on all their volunteers (yes, we're all volunteers giving up our spare time to be treated like utter crap).

[paran falcon]

TheRetiredBridgeburner, on 10 September 2017 - 04:09 PM, said:

paran falcon, on 10 September 2017 - 03:34 PM, said:

TheRetiredBridgeburner, on 10 September 2017 - 03:09 PM, said:

Staring down the barrel of quitting with the bird of prey centre. It's such a shame when a small number being shit people spoils something that used to be so full of joy for everyone else.

I assume that means you get to be around birds of prey daily? That would certainly be a dream job for me, also! It would be awful to have other people make a situation so bad it would make you want to leave.

Not every day, I've been volunteering there for just over a year at weekends. It's wonderful and the birds are fantastic, but the owners are awful - petty, jealous and insecure and they take it out on all their volunteers (yes, we're all volunteers giving up our spare time to be treated like utter crap).

Well that does suck. Definitely would ruin what should be a great experience for a bird of prey lover. Does the owners' attitude affect how the birds are taken care of?

[amphibian]

Nicodimas, on 10 September 2017 - 04:54 AM, said:

Man life is terribly disappointing losing your status and realizing (embracing) that shit life is out of your control at times. You bitch and complain, I figured shit out this year, probably more than ever. I withdrew myself a lot this year..healthy unhealthy /coin flip

One of my long lasting friends who I grew away from.. Cause he was solid in my married group of friends.. doing solid!

He decided to take his life I guess. That Mfo Csucker ahole dbag, we just hung out late May/June ? May seems like along time ago now I guess and went drinking and just just did they guy thing and hung out at the bar.. Didn't think it was that long.....looking back. Maybe it was

I was just thinking we went through Catholic school together... Then we earned life we very soon after we quit..later deciding as we went to college that eagle would have been a good thing to earn. We were oh too cool for all that.. Oh man that was so long ago now....we partied and you went on to do stand up comedy going pro for like a second, meeting your girl and settling back down to good solid career..

You got married and shit dude and got the girl you wanted..Have a house and good job.. You left her in the worse way imaginable.

This was how your wanted to be remembered ? On his note stated all extra money's should go to American suicide prevention association..that's it.

I hope at some point soon that your anger and hurt fades. Suicide and depression is a complex and painful thing to discover after the fact and even before. What things look like may not always be how they are.

I wish you and your friends better times ahead.

[paran falcon]

Honey Cups, on 10 September 2017 - 07:38 PM, said:

paran falcon, on 10 September 2017 - 02:21 PM, said:

Waiting for Irma to get to us, do what its going to do and get by already. The waiting gets to be the hardest to deal with. All preparations complete, nothing left to do to be ready as possible. F-ing sucks.

Atleast it's going quick unlike Harvey and it's day. It's no joke listening to these inside your house though esp at night. Freaky shit.

Today is the anniversary of Donna Cat 4 hit in 1960.

That's true, it won't sit on top of us. Not worried about flooding much as we're not right on the water. Just worried about my roof staying intact and not getting punctured by nearby oak trees. Looks like we're right in the path of the eye in a few hours. We rode out Charley in this house in '04 and suffered no damage. The house is 13 years older now though.

[Lisheo]

Being a depressing bastard and missing my ex slash one of my best friends terribly. That's getting me down. It's been 10 months, and I've dated other people since (hell, I've been seeing one person for a little while now), but after eight years of constant emailing and skyping regardless of what else was going on in our lives, whether we were seeing someone else or doing our on-off thing... Well, it's painful to talk to her with all that intimacy and closeness genuinely gone, but it's painful to not have her around, too.

This post has been edited by Lisheo: 11 September 2017 - 10:13 PM

[rhulad]

Lisheo, on 11 September 2017 - 10:11 PM, said:

Being a depressing bastard and missing my ex slash one of my best friends terribly. That's getting me down. It's been 10 months, and I've dated other people since (hell, I've been seeing one person for a little while now), but after eight years of constant emailing and skyping regardless of what else was going on in our lives, whether we were seeing someone else or doing our on-off thing... Well, it's painful to talk to her with all that intimacy and closeness genuinely gone, but it's painful to not have her around, too.

