[worry]

"Weeks"?? Jeez dude!

[Assail]

Briar King, on 28 February 2013 - 01:48 AM, said:

I say that being in a wanna stay single for awhile longer not wanting wife num 2 atm kinda viewpoint haha. Chatch and release my boy! Atleast so far these last 2 1/2 yrs

You and me both brother.

[Grimjust Bearegular]

But rolling like that, or "getting around" or whatever you want to call it... having sex with lots of different people. Getting your number in the double digits or triple for that matter (eeew) will eventually lead to you finding that special someone, and him/her not feeling special at all, because he/she is just another name on a veeeery long list.


You know what? That feeling sucks donkey balls.

[Tattersail_]

Bearmione TROUBLEMAKER Grimger, on 01 March 2013 - 08:47 AM, said:

But rolling like that, or "getting around" or whatever you want to call it... having sex with lots of different people. Getting your number in the double digits or triple for that matter (eeew) will eventually lead to you finding that special someone, and him/her not feeling special at all, because he/she is just another name on a veeeery long list.


You know what? That feeling sucks donkey balls.

I found my woman after the above, and we are married. When you find the Right One it won't matter about your past. I have a few skeleton's that only my wife knows and she loves me with those and I love her with hers. I am very lucky I guess. I have had a few long term relationships, and in between those I was very active sexually. Looking back I disgust myself but at the time that is what I wanted. If I had found my wife when I was 18 then maybe I'd be a different person today. Yet I could have let her slip between my fingers at that age because of how I acted. When I first met my wife she was in a relationship with another guy, I thought she was really pretty but taken. She was my friends', girlfriends' friend. She knew all about me from those two, and my "friend" was completely honest with her telling her about me and what I was like. Two years later and I hadn't changed, I had an 8 month relationship and then when we broke I went back to meeting different women. I was completely faithful during each relationship by the way. I guess if I didn't have all of these experiences I would not know what the perfect woman would be. It was an accident that we met again, my wife and I, I got an invite on facebook to go to her party. Now my friend was going anyway so I knew at least one person going. So ,although I had only met this girl twice and briefly, I bought her a card and popped some money in it, and we went out for the night. (She was single by the way, she had broke up from her 6 year relationship about 5 months previous). We had a great time. I didn't even try to pull her. Through out the next week we were talking and sending each other e-mails, (I still have them), and playing games online with each other. The following week I asked her what she was doing that night and she said that I'm taking her out on a date, I gladly agreed. We went to see "Adventureland" in the cinema. It was a great night, we had a cocktail before and a walk afterwards. from there we were dating and the rest is history. Sorry for the jumbled post, memories kept flooding my head and I was going from one thing to the next.

My personal experience says that you are not going to find the perfect woman on the first go. I've had some great relationships with some great girls, (doctors, nurses, teachers, cashiers, unemployed, sales reps etc) all different walks of life, different races, different ages, different nationalities. I thought I was never going to get married until I met Jayne, then that is all I could think about. I am so happy.

[worry]

Tell us the skeletons.

[Obdigore]

worrywort, on 01 March 2013 - 09:24 AM, said:

Tell us the skeletons.

I thought that was Tiste's department?

[worry]

Inside everybody there's a skeleton biding its time.

[Tattersail_]

worrywort, on 01 March 2013 - 09:33 AM, said:

Inside everybody there's a skeleton biding its time.

Care to share one of yours?

[worry]

Not for a few more decades, I hope.

[Garak]

Ok.

This post has been edited by Garak: 01 March 2013 - 09:48 AM

[Tattersail_]

That is one camp skeleton

[worry]

Why is that chase the chase? Why isn't "being single" not chasing anything? Are you chasing, or are you escaping?

[Tattersail_]

worrywort, on 01 March 2013 - 10:48 AM, said:

Why is that chase the chase? Why isn't "being single" not chasing anything? Are you chasing, or are you escaping?

I'm always afraid to reply to you. It becomes a fencing match. I'd say i'm not chasing anything. Yet maybe I was when I was single? I suppose it depends on the person, bunny boiler or indifference? treat them mean, keep them keen? I have never done that < but I have seen it work. My boss just got dumped and she (his ex) used the excuse, "he was too nice"! I don't think I've answered you. These are just thoughts that spring to mind.

This post has been edited by Tattersail: 01 March 2013 - 10:55 AM

[worry]

Oh, those are just general questions, so thoughts that spring to mind are right as rain. They're not aimed at you or Assail or BK in particular, though I borrowed his phrase "the CHASE". I'm not even making an argument, just struck me curious what "being single" means to different people, and whether these are just euphemisms or not.

