Posted 30 October 2011 - 02:32 PM
Ugh, so we have this friend, and he's okay in small doses...but when he gets a bit of alcohol in him he gets...err...gropey...so last night at the party, by about 1AM he was sitting in the couch with his arm around my gf...and I'm on the same couch.
Side bar: At one New Years Eve party we had he was hitting on our younger friend (in her 20's, and he's 30) and by about midnight he had his arm round her neck and his hand down her top cupping her breast as he talked to people...seriously.
Back to main story of last night: Now normally when people put their arm around my gf it doesn't bother me cause it doesn't last a long time or anything and I have no issues with most of her guy friends doing this as they aren't slovenly about it, but when he does it, it just rubs me the wrong way...and last night he did it for an extended period of time...since his current gf wasn't there he thinks he can be gropey with mine. Now thankfully I wasn't too drunk, I cleared my throat and gave my gf the subtle eye roll about it and she (thinks he's harmless and just being friendly) got up and came over by me...but I shouldn't have to do that. I shouldn't have to give my gf a signal that it's making me feel uncomfortable, a guy who considers himself MY friend shouldn't do that.
...at a certain point I just want to say to this guy "Look, there's being friendly and there's being lecherous...try to aim for friendly." He gets like that every time though, I don't know why I am surprised, but I'm not going to just sit there and watch him essentially cuddle with my gf. Jealous Scott doesn't come out to play very often, but he still does occasionally, usually when alcohol is involved naturally.
Oh and just to paint a broader picture, this same guy is also the guy who won't leave at the end of the party. It's 3 of 4 AM and he's still lying on the couch half-blitzed and as we are cleaning up and preparing for bed. We usually have to say, "It's time to go, we are going to sleep now." You really shouldn't have to tell anyone that, but it's like clockwork with this guy.
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