Whisperzzzzzzz, on 22 June 2020 - 01:59 PM, said:
QuickTidal, on 22 June 2020 - 01:27 PM, said:
Whisperzzzzzzz, on 22 June 2020 - 01:03 PM, said:
(Not defending him, actually looking for specifics).
I'll let someone who was involved in this speak on the why:
By even the least charitable interpretation, no laws were broken. Legally speaking, he seems to be in the clear. Even (Katie) West has said: this wasn’t them being abusive, it was a man abusing his power. But the fact that it was legal doesn’t mean that harm wasn’t done. It doesn’t mean that people weren’t taken advantage of, had their trust abused by someone they respected or — in many cases — idolized and who leveraged their trust against them. The fact that no laws were broken doesn’t remove the abuse of trust, nor does it mitigate the consequences of those action.
It's about his clout and power in the industry and how he leveraged that against the relative dynamic of that with regards to these women. And in some cases it tainted their entire experience in the industry.
So the fact that his apology is: I didn't know I held this position or that I was that famous...is bollocks. He knew he was a heavy hitter. He literally had the WEFs (Warren Ellis Forums) with thousands of faithful hanging on his every word, men and women.
How do you distinguish between "power tripper who intentionally used his power over others to manipulate them" vs "clueless bloke who should have known better but was genuinely looking for — and not finding — commitment and a relationship among women in his field"?
I think the point is that there is no difference. If you have power, you need to be aware of it and how it interweaves with relationships.
And "genuinely looking for but can't find" is not and never should be over 50 women. If you hit (let's be conservative and say) 25 women that you've not been able to make the long haul with...the problem is you, and you should stop dating and ruining portions or all of people's lives. Or you should be up front about the fact that you are not looking for the long haul, so people don't get attached. From what I can see, he never did that.