[Abyss]

Gothos, on 24 November 2011 - 02:51 PM, said:

feeling caged and restless again. cue a strong need to move abroad. I don't know if I should take that risk.

Don't hand me straight lines like this.


- Abyss, might have responded with '...it's less risky if you get permission first'....

[Hobbes]

QuickTidal, on 24 November 2011 - 02:40 PM, said:

Adjutant Stormy, on 23 November 2011 - 11:58 PM, said:

Tapper, on 23 November 2011 - 11:27 PM, said:

Abyss, on 23 November 2011 - 09:42 PM, said:

blahblahblah

i AM DISAPPOINT. WHERE IS YOUR MENTION OF FACEBOOK OR MSN? CLEARLY YOU CAN'T GET MORE PERSONAL THAN FACEBOOK!

And yeah, read the fine print. I may spout immense volumes of nonsense, but harken to these words: always read the fine print. It is the singular best advise ever.

Who the hell uses MSN?

^^This! Indeed...

Wait...unless...are you time traveling to meet this girl? Cause if you want to ask her out in 2001, then you can use MSN if you like.

I did in fact use time travel, should have mentioned that. The wedding was two years ago

[QuickTidal]

Okay, bit a long one. Bear with me.

My family (either my mum or my sister's family) usually has Christmas at their house. It is usually a mid-morning until evening (after dinner) day long event. Well, my gf's parents like me to come for Christmas Day dinner at their place, and I try to accommodate (as I spend Christmas Eve with my mum and step-dad as well as Christmas morning). Well last year my sister (who was hosting Christmas) didn't actually TELL anyone that she was only having dinner (not the day long stuff) and when we (My mum and me) called after breakfast to find out what time to come (assuming it would be 11-12PM-ish) she told us 6PM. WTF? we thought. That's not how we do Christmas. At any rate, I had to NOT go over to my sisters house last year because of my commitment to have dinner with my gf's family, so I sent my presents along with my mum and step-dad and went off to my gf's place. I never really heard boo from my sister about it afterwards.

Sidenote: My sister doesn't phone me during the year to chat or be familial and only occasionally phones me to invite me to holidays, and if she even does it's normally a week out from the event (at which point I usually have plans already), far too late. So she doesn't exactly bang down my door as a sister.

So this year, once again without telling anyone yet, she has decided that she is hosting Christmas, and once again she is going to have it be only dinner. I told her I might not be able to come....and she FLIPPED OUT. Screaming at me on the phone, telling me I am abandoning my family, and that she was pleased my priorities lay with my gf's family, and that she was proud I was such a selfish adult. I even asked if I could come during the day to see them for a few hours and then take off to do my other engagement in the late afternoon/evening, effectively sharing my time...but nope. She feels that I should go one year to GF's house for Xmas and one year at my family's house...to which I responded "why does it have to be one or the other, why can't I do both and share the holiday?"...and she screamed at me more, told me I was a controlling person who had to have things my way ect. that it was becoming a habit (This year was the first year I spent thanksgiving with my gf's family and last year was the first time where I split Christmas this way), so I'm not sure what she's on about there. She actually told me I was now dis-invited and hung up on me.

Now, it should be noted (as my mum pointed out to me) that my sister was, only a few years ago, diagnosed with epilepsy and is on the best medication that exists to prevent seizures, but that its one major side effect is Anger. So both my mum and my dad are convinced that this is mostly the medication lashing out at me and not really her...

Either way it has really messed with my groove. I feel like crap, and I'm only trying to share my time and please everyone.

This post has been edited by QuickTidal: 24 November 2011 - 07:26 PM

[tiam]

QuickTidal, on 24 November 2011 - 07:20 PM, said:

Okay, bit a long one. Bear with me.

My family (either my mum or my sister's family) usually has Christmas at their house. It is usually a mid-morning until evening (after dinner) day long event. Well, my gf's parents like me to come for Christmas Day dinner at their place, and I try to accommodate (as I spend Christmas Eve with my mum and step-dad as well as Christmas morning). Well last year my sister (who was hosting Christmas) didn't actually TELL anyone that she was only having dinner (not the day long stuff) and when we (My mum and me) called after breakfast to find out what time to come (assuming it would be 11-12PM-ish) she told us 6PM. WTF? we thought. That's not how we do Christmas. At any rate, I had to NOT go over to my sisters house last year because of my commitment to have dinner with my gf's family, so I sent my presents along with my mum and step-dad and went off to my gf's place. I never really heard boo from my sister about it afterwards.

