[Tremolo]

My gf wants us to buy an appartment together - which means I have to sell my newly bought appartment at a huge loss if I down't want two mortgages. And why does she want us to move in together? Because she wants a baby. Apparantly her biological clock is ticking well loud. After only 6 months relationship I am just not ready for all this!

Oh and then she wants to go on a romantic new years eve holiday somewhere in Europe at a low budget. Like that is gonna happen.

[Centzon Totochtin]

Flee!! Flee screaming and waving your hands in the air!

Or just nicely explain you aren't ready yet and you want to make sure you can buy a decent place together and not lose all your money in doing so

This post has been edited by Centzon Totochtin: 25 November 2010 - 09:40 AM

[Tsundoku]

@Tremmie
Yeah mate, at 6 months she should be made aware that she is still on probation, and shouldn't be naming the kids or picking out the table decorations just yet. Or more importantly, attempting to direct your major financial decisions.

Keep your place for a while as you suss her out at this "second stage" of the relationship. Go to Manky if you want to - it's your life to do with as you will. If she really cares for you she will understand that a few days away isn't the end of her world. Similarly, she has to understand that compromise does not equal her getting her way all the time (something I wish quite a few people would take to heart). There will be plenty of other chances for you to give ground soon enough.

This post has been edited by Sombra: 25 November 2010 - 09:49 AM

[Tremolo]

@Centz: Do you think Australia would accept me as a refugee?

@Sombra: You are ofcourse right. But I knew from the start that she was in a hurry and we agreed to give each other till christmas to find out if we wanted more. Apparantly that time is up and she is the planning kind of girl (Always with the calendar asking me for my plans on this and that day!). In short I just have to make my mind up. But her pushing me is making me panic.

Manchester is not gonna happen as I have made other plans now. :-(

[Tsundoku]

If you can demonstrate that being with her is like being repressed by a totalitarian regime, just jump on a boat in Indonesia and you're in like Flynn.

This is obviously bloody important to you, so I guess it's something you really have to ask yourself rather than anyone else. We can only help you perhaps think of things from a different angle, not make your decisions for you.

Things that come to mind: just because she is on a schedule, does that mean you have to be as well? Are you a "planner", or at least flexible enough to be with one? Is being with her so damn good you are willing to change your ways for her? I'm not trying to be smarmy, these are things you should be asking yourself. If the answer in each case is in her favour then I wish you all the bestest happiness in the world.

This post has been edited by Sombra: 25 November 2010 - 10:25 AM

[Centzon Totochtin]

If not, I think my fleeing idea is a good one



I fly home on Saturday and go back to work on Tuesday

[Ulrik]

Bross from one magazine I write for leaves...and new one will probably bring new faces. Damn.

[Tattersail_]

complete power hungry knob in work, jealous I go home early by 2 minutes. i get in 30 mminutes early every day. wtf is the problem?

i could do him in, but that wouldn't go down to well with work.

[Grimjust Bearegular]

Tremmie: Flee, you fool!

Why can't she just move into the apartment you already have?


On the other hand, me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 years and we still haven't bought a place together...didn't even move in together until three years into the relationship. And I thought that was a bit fast!!

[Mezla PigDog]

Tremolo, on 25 November 2010 - 10:12 AM, said:

@Sombra: You are ofcourse right. But I knew from the start that she was in a hurry and we agreed to give each other till christmas to find out if we wanted more. Apparantly that time is up and she is the planning kind of girl (Always with the calendar asking me for my plans on this and that day!). In short I just have to make my mind up. But her pushing me is making me panic.

How old is she if her biological clock is worrying her? I would apply the brakes gently. Surely the answer at christmas can be "I still really like you, I want to stay with you but I would prefer not to have a strict timeline for my life!" Life isn't really conducive to such planning. You can plan what you do on a daily basis but not when the major life decisions need to happen by.

[Tiste Simeon]

@Trem - surely you're not considering having a child out of wedlock?????

Messing with my groove - stupidly, I'm up a lot later then I wanted to be. Once again.
EDIT: Oh yeah and the flipping country has come to a standstill because its snowing...

This post has been edited by Tiste Simeon: 27 November 2010 - 12:11 AM

[Adjutant Stormy~]

@Trem:why doesn't she move in with you, at your place?

[HoosierDaddy]

I've broken a fucking toe.

[Tsundoku]

HoosierDaddy, on 27 November 2010 - 07:37 AM, said:

I've broken a fucking toe.

Dare one ask how? Pray tell good sir, was it on the fundament of some miscreant?

This post has been edited by Sombra: 27 November 2010 - 07:52 AM

[HoosierDaddy]

The sorry part is I'm not sure how. Could be a stress fracture or a buckle.

[Tsundoku]

HoosierDaddy, on 27 November 2010 - 07:55 AM, said:

The sorry part is I'm not sure how. Could be a stress fracture or a buckle.

... stick with my version.

[HoosierDaddy]

Not as believable in RL as me just running into shit is, though.

[Adjutant Stormy~]

I'd just say you were kicking too much ass, and leave it at that.

[Centzon Totochtin]

The 26 hours flying I am about to embark on

[tiam]

I have SW but cant read it
I can see me breath in my room its so cold
my flat mate who has black ops locked his door when he left for a house party so i cant get my COD fix