I know the feeling, my now (almost officially) ex-wife asked me for a divorce right around this time last year. We were together for almost 10 years, married for 6, It's been a struggle but slowly it's been getting better. All I can really tell you is to keep moving forward and try to look for all the positive things in your life. PM me if you want someone to talk to about it.

I'm getting a cold which is messing with my groove. Fuck colds.

This post has been edited by rhulad: 12 September 2017 - 03:33 AM

[Cause]

Nicodimas, on 10 September 2017 - 04:54 AM, said:

Man life is terribly disappointing losing your status and realizing (embracing) that shit life is out of your control at times. You bitch and complain, I figured shit out this year, probably more than ever. I withdrew myself a lot this year..healthy unhealthy /coin flip

One of my long lasting friends who I grew away from.. Cause he was solid in my married group of friends.. doing solid!

He decided to take his life I guess. That Mfo Csucker ahole dbag, we just hung out late May/June ? May seems like along time ago now I guess and went drinking and just just did they guy thing and hung out at the bar.. Didn't think it was that long.....looking back. Maybe it was

I was just thinking we went through Catholic school together... Then we earned life we very soon after we quit..later deciding as we went to college that eagle would have been a good thing to earn. We were oh too cool for all that.. Oh man that was so long ago now....we partied and you went on to do stand up comedy going pro for like a second, meeting your girl and settling back down to good solid career..

You got married and shit dude and got the girl you wanted..Have a house and good job.. You left her in the worse way imaginable.

This was how your wanted to be remembered ? On his note stated all extra money's should go to American suicide prevention association..that's it.

I have been here. For me, I eventually realized its just something I will never ben able to understand. Did I miss the signs? Were their any? Weren't things going well for him in the end? Could I have done more, said more, been more supportive? Sometime its life that makes them depressed, sometimes its a chemical imbalance. Sometimes once causes the other. You will never understand what he was thinking or going through, time will help you accept that. To this day I feel guilty for not helping him more, for not being a better friend and yet simultaneously I feel that I was not responsible. That might seem contradictory but I don't think so. I hope time helps you

[Tiste Simeon]

Hoo boy... Here goes...

So I am currently investigating a job whereby some worrying searches appeared on a guys work laptop. I seized the laptop and sent it to the digital investigation unit and yesterday I went to see the results so we could determine if there were any offences and what to do.

It was indecent sexual images of children. Pretty messed up. Those are some pictures that are going to stay with me.

In all honesty, while I felt sick and upset my main feeling is anger. I'm going to be working with detectives on the case and bring this dude down. Then once it's all over I may take the job up on the offer of some free counselling...

[LadyMTL]

Tiste Simeon, on 12 September 2017 - 10:59 AM, said:

Hoo boy... Here goes...

So I am currently investigating a job whereby some worrying searches appeared on a guys work laptop. I seized the laptop and sent it to the digital investigation unit and yesterday I went to see the results so we could determine if there were any offences and what to do.

It was indecent sexual images of children. Pretty messed up. Those are some pictures that are going to stay with me.

In all honesty, while I felt sick and upset my main feeling is anger. I'm going to be working with detectives on the case and bring this dude down. Then once it's all over I may take the job up on the offer of some free counselling...

Holy crap, that is horrible. I would definitely take up the offer of counselling, I can't even imagine what you're dealing with.
FWIW, be proud of the fact that you helped catch this guy; one less sick bastard to worry about.

[Tiste Simeon]

We've not got him yet. With things like this there are procedures in place and our CID will take the lead on it. We have to have all the technical reports in place and suchlike so we can bring all the evidence to him.

Honestly though this is why I joined. I feel like I'm doing some good in the midst of horrible situations.

Thank you though.

[Centzon Totochtin]

Tiste Simeon, on 12 September 2017 - 10:59 AM, said:

Hoo boy... Here goes...

So I am currently investigating a job whereby some worrying searches appeared on a guys work laptop. I seized the laptop and sent it to the digital investigation unit and yesterday I went to see the results so we could determine if there were any offences and what to do.

