[Mezla PigDog]

TheRetiredBridgeburner, on 15 March 2023 - 10:38 AM, said:

Mezla PigDog, on 15 March 2023 - 07:36 AM, said:

Definitely.

Messing with my groove is that I am seriously feeling the pinch of parenting on my career development. It's extremely irritating. I have felt it over the last few years but it didn't bother me so much but now I'm getting frustrated. It boils down to not being able to travel a lot and speak at conferences and do extra work for professional associations. I guess it is bothering me now because previously the person who was utilising my work to build their name was a woman senior to me who was very generous with my work / life balance in return and always made sure I got the credit I was due. She left the business and has been replaced by a man who is dumping all the work on me, sucking up my knowledge and experience and making it his own externally. I can't not let him have access to my work as it would be unprofessional but I am seriously tempted to start being a bitch.

I need to keep sucking it up until my son is a bit older but it's so frustrating.

A friend of mine has hit this point with her job too. Their first child was 2 yesterday and they are trying to plan timing wise for a second. She's a solicitor and last time we talked I think she's considering leaving law altogether because she feels so punished for having a family in terms of current progression and likelihood of it in future. Success seems to be measured by having no life outside of work and the hours you work reflecting such. Another left academia altogether because she said there was no point trying to remain in it once she'd had two rounds of maternity leave when all they'll do is pay fresh PHD students less than her to do the role. I've really had my eyes opened the last few years by friends with children to just how punitive having a family can be on a career, I confess I wildly underestimated it.

I really hope you can find a solution where you get the credit you deserve (and curse his name in as many tongues as possible in the meantime!).

Advice I would give to your friends: The one who is a solicitor - have the second baby whenever she wants and ride out any shitty behaviour by the current employer, so long as it is tolerable, milk them for maternity leave pay etc. Then move on when the kids are at a more manageable age if the company hasn't improved it's approach. My son is 7 soon and I can see it on the horizon. Two years old is nothing - she is in survival territory right now and just has to keep her head above water. She may have to wait longer if she has more than one kid though.

The friend who got out of academia did the right thing. There are not many sectors for people with significant volumes of qualifications that treat women with kids worse.

I have to say that I am lucky. My company is really good to me in terms of internal progression. I've been promoted twice since maternity leave. I'm thinking of my next career step outside this company and if I don't improve my external profile, I won't get as big a step as I could. It's irritating watching mostly men swanning around the speaking circuit and knowing they probably have a woman at home holding the fort with the kids and they don't need to give a second thought to the career advantage they have. Mr PigDog does his fair share but I'd have to be away overnight a few times a month and working weekends and evenings more often to keep up. And I consider myself lucky!!

[TheRetiredBridgeburner]

Thanks for the input, I appreciate it - I'm in neither industry nor children orientated so I never feel able to do anything other than listen and do generic tea and sympathy, I'm certainly not equipped with useful advice! I think it's that longer wait because of the second child that's worrying the solicitor.

I'm glad there are some positives with your employer though, even if none of them solve the extenral profile issue. Relative luck aside, you have my best wishes regardless

[Cause]

Why do companies offer voluntary paid off? Am I evil if I would just prefer more PTO?

What benefit does the company have in allowing employees to take time off but make them have to be volunteering at a pet shelter, soup kitchen etc. Does the company get to partiallly write off the PTO as charity? If your pasxsioante about volunteering you can use your PTO and if you are a family man you can spend it with family or if the ebach is your thing do that.

Random thought that perplexes me and no where better to ask it

[Azath Vitr (D'ivers]

Cause, on 16 March 2023 - 06:10 PM, said:

Why do companies offer voluntary paid off? Am I evil if I would just prefer more PTO?

What benefit does the company have in allowing employees to take time off but make them have to be volunteering at a pet shelter, soup kitchen etc. Does the company get to partiallly write off the PTO as charity? If your pasxsioante about volunteering you can use your PTO and if you are a family man you can spend it with family or if the ebach is your thing do that.

Random thought that perplexes me and no where better to ask it

1. To pretend they're not evil (and sometimes to vie for lucrative government contracts or allowances...).

Pretty sure I read an article about 'charitable "volunteer" work' by one of the major investment banks in New York being nothing more than a photo-op and socializing. Took a photo of them 'doing the work' but then they didn't do the work.