[Tattersail_]

worrywort, on 01 March 2013 - 11:12 AM, said:

Oh, those are just general questions, so thoughts that spring to mind are right as rain. They're not aimed at you or Assail or BK in particular, though I borrowed his phrase "the CHASE". I'm not even making an argument, just struck me curious what "being single" means to different people, and whether these are just euphemisms or not.

Are you single or partnered up?

Some people enjoy the chase more than the catching. I know I used to...

[worry]

Chasing:Being Single::Catching:Being Partnered Up? And it's all predicated on sex? Or does the preference extend to chasing (rather than catching) people to play games with, or eat with, or talk Malazan with, or ride roller coasters with, etc.? What's the compartmentalization process? Does it all stop being fun at once, and if not, does sex take precedence?

[Tattersail_]

worrywort, on 01 March 2013 - 11:38 AM, said:

Chasing:Being Single::Catching:Being Partnered Up? And it's all predicated on sex? Or does the preference extend to chasing (rather than catching) people to play games with, or eat with, or talk Malazan with, or ride roller coasters with, etc.? What's the compartmentalization process? Does it all stop being fun at once, and if not, does sex take precedence?

Well when someone plays hard to get and you do all the flirty stuff, and find clever ways to try to get an in. That is the fun part. It's the journey I was fond of, not the destination. Now you expand the destination to a multitude of possibilities. So the main one, which this topic is about (sex), i'll put it a different way, what do you enjoy most about sex? The end product or the foreplay or the in between? I can say I enjoy it all, but the best bit for me is the chase, which, now that I am married, becomes the romantic text's, pictures, e-mails throughout the day, the cooking a nice dinner, the running a bath, the flirtatious conversations, the fun back and forth between us etc. After sex you feel content and warm and in love etc but it's no longer exciting because you already have done it, we release certain hormones that change the way we feel.

Change the destination to a football match and the journey (chase) becomes the banter between friends, the build up, who's playing, what tactics are they going to use etc, once you're watching the match you are excited yet once the match is over you feel nostalgia, depression or a multitude of other feelings.

By going deeper into the chase you have made it a lot more complicated. I mean, if I said to you something like "the flavor of strawberry" you automatically know what that is because you have tried one before, can you describe it perfectly to someone else, their perception of the flavor of strawberry will be different to yours anyway. So when you say "the chase" it is something I know deep down like it is a part of me, but it isn't easy to describe. I'll stick with the journey, not the destination and hope that makes sense.

[Obdigore]

Tattersail, on 01 March 2013 - 11:53 AM, said:

worrywort, on 01 March 2013 - 11:38 AM, said:

Chasing:Being Single::Catching:Being Partnered Up? And it's all predicated on sex? Or does the preference extend to chasing (rather than catching) people to play games with, or eat with, or talk Malazan with, or ride roller coasters with, etc.? What's the compartmentalization process? Does it all stop being fun at once, and if not, does sex take precedence?

Well when someone plays hard to get and you do all the flirty stuff, and find clever ways to try to get an in. That is the fun part. It's the journey I was fond of, not the destination. Now you expand the destination to a multitude of possibilities. So the main one, which this topic is about (sex), i'll put it a different way, what do you enjoy most about sex? The end product or the foreplay or the in between? I can say I enjoy it all, but the best bit for me is the chase, which, now that I am married, becomes the romantic text's, pictures, e-mails throughout the day, the cooking a nice dinner, the running a bath, the flirtatious conversations, the fun back and forth between us etc. After sex you feel content and warm and in love etc but it's no longer exciting because you already have done it, we release certain hormones that change the way we feel.

Change the destination to a football match and the journey (chase) becomes the banter between friends, the build up, who's playing, what tactics are they going to use etc, once you're watching the match you are excited yet once the match is over you feel nostalgia, depression or a multitude of other feelings.

By going deeper into the chase you have made it a lot more complicated. I mean, if I said to you something like "the flavor of strawberry" you automatically know what that is because you have tried one before, can you describe it perfectly to someone else, their perception of the flavor of strawberry will be different to yours anyway. So when you say "the chase" it is something I know deep down like it is a part of me, but it isn't easy to describe. I'll stick with the journey, not the destination and hope that makes sense.

So, if I understand this correctly, you are Will Smith in MiB, and the ladies you are hitting on have psychos with guns holding them by their feet but all you can think about is the chase? Interesting.

[worry]

Very interesting.

[Tattersail_]

I didn't make sense then? I am trying to put your reply with what I said Obdi, but I lack the intellect I think. If it is funny then I want to laugh, but alas, over my head your joke went.