[Tsundoku]

Andorion, on 07 April 2019 - 08:00 AM, said:

Briar King, on 07 April 2019 - 02:02 AM, said:

And my daughter now has a boyfriend with a truck.


Breathe Tanner.

How big is the truck?

If it's big enough to be considered "in inverse proportion to other more important measures" then you have little to worry about.

[Aptorian]

Does it have a pair of truck nuts hanging off the trailer hitch?

[Traveller]

Briar King, on 07 April 2019 - 01:47 AM, said:

New neighbors ain’t been in a day and I already hate it. Fuckers put up a street lamp that now beams directly into our bedroom windows and puts a spotlight on my tree stump area all 5 spots where I worshipped Nahadoth/Anomander and could get rid of migraines in total darkness minus fire light and this will also fuck up my stargazing with its light pollution.

This absolutely blows.

That streetlight has to go, BK.

Fair or foul means, it's got to! Invasive light pollution is as bad as noise.

[Malankazooie]

L.D.S.

[Cause]

Briar King, on 07 April 2019 - 01:47 AM, said:

New neighbors ain’t been in a day and I already hate it. Fuckers put up a street lamp that now beams directly into our bedroom windows and puts a spotlight on my tree stump area all 5 spots where I worshipped Nahadoth/Anomander and could get rid of migraines in total darkness minus fire light and this will also fuck up my stargazing with its light pollution.

This absolutely blows.

Yes, Fuck light pollution. I just realized this is happening to me at home and its killing me. I have been complaining for weeks that I'm tired and not sleeping well and didn't really put two and two together. I have my PC in my room and its always been there and I leave it on and it has blue Leds and I never quite put two and two together but my room is so fucking bright. So last night I said enough is enough and I made an effort and I turned of the pc completely, something I never do, disconnected every charger etc that may have a flashing led and realized my room was still bright enough to see in.

I cant believe I never noticed, didn't realize the change, but my neighbor has this giant ass blue lamp in the street that shines on their plants and water features and is angled into my fucking bedroom! I just thought it was the blue led from my pc. I cant fathom how I never realized it! I need to say something to them but I feel they will think I'm exaggerating because its been up for god knows how long without me saying anything already


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My government just released the findings of a stuy they did. At any given day 10% of teachers are absent from government schools. Minister of education has said she will find ways to support teachers more? What? How about you discipline people who are not doing their jobs and support the teachers! South Africa spends more than any African country as a % of GDP on education and has the worst education outcomes.

This post has been edited by Cause: 08 April 2019 - 11:25 AM

[Malankazooie]

Sort your shit out UK and Europe. The overt ugly racism that is dominating the news regarding your professional football leagues is a disgrace. Do better.

[Aptorian]

... uhh, People in glass countries shouldn't throw stones.

[Tiste Simeon]

Malankazooie, on 08 April 2019 - 08:37 PM, said:

Sort your shit out UK and Europe. The overt ugly racism that is dominating the news regarding your professional football leagues is a disgrace. Do better.

Yeah maybe when you don't have a bunch of petty white supremacist fascists in government then you guys can lecture us on racism?

[Obdigore]

Tiste Simeon, on 09 April 2019 - 08:41 AM, said:

Malankazooie, on 08 April 2019 - 08:37 PM, said:

Sort your shit out UK and Europe. The overt ugly racism that is dominating the news regarding your professional football leagues is a disgrace. Do better.

Yeah maybe when you don't have a bunch of petty white supremacist fascists in government then you guys can lecture us on racism?

Can't we all get along and lecture each other on how fucked up 40% of our populations are?

[Abyss]

https://www.ctvnews....tears-1.4373494


Sweat bees.


FUCKING SWEAT BEES THAT LIVE IN YOUR EYES
AND FEED ON YOUR PAIN AND UNHAPPINESS
BECAUSE, OH, I DUNNO, FUCKING BEES LIVING IN YOUR EYES.

[worry]

Bee h-eye-ves.

[amphibian]

Putting on a 300 person wedding in four months is a tough task. That's fine. But I am very, very frustrated with the poor communication abilities of my family and extended family.

Being ordered to attend meetings with them on forty minutes notice when we have meetings with vendors already planned and communicated with the family is rage inducing. They don't think, they don't listen, and they don't deliver on time the lists they've been asked to produce.

How the fuck do these people think 300 person events happen in places outside of Nepal?

[Tiste Simeon]

About that, Amph my invite hasn't arrived yet...

[Abyss]

And if you still want that aerial show with the drone-mounted dragons, smoke text, and spray-painted doves, i'm going to need that deposit and your font selection.