But if it's any consolation:




#TeamSkynet

2. To remind their workers of how terrible it can be to be poor.

[Lady Bliss]

I always felt that it was to encourage volunteer work by stating that “hey, it’s not going to cost you your vacation days to perform charity”

[Tiste Simeon]

Lance Reddick died, dang

[Puck]

I need new/better friends (only being half serious here). Been itching to go out to live shows and stuff again after three years and no one wants to come along, even the people who have been just as eager as me the whole time. It's just.. going alone feels weird, more because I'm not exactly a social butterfly and also awfully awkward rather than that I don't like going to places alone. Is it weird to go alone? Am I stupid? I can't anymore with sitting at home alone, I need me some good al' loud, ear-bashing live metal gig.

I had to ditch my one friend who could be relied upon to come along to gigs because she turned out to be antivaxx und just kept getting crazier.

I guess I just feel super lonely because the last couple shows I went to I had to go alone and I feel like a loser, lol.

[Whisperzzzzzzz]

Regarding Lance Reddick: Fuck!

This post has been edited by Whisperzzzzzzz: 17 March 2023 - 09:49 PM

[Cause]

Interviews seem to be going well, but they just keep dragging on and on. So many stages.

I think I may get one offer this week, which I am excited for. Was half expecting to get the offer today but instead they said they will make a decision in the next few days and asked me if I have a travel visa to visit them for training if I got the job. This sounds good but also left me kind of worried. I mean I guess they were not gonna meet over the weekend to make a decision so I may have just been expecting too much. However when HR said to me on Friday after a quick meeting they organized for me to meet the one person who missed the panel interview that she would call me next week I may have gotten a little too overconfident.

[Dolmen 2.0]

Tiste Simeon, on 17 March 2023 - 08:52 PM, said:

Lance Reddick died, dang

Man, this stings. I've always been fond of his acting work but only really paid attention to his voice acting career in 2022 carrying over into this year. He was an amazing talent. MHSRIP

[QuickTidal]

Lance Reddicks death has hit me like a tonne of bricks. As a Destiny player since D1, Zavala has been in my ear giving me missions, hope, and glory for a decade. Losing him has been exceptionally heartbreaking…the outpouring of fhe gaming community at large on social media has made me weep.

I’m on vacation now, but am home in two days. I’ll do my vigil at the Tower when I get home.

[Cause]

I hate how much cognitive energy I expend in the USA on simple tasks. Everything is more complicated than it needs to be. I have a 25 dollar credit on Uber eats which I was going to use to get sushi from a nearby place I know well. It struck me that the price was way too high. So I double check and sure enough.

Restuarant price - 25.95
Grubhub - N/A
Doordash - 28.55
Uber Eats - 34.55 (Outrageous)

Than there are service fees, delivery fees and and on doordash a regulatory response fee (Philadelphia capped service fees so in response Doordash just subverted the intent of the law and added a new kind of fee). You can sign up for uber One and get free delviery fees and ten percent off your order. However on Doordash the delviery fee is 50c but the service fee is 15% (5 dollars in this case) and even with ten percent off the mark up still leaves it more expensive than it normally costs. This is theft.

The same brand/size of Milk I buy ranges at 3.98 dollars at Walmart to 6.20 at CVS to even higher at the local grocery store.

Prices were different in South Africa sure, but 0.50 to 1.50 kind of range which in American dollar terms means within 10c American. Now sometimes for the sake of convenience its worth just buyign what you need when you need it but its like they go out of the way to create price confusion. The Uber eats thing in particular strikes me as despicable.

Now I dont always do this much math on every purcahse its just in this case especially I could see straight away this was crazy. However the feeling I have in general in the USA is always one of am I being cheated by this delivery app, would this be cheaper somewehere else, would it be cheaper to buy this online?

[Gothos]

Cause, on 21 March 2023 - 11:49 PM, said:

I hate how much cognitive energy I expend in the USA on simple tasks. Everything is more complicated than it needs to be. I have a 25 dollar credit on Uber eats which I was going to use to get sushi from a nearby place I know well. It struck me that the price was way too high. So I double check and sure enough.