Sidenote: My sister doesn't phone me during the year to chat or be familial and only occasionally phones me to invite me to holidays, and if she even does it's normally a week out from the event (at which point I usually have plans already), far too late. So she doesn't exactly bang down my door as a sister.

So this year, once again without telling anyone yet, she has decided that she is hosting Christmas, and once again she is going to have it be only dinner. I told her I might not be able to come....and she FLIPPED OUT. Screaming at me on the phone, telling me I am abandoning my family, and that she was pleased my priorities lay with my gf's family, and that she was proud I was such a selfish adult. I even asked if I could come during the day to see them for a few hours and then take off to do my other engagement in the late afternoon/evening, effectively sharing my time...but nope. She feels that I should go one year to GF's house for Xmas and one year at my family's house...to which I responded "why does it have to be one or the other, why can't I do both and share the holiday?"...and she screamed at me more, told me I was a controlling person who had to have things my way ect. that it was becoming a habit (This year was the first year I spent thanksgiving with my gf's family and last year was the first time where I split Christmas this way), so I'm not sure what she's on about there. She actually told me I was now dis-invited and hung up on me.

Now, it should be noted (as my mum pointed out to me) that my sister was, only a few years ago, diagnosed with epilepsy and is on the best medication that exists to prevent seizures, but that its one major side effect is Anger. So both my mum and my dad are convinced that this is mostly the medication lashing out at me and not really her...

Either way it has really messed with my groove. I feel like crap, and I'm only trying to share my time and please everyone.

I can relate to this with two sets of parents and various siblings/GFs over the years. You either do the alternate xmas thing or if you can visit here there and everywhere on the day effectively giving up your xmas to show your face to different people. This is a tricky one but I suppose you have to honour your original plans with the GF parents as they made the plans and hope your sister comes around to the idea of you going earlier in the day to give them your presents but not stay for dinner. Anyway a tricky one.

Messing with groove is the fact ive been able to dodge the 'which family are you spending xmas with this year' because of Uni and I could claim alot of work had to be in in january. No excuse this year and can look forward to being heavily guilt tripped by several members of both families.

[Slow Ben]

Had the same problem since this is the first Christmas me and the ole lady are married. So we decided to just go to Ireland instead.


Problem solved.

[Darkwatch]

Christmas is hell for that. This year will be the first Christmas that I will not be home. I'll get down for New Years because my family from over seas is coming down at that time and I can't get more than 4 days off work (in a different city).
Then there's the whole huge amount of family. Happy to be single on that end or else it would be impossible.

[Lucifer's Heaven]

Ah yes, I remember having those problems.
Then eventually I just stopped caring and ended up spending a few years of Christmases with my friends. Two of my best friends held what we lovingly called "Rejects Christmas", for those of us whose families didn't really do a christmassy thing, or whose christmassy things we wanted to avoid.
Mostly this worked for me because my grandparents (the family members I absolutely love and pretty much raised me) are Serbian, so they don't celebrate christmas till the 7th of Jan And that christmas I attend

None of that is an issue now though. Considering all that's 4000kms away.

[QuickTidal]

It's encouraging to know I'm not the only one who (or has been) in this boat. Thanks folks!

[Adjutant Stormy~]

In my family we were lucky enough to have my father's family organized for xmas eve, and my mother's for xmas day

[Mezla PigDog]

My familys Christmas descended through the 5 levels of hell over the 25 years. Now we have an unspoken agreement to spend it apart. My sister goes so far as to leave the country every December. The first time your parents force you to choose which one you will spend the day with is the moment the Christmas spirit dies! We struggled on for 10 years after that and it was horrific. Full out drama or passive aggressive misery. I'm the quiet one in the family who listens to others problems, keeps the peace and does what everyone else wants witout complaining. It was very stressful. It got to a point where I cracked one year and threw a huge hissy fit as all the pre-christmas fights were starting, I refused to see anyone, the whole family thought I was having some kind of breakdown and now they're so scared I'll do it again, nobody expects anything from me at Christmas. The freedom is amazing! Fuck 'em, they're all twisted and I can't be bothered with their shit anymore. I don't even feel guilty. I'm organising going up to see them and meeting for lunch one weekend before Christmas (the token family tradition) and they're already bitching about that.