[QuickTidal]

amphibian, on 10 April 2019 - 05:15 PM, said:

Putting on a 300 person wedding in four months is a tough task. That's fine. But I am very, very frustrated with the poor communication abilities of my family and extended family.

This will only get worse as you close in on the day. There was literally no avoiding it. It happens to us all. My wife got VERY good at putting people in their place, even close family.

amphibian, on 10 April 2019 - 05:15 PM, said:

Being ordered to attend meetings with them on forty minutes notice when we have meetings with vendors already planned and communicated with the family is rage inducing. They don't think, they don't listen, and they don't deliver on time the lists they've been asked to produce.

And you will have to HOUND many of them to make it occur. Like repeatedly.

Also, vendors are GOING to fuck up. They simply are. You are running the logistics of the equivalent of a huge movie set that has about 4 hours to shoot the whole movie, full of moving parts, and everyone is a rank amateur to boot and none of them can or usually will work in concert. As such, you need to let these things fall. Our "planner" fucked up about 6 different things on the day, the venue about 3 more, and a few other logistics went for a shit too. We were told to let it roll as there would be no helping it. You can plan and plan and plan, but people will mangle shit on your day. Going into it knowing this, helped me deal with it more calmly when I wanted to rage because the venue didn't put the AirCon on in time to prevent the place from being a heatbox while hundreds of people were in it during the reception....which also caused our "midnight" snack option (custom made, while you wait, ice cream sandwiches) to fucking melt...stuff will go awry. Let it.

Also, this is one my wife suggests to everyone who is getting married: Take one moment, post-ceremony, during the party where you and your spouse go off ALL by yourself for five minutes and just breathe, enjoy the quiet moment together, alone. That day (or days, depending on the type of celebration) will utterly whiz past you and if you don't allow yourself that moment it will all blur and fuzz together. I still remember the moment my wife and I took on our own. It seems silly, but it's important.

Man, it's going to be crazy as you ramp into this, but it will all be worth it on the other side.

[Abyss]

Plan B: elope.

[amphibian]

QuikTidal, thanks for the advice. Our difficulty lies more in the "my family wants all manner of things, yet cannot communicate clearly what those things should be or provide easy access to the people who know what those things are. Most of these are Nepali ritual and family tradition specific and it's become very frustrating to deal with. "This person knows what the list is or what the acts are, but will tell you them at a later date that isn't now" becomes frustrating when trying to plan dates for vendor visits, getting dresses that comply with requirements, or even getting a clear idea of how the days will go. There's so many stake holders that are used to the last minute style that it's straining my considerable patience for this - and has hurt my partner. We're staying solid as a team and I've been stellar about warning her of this, informing her of the context, and staying resolute with her on our non negotiable things. But it's still happening.

Andorion can probably shed more light on the South Asian proclivity to faff about on weddings. They/we seem to just not plan the same way most people do and the feelings of the people actually getting married matter less than the feelings and status of the senior family members.

Abyss, on 10 April 2019 - 06:49 PM, said:

Plan B: elope.

We were tempted, but it would majorly hurt my family and extended network if we did this. They want to be included in the major happenings of a clan member and to ensure that what is happening is happening nicely and well. Weddings in Nepali/South Asian tradition are a platform for lots of deals to be made between people. Business deals, possible future marriages, and land deals are the most common. It's almost to the point where the wedding becomes a partner to all this, rather than the focal point.

[amphibian]

Tiste Simeon, on 10 April 2019 - 05:54 PM, said:

About that, Amph my invite hasn't arrived yet...

Simeon, if you are serious, come. I will ensure you and your wife have a good time. September 7, in Albany NY area.

[Tiste Simeon]

Dang I'd love to! Time and money might be an issue though. My brother's wife's family live in NY State too so I could double up and visit them haha...

[QuickTidal]

amphibian, on 10 April 2019 - 07:31 PM, said:

QuikTidal, thanks for the advice. Our difficulty lies more in the "my family wants all manner of things, yet cannot communicate clearly what those things should be or provide easy access to the people who know what those things are. Most of these are Nepali ritual and family tradition specific and it's become very frustrating to deal with. "This person knows what the list is or what the acts are, but will tell you them at a later date that isn't now" becomes frustrating when trying to plan dates for vendor visits, getting dresses that comply with requirements, or even getting a clear idea of how the days will go. There's so many stake holders that are used to the last minute style that it's straining my considerable patience for this - and has hurt my partner. We're staying solid as a team and I've been stellar about warning her of this, informing her of the context, and staying resolute with her on our non negotiable things. But it's still happening.

Oh geez, yeah that adds a whole new wrinkle to an already stressful event planning. Hopefully you can wrangle them into confirmations as early as you can. That sounds like nightmare, and weddings are already a nightmare to plan. Good luck!