[Puck]

Drama in my Dungeons & Dragons group. The campaign's been running for five years. You've been part of it for almost four of those and you notice NOW you don't like the play style? Because I revealed yesterday that when pressed, I can steamroll an enemy on my own? Sorry for keeping up with levelling

This post has been edited by Puck: 28 May 2017 - 05:19 PM

[Gorefest]

My football team just relegated

[Abyss]

Seduce Goose, on 28 May 2017 - 09:44 AM, said:

I just assumed some kind of large flying spider or something attacked you.

#firstworldproblems

[Aptorian]

I think it's more like #Nightmarecontinentproblems

[Tsundoku]

Monday



Check the miming

[Mezla PigDog]

Tsundoku, on 29 May 2017 - 09:33 AM, said:

Monday

It's a Bank Holiday Monday in glorious old Blighty.

[LadyMTL]

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A friend's mum died of melanoma suddenly and unexpectedly last weekend so I finally got around to having a mole removed.

Though fair enough question considering the last time I got stitches it was due to trying to run down a makeshirt ramp on a tyre rim.

Loki, that is such a smart thing to do.
My stepdad died of melanoma that metastasized to his brain, it was just awful. He'd had a mole on his torso for years, but had never bothered to get it checked out until one day it started to bleed. My mom freaked out and took him to the doctor and unfortunately it was melanoma. He lived maybe 9 months after the diagnosis was made...I honestly get emotional even now just thinking about it, and he passed away in 1999 at the ripe "old" age of 49.

So yeah, always get suspicious moles or skin concerns checked. And I suggest that to everyone here.

As for me, I am dealing with one heck of a migraine. I get them every now and then but it's rare for me to wake up with one. I've taken some meds already and I'm going to try to work without my glasses or contacts to hopefully give my eyes a break, but seeing as my job is 100% on the computer I doubt it'll make much difference.

This post has been edited by LadyMTL: 29 May 2017 - 11:27 AM

[Puck]

Work. A new function in one of the customer data processing programms we use has been implemented. Guess who is the idiot who ends up having to add the data? Also, guess who didn't get the requiered authorization to do so? *sits back diddling my thunbs for the next couple of hours*

[Abyss]

Puck, on 30 May 2017 - 09:24 AM, said:

*sits back diddling my thunbs for the next couple of hours*

Traditionally, doesn't one twiddle one's thumbs, and diddle something else entirely?

[amphibian]

Abyss, on 30 May 2017 - 01:51 PM, said:

Puck, on 30 May 2017 - 09:24 AM, said:

*sits back diddling my thunbs for the next couple of hours*

Traditionally, doesn't one twiddle one's thumbs, and diddle something else entirely?

She's diddling thunbs, rather than thumbs, so that could save this from heading somewhere fun.

[Andorion]

Briar King, on 31 May 2017 - 03:44 AM, said:

*skin is crawling. Never had one in my house before but some may remember those pics of the giant flying water bugs that was posted a few yrs ago in thread. Crawling across my den floor. I scooped that fucker up with a cup and plate and smashed it on the road just for freaking me and kids out. Demonic looking beast!

A BK bug update!

Its been too long without one. I was getting worried!

[Aptorian]

Briar King, on 31 May 2017 - 12:36 AM, said:

Lmao. Sometimes it's amusing seeing the examples of why I made myself a rule to not touch my phone after a certain time every night. I'm usually spot on sticking to it unless my pattern is disturbed.

When I read this:

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enough to flood my stump hole quenching my hot coals underneath my logs messing up my nightly ritual

I wasn't sure if this was an incredibly explicit description of your sex life or you were slightly impaired.

[worry]

Huge bomb went off in Kabul. Hundreds of mostly civilian casualties including 49 dead (as of yet).
http://www.bbc.com/n...d-asia-40102903

[Loki]

I really wish people would stop posting memorial posts to my timeline and tagging me in the ones on their own timelines.

I really don't need a reminder that today is my mum's birthday or a reminder that she is dead. It's not exactly something you forgot and it's not exactly something I want to be reminded of every few minutes by a Facebook notification. Why not just send me a text saying "Hey, your mum's still dead in case you forgot."

It's also the anniversary of my cousin's suicide (literally stated in his note he chose mum's birthday so no one would forget because he was just considerate like that. Afterall why not kill yourself on the birthday of the woman who helped raise you after your own mother died. Way to pay it back). So everyone is doing the yearly "We miss you" posts and tagging me in them too.