Families need to realise that if someone is forced to be there then it instantly defeats the whole point of the holiday, it can't always follow tradition because peoples lives change and you just have to roll with it and enjoy the other time you spend with that person and make it special. QT - do what you want, be grateful for the offer, make your apologies and explain the rationale but do what you want.

[Macros]

Gary Speed, r.i.p

[tiam]

Macros, on 27 November 2011 - 02:33 PM, said:

Gary Speed, r.i.p

I know thats so crazy. I found out earlier on and I genuinely couldnt believe it.

An absolute tragedy

[Ain't_It_Just_]

The person who made the "Best Interrupt Ever" video on YouTube for Mass Effect 2 has terminated his account and now the video is gone. FUCK!

[Grimjust Bearegular]

Mr. Awesome Who I Totally have a Major Crush on is on vacation with his family and I won't be able to see him for another two weeks, at the earliest

Gods, so much can go wrong in two weeks.....what if he meets someone else who is awesomer than me?
What if he decides I'm lame, and doesn't want to see me again?

Gaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!!!



I'm too fucking old to be feeling like this! It sucks...but it's also kinda awesome Haven't felt like this in 8 fucking years!!!

[Abyss]

QuickTidal, on 24 November 2011 - 07:20 PM, said:

Okay, bit a long one. Bear with me....Either way it has really messed with my groove. I feel like crap, and I'm only trying to share my time and please everyone.

I have a tested and proven solution to these things... send flowers.
Carry on with what you actually want to do. Next year take the initiative a month in advance.

BREAKFACE VENGEANCEBEAR, on 28 November 2011 - 12:45 PM, said:

Mr. Awesome... Haven't felt like this in 8 fucking years!!!

I have a tested and proven solution to these things too... send pr0n.


- Abyss, like 'Dear Abby' with a higher alcohol tolerance.

[Adjutant Stormy~]

I have completely lost the webcam app on my computer to activate the on-board camera. I can't remember the name (it's not something obvious, like '----camera' nor does it show up anywhere in the programs installed.

And all I wanted to do was take a picture documenting the death of my beard. Which is also messing with my groove. IT JUST GOT COLD HERE TOO.

[Mentalist]

I have discovered I am incapab;le of doing work and focusing. (yet again)

my inability to get anything done this weekend is irritating me.

taking drastic measures (disconnecting my external harddrive, which has all my videos and games)

I am very dissapointed with my lack of willpower atm.

[Ulrik]

Some stupid idiot is laughing and mocking me, because I actually buy movies, books and music...because he is smart and can download it all!!!!

Pity, its only internet and not real life. Pity for him, I have admin rights on that forum...

[Grimjust Bearegular]

Abyss, on 28 November 2011 - 03:49 PM, said:

QuickTidal, on 24 November 2011 - 07:20 PM, said:

Okay, bit a long one. Bear with me....Either way it has really messed with my groove. I feel like crap, and I'm only trying to share my time and please everyone.

I have a tested and proven solution to these things... send flowers.
Carry on with what you actually want to do. Next year take the initiative a month in advance.

BREAKFACE VENGEANCEBEAR, on 28 November 2011 - 12:45 PM, said:

Mr. Awesome... Haven't felt like this in 8 fucking years!!!

I have a tested and proven solution to these things too... send pr0n.


- Abyss, like 'Dear Abby' with a higher alcohol tolerance.

what, like Back door Sluts 9?

[Ain't_It_Just_]

Nah man, he means Naughty Nurses 2.

EDIT: And in groove related news, I asked my dad on his opinion about the gf sleeping over, and he OK'd it. This is good news but I feel guilty because I more or less went around my mum's back. It's not a nice feeling.

This post has been edited by Ain't_It_Just_: 29 November 2011 - 09:48 AM