It was indecent sexual images of children. Pretty messed up. Those are some pictures that are going to stay with me.

In all honesty, while I felt sick and upset my main feeling is anger. I'm going to be working with detectives on the case and bring this dude down. Then once it's all over I may take the job up on the offer of some free counselling...

Counselling is definitely a good idea! Hope you get the guy! If the images haunt you, think of the people saved from the same fate by you and other like you doing their jobs, definitely not something all of us could do.

My groove has been having trouble sleeping for the past couple of weeks. Been super stressed about work and some personal decisions that I am putting off making, and when I get stressed nightmares come back - the type that are based in reality and you wake up like you are back in those terrible places. Usually takes me 5 - 10 minutes just to figure out what year it is and that it in't those times, if I don't have a panic attack. Not fun. On the plus side I have slammed through two seasons of Gotham in a week and a bit.

[Slow Ben]

Damn Tiste, I cant imagine having to see that stuff.

But good job getting the bad guy!

[Lady Bliss]

Tiste Simeon, on 12 September 2017 - 11:37 AM, said:

We've not got him yet. With things like this there are procedures in place and our CID will take the lead on it. We have to have all the technical reports in place and suchlike so we can bring all the evidence to him.

Honestly though this is why I joined. I feel like I'm doing some good in the midst of horrible situations.

Thank you though.

I'm not sure how quickly these things work in the U.K., but it's been over 3 years since I turned my ex in. He's finally going to a plea hearing next month.

You can never unsee those things, I swear the pictures are burned into my mind. It's horrible that any sick person could put children through that torture.

[Loki]

Tiste Simeon, on 12 September 2017 - 11:37 AM, said:

We've not got him yet. With things like this there are procedures in place and our CID will take the lead on it. We have to have all the technical reports in place and suchlike so we can bring all the evidence to him.

Honestly though this is why I joined. I feel like I'm doing some good in the midst of horrible situations.

Thank you though.

A part of my job before having my son involved monitoring Blue Card (working with children) holders. On more than one occasion I came across people who's entries felt off so I looked into them on a whim. Turns out that on more than one occassion people who had child sexual offenses were still working with children and possessed Blue Cards. One case was such a fuck up that it caused a major restructure of how the monitoring and reporting was implemented. The other times it was due to 'issues with merging the old systems into the new system' (like that was an excuse) but this particular time it was due to people doing the right thing via procedure but the procedure wasn't thorough enough and the minimum tasks involved left too many gaps for things to fall through. So no one did anything wrong - just a major system fail. I don't want to even think about how many others like that there were.

A part of the work I did also involved reading reports on people going to court for child related offenses. I have so many mental blocks in place just to stop myself from remembering and seeing those details.

Definitely take the counselling. Even if it doesn't feel like you need it. I didn't bother with it because I was fine then I had my son and it all came hitting back like a tsunami.

You're doing awesome work, Tiste.

[Cause]

Wow 3 people on this forum have had experiences with pedophiles! That is messing with my groove. Another reminder that its more common than you would like to think.

Fantastic that all of you managed to fight against them.

[Morgoth]

rhulad, on 12 September 2017 - 03:05 AM, said:

Lisheo, on 11 September 2017 - 10:11 PM, said:

Being a depressing bastard and missing my ex slash one of my best friends terribly. That's getting me down. It's been 10 months, and I've dated other people since (hell, I've been seeing one person for a little while now), but after eight years of constant emailing and skyping regardless of what else was going on in our lives, whether we were seeing someone else or doing our on-off thing... Well, it's painful to talk to her with all that intimacy and closeness genuinely gone, but it's painful to not have her around, too.

I know the feeling, my now (almost officially) ex-wife asked me for a divorce right around this time last year. We were together for almost 10 years, married for 6, It's been a struggle but slowly it's been getting better. All I can really tell you is to keep moving forward and try to look for all the positive things in your life. PM me if you want someone to talk to about it.

I'm getting a cold which is messing with my groove. Fuck colds.

Yeah, even three years (well, almost) after my divorce I still miss the intimacy of that relationship. Not her so much anymore, though it's still there too. It has been getting better though, a lot better. Just hang in there and don't do anything too stupid!