Restuarant price - 25.95
Grubhub - N/A
Doordash - 28.55
Uber Eats - 34.55 (Outrageous)

Than there are service fees, delivery fees and and on doordash a regulatory response fee (Philadelphia capped service fees so in response Doordash just subverted the intent of the law and added a new kind of fee). You can sign up for uber One and get free delviery fees and ten percent off your order. However on Doordash the delviery fee is 50c but the service fee is 15% (5 dollars in this case) and even with ten percent off the mark up still leaves it more expensive than it normally costs. This is theft.

The same brand/size of Milk I buy ranges at 3.98 dollars at Walmart to 6.20 at CVS to even higher at the local grocery store.

Prices were different in South Africa sure, but 0.50 to 1.50 kind of range which in American dollar terms means within 10c American. Now sometimes for the sake of convenience its worth just buyign what you need when you need it but its like they go out of the way to create price confusion. The Uber eats thing in particular strikes me as despicable.

Now I dont always do this much math on every purcahse its just in this case especially I could see straight away this was crazy. However the feeling I have in general in the USA is always one of am I being cheated by this delivery app, would this be cheaper somewehere else, would it be cheaper to buy this online?

Not unique to the US I'm afraid, what you describe sounds pretty normal, everyday shit to me as well. Mind you, what do you get for 25.95 in New York?

[Tsundoku]

There's a lot of corporations we shouldn't support if only because of the way they gouge customers and fuck over their workers among other things. Uber and Amazon are up near the top of that list.

Actually, wasn't it only a couple of years ago that Google quietly took away all references to their previously "informal" motto "Don't be evil"? I reckon they just removed the "Don't".

I think the challenge is to find a company with at least a medium profile that ISN'T evil. Can anyone also name a major multinational or individual who became that rich without being at least extremely morally and ethically shady?

[Tiste Simeon]

Tsundoku, on 22 March 2023 - 12:21 PM, said:

There's a lot of corporations we shouldn't support if only because of the way they gouge customers and fuck over their workers among other things. Uber and Amazon are up near the top of that list.

Actually, wasn't it only a couple of years ago that Google quietly took away all references to their previously "informal" motto "Don't be evil"? I reckon they just removed the "Don't".

I think the challenge is to find a company with at least a medium profile that ISN'T evil. Can anyone also name a major multinational or individual who became that rich without being at least extremely morally and ethically shady?

Admittedly I have done no research whatsoever but nothing too shady springs to mind when I think of Microsoft but no doubt many of you can prove me very wrong about that - Bill Gates has done a lot of good AFAIK though.

[amphibian]

Hold on, Tiste. The Google "Don't be evil" was a joke slogan that took off because it was directly referring to Microsoft being evil as hell in the 90s. Everyone in tech knew exactly what Google was referring to when they started saying that.

Google turning into a bunch of not quite as evil people was likely predictable, yet there was a chance for a bit of being better.

[Gothos]

Tiste Simeon, on 22 March 2023 - 12:40 PM, said:

Tsundoku, on 22 March 2023 - 12:21 PM, said:

There's a lot of corporations we shouldn't support if only because of the way they gouge customers and fuck over their workers among other things. Uber and Amazon are up near the top of that list.

Actually, wasn't it only a couple of years ago that Google quietly took away all references to their previously "informal" motto "Don't be evil"? I reckon they just removed the "Don't".

I think the challenge is to find a company with at least a medium profile that ISN'T evil. Can anyone also name a major multinational or individual who became that rich without being at least extremely morally and ethically shady?

Admittedly I have done no research whatsoever but nothing too shady springs to mind when I think of Microsoft but no doubt many of you can prove me very wrong about that - Bill Gates has done a lot of good AFAIK though.

For a start, you can check out how Netscape died.

[worry]

Here's some YouTube nerd's documentary about that:

[JPK]

You all surprised me. I was expecting the links to Epstein angle.

[Tiste Simeon]

amphibian, on 22 March 2023 - 01:10 PM, said:

Hold on, Tiste. The Google "Don't be evil" was a joke slogan that took off because it was directly referring to Microsoft being evil as hell in the 90s. Everyone in tech knew exactly what Google was referring to when they started saying that.

Google turning into a bunch of not quite as evil people was likely predictable, yet there was a chance for a bit of being better.

I knew I could rely on this place hah. I was quite open with admitting I knew nothing about it so thanks for pointing me a way out of my ignorance what exactly did they do in the 90s or is that answered by Worry's video?