Grimilla Insultface, on 20 November 2010 - 11:26 PM, said:
This messes with my groove: Hungover like a bastard. Christmas party with my bf's company, drank unknown number units of alkohol, but didn't do anything stupid...that I remember,
Recently I've been plagued with restlessness and nagging doubts....Found out at said Christmas party that my bf never mentions me at work, and some of his collegues seemed surprised he even had a girlfriend. This isn't a big deal in or of itslef, but it's a straw on an otherwise large pile on the poor camel's back. To boot, we haven't been on a vacation together in over three years, we were supposed to go to the US next year but that's been put on hold indefintely, and he couldn't even bother to make time in his plans to go to an Iron Maiden concert with me in July, 2011. I sometimes feel like my whole life is on hold, until he has the time to do something. I want to travel, to meet new people and experience new things. I'm too old to just sit around and wait for ,,,,for things to happen.....I seem to be more annoyed than happy these days. Confused and frustrated.
But it could just be a rough patch. I should perhaps give it some time before I do anything stupid and rash. Or maybe I'm just being overly-dramatic and sensitive?
Some people - read that as "me" - are very closemouthed about their personal lives at work or in professional environments. There's some overlap between public and private lives for sure, but for the vast majority of people at work or school, it's none of their beeswax who I'm seeing and certainly none of mine regarding who they're seeing. I find this to be an attitude held by a good number of men and not so high a percentage amongst women.
That might account for some co-workers not knowing about you.
As for the rest, I dunno. Talk to him. Explain what you're feeling in a manner that doesn't slide into him perceiving it as "Why are you such an asshole?". Really make an effort not to give off that impression - even though you don't intend to, it's his impressions of what you are saying that will help or hurt the discussion.
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