Don't get me wrong, I loved my cousin. We were raised more like siblings than cousins. What I don't like is the yearly reminder that everything fell to me to fucking handle. I had to identify the body and deal with the coroner and deal with the police and I had to contact everyone and I had to mediate between warring family members while at the same time trying to look after my mum and siblings. Because it makes sense that in a large extended family it should fall to a 21 year old to handle all that shit.

And yes, I am still angry that none of my family ever thought to stop and acknowledge what I had to do. I don't care that no one offdred to help - everyone was grieving. Except for me because I didn't have the time. But a simply "Thanks Kel" would have been nice.

I just wish people would leave me the fuck alone on this one day of the year. Both in real life and virtual life.

[Silencer]

Loki, on 01 June 2017 - 03:40 AM, said:

I really wish people would stop posting memorial posts to my timeline and tagging me in the ones on their own timelines.

I really don't need a reminder that today is my mum's birthday or a reminder that she is dead. It's not exactly something you forgot and it's not exactly something I want to be reminded of every few minutes by a Facebook notification. Why not just send me a text saying "Hey, your mum's still dead in case you forgot."

It's also the anniversary of my cousin's suicide (literally stated in his note he chose mum's birthday so no one would forget because he was just considerate like that. Afterall why not kill yourself on the birthday of the woman who helped raise you after your own mother died. Way to pay it back). So everyone is doing the yearly "We miss you" posts and tagging me in them too.

Don't get me wrong, I loved my cousin. We were raised more like siblings than cousins. What I don't like is the yearly reminder that everything fell to me to fucking handle. I had to identify the body and deal with the coroner and deal with the police and I had to contact everyone and I had to mediate between warring family members while at the same time trying to look after my mum and siblings. Because it makes sense that in a large extended family it should fall to a 21 year old to handle all that shit.

And yes, I am still angry that none of my family ever thought to stop and acknowledge what I had to do. I don't care that no one offdred to help - everyone was grieving. Except for me because I didn't have the time. But a simply "Thanks Kel" would have been nice.

I just wish people would leave me the fuck alone on this one day of the year. Both in real life and virtual life.

It sucks, because I know what those people are aiming for - but at the end of the day it's about the effect it has on you, not their intentions. Having all that thrown in on top of an already difficult day isn't helping. I know you said you want to be left alone, but if you need to rant to/at someone, let me know.

[Loki]

I know it's all well-meaning and for some it's their own way with dealing with the day. I just wish they wouldn't include me in their coping strategies.

I'm actually okay with my cousin's death. I honestly wouldn't even note when he died if not for the date he chose. I miss him but it's been nine years and I never had the whole 'survivor guilt' thing most people have when a loved commits suicide. Despite the initial fallout his has actually been the easiest (not that it's actually 'easy') death to deal with and move on from (our family is a beacon for death) since he chose it. And mum and I frequently tried to help him beforehand so it's not like I feel like there was anything more I could have done etc.
I am admittedly a bit bitter about having the responsibility of his death dropped on me. Mostly because everyone just decided somehow that I would handle things and then just expected me to despite no one ever actually asking if I was okay with it (or even just asking if I was okay in general except for Matador and Shiara). Having to id a body isn't something someone else should volunteer you for.

And when it comes to my mum my way of dealing is solitude and to dig in for the day. And despite telling people I don't want them wishing me well and letting me know they are 'thinking of me' they still do. Except for my friends. They/you are pretty on point when knowing to just let me be.

I just wish they'd stop doing what I have asked them not to do. They can memorialise all they want - just keep me out of it.

[amphibian]

Would deactivating Facebook for a day help? That sounds like the lowest conflict way to deal with that specific notification problem.

[Loki]

amphibian, on 01 June 2017 - 12:31 PM, said:

Would deactivating Facebook for a day help? That sounds like the lowest conflict way to deal with that specific notification problem.

I usually avoid Facebook all together for a day and then just ignore any activity from before logging back on. I didn't do that this time as a friend of mine is goong through some stuff and Facebook is how we predominately communicate since she is in the States.

It's not that big a deal all-in-all. I don't even give it much thought a day or so later. It just something that really annoys me when I am in the situation, if you know what I mean.

[amphibian]

Yeah, that stinks. You can talk via Signal, which is more secure than Facebook, if there's a concern about your friend having her messages read by her family. That way only people who have her phone unlocked can see the messages.

[Lady Bliss]

So sorry Loki. People should be more considerate of your feelings.