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What's messing with your groove?
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Posted 28 June 2011 - 01:06 PM
messing with my groove: feeling like the biggest asshole in the world after having talked with my ex...fuck!
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Posted 28 June 2011 - 01:16 PM
Snugglybear ChipperSemblance, on 28 June 2011 - 01:06 PM, said:
messing with my groove: feeling like the biggest asshole in the world after having talked with my ex...fuck!
Don't feel that way.
You didn't kill his puppy. You only moved on. Sometimes it hurts to do what's right.
With my ex, every single last ounce of compassion I showed her post-breakup she took as "emotion"...and for her that meant she had a chance that I was going to change my mind and come back. So my best friend gave me the most unfortunate, but BEST advice I have ever received bar none. He said don't call her, don't answer her calls, emails, texts...shut her out completely. Become Cold Iron. This girl was so attached to me that it took her more than a YEAR to get the point after I shut her out (seriously, she called my cell phone on Valentines day a YEAR after we broke up and I was laying in bed at 2AM next to my current girlfriend). You either have to lash out and be nasty and mean to them for them to get the picture...or you have to become cold iron and shut them out completely.
It's certainly not easy and takes Green Lantern-style willpower to do. This same girl actually showed up, banging on my door and calling me OVER and OVER and OVER at 4AM drunk one night. I didn't answer the phone, but ignoring the door was harder...so I put on my iPod headphones and turned the volume up, laid in bed and fell back asleep. It was difficult, but she got the picture.
So don't EVER feel bad about doing what you NEED to do. Your life is your life, and you need to do what you need to. Though you shared some time with this person, it's over and they need to mourn it.
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Posted 28 June 2011 - 01:31 PM
QuickTidal, on 28 June 2011 - 01:16 PM, said:
Snugglybear ChipperSemblance, on 28 June 2011 - 01:06 PM, said:
messing with my groove: feeling like the biggest asshole in the world after having talked with my ex...fuck!
Don't feel that way.
You didn't kill his puppy. You only moved on. Sometimes it hurts to do what's right.
With my ex, every single last ounce of compassion I showed her post-breakup she took as "emotion"...and for her that meant she had a chance that I was going to change my mind and come back. So my best friend gave me the most unfortunate, but BEST advice I have ever received bar none. He said don't call her, don't answer her calls, emails, texts...shut her out completely. Become Cold Iron. This girl was so attached to me that it took her more than a YEAR to get the point after I shut her out (seriously, she called my cell phone on Valentines day a YEAR after we broke up and I was laying in bed at 2AM next to my current girlfriend). You either have to lash out and be nasty and mean to them for them to get the picture...or you have to become cold iron and shut them out completely.
It's certainly not easy and takes Green Lantern-style willpower to do. This same girl actually showed up, banging on my door and calling me OVER and OVER and OVER at 4AM drunk one night. I didn't answer the phone, but ignoring the door was harder...so I put on my iPod headphones and turned the volume up, laid in bed and fell back asleep. It was difficult, but she got the picture.
So don't EVER feel bad about doing what you NEED to do. Your life is your life, and you need to do what you need to. Though you shared some time with this person, it's over and they need to mourn it.
Seconded. If they want to get back with you any contact you have with them, other than a group contact were your not really together, will just lead them on. A clean break is necessary.
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Posted 28 June 2011 - 01:50 PM
Snugglybear ChipperSemblance, on 28 June 2011 - 01:06 PM, said:
messing with my groove: feeling like the biggest asshole in the world after having talked with my ex...fuck!
As far as I can tell from what you said before, it's mostly his fault anyway and he can suck it. You've no reason to feel guilty about it. If anything, he's the asshole.
It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.
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Posted 28 June 2011 - 02:51 PM
QuickTidal, on 28 June 2011 - 01:16 PM, said:
Snugglybear ChipperSemblance, on 28 June 2011 - 01:06 PM, said:
messing with my groove: feeling like the biggest asshole in the world after having talked with my ex...fuck!
Don't feel that way.
You didn't kill his puppy. You only moved on. Sometimes it hurts to do what's right.
With my ex, every single last ounce of compassion I showed her post-breakup she took as "emotion"...and for her that meant she had a chance that I was going to change my mind and come back. So my best friend gave me the most unfortunate, but BEST advice I have ever received bar none. He said don't call her, don't answer her calls, emails, texts...shut her out completely. Become Cold Iron. This girl was so attached to me that it took her more than a YEAR to get the point after I shut her out (seriously, she called my cell phone on Valentines day a YEAR after we broke up and I was laying in bed at 2AM next to my current girlfriend). You either have to lash out and be nasty and mean to them for them to get the picture...or you have to become cold iron and shut them out completely.
It's certainly not easy and takes Green Lantern-style willpower to do. This same girl actually showed up, banging on my door and calling me OVER and OVER and OVER at 4AM drunk one night. I didn't answer the phone, but ignoring the door was harder...so I put on my iPod headphones and turned the volume up, laid in bed and fell back asleep. It was difficult, but she got the picture.
So don't EVER feel bad about doing what you NEED to do. Your life is your life, and you need to do what you need to. Though you shared some time with this person, it's over and they need to mourn it.
That's actually one of the ways suggested in this very helpful video...
A Haunting Poem
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Posted 28 June 2011 - 06:09 PM
I seem to be experiencing major anxiety the last few days and I went out to the shops with my mum (who was upset over something my brother done) and I've come back feeling on the edge of a panic attack, now I just feel really sick. I had forgotten to take my medication a while back but I've been taking it the last few days and it should reduce the symptoms of things like this, I have no idea why I seem to be mentally freaking out though.
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Posted 28 June 2011 - 09:57 PM
I'm in my 30's and my skin is worse (i.e. more pimply) now than it was when I was a teenager. Bah. Aren't these things supposed to get better as you get older, not worse?
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Posted 29 June 2011 - 03:41 AM
Maia Irraz, on 28 June 2011 - 09:57 PM, said:
I'm in my 30's and my skin is worse (i.e. more pimply) now than it was when I was a teenager. Bah. Aren't these things supposed to get better as you get older, not worse?
Change your pillow cases more often.
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Posted 29 June 2011 - 08:34 AM
Maia Irraz, on 28 June 2011 - 09:57 PM, said:
I'm in my 30's and my skin is worse (i.e. more pimply) now than it was when I was a teenager. Bah. Aren't these things supposed to get better as you get older, not worse?
Are you on the pill? Because it could be a side effect. Try a different brand and see if your skin improves.
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Posted 29 June 2011 - 08:44 AM
QT, Tiam, Gothos: Thanks guys 
Usually I feel pretty confident about my decsion, but whenever I talk to him, it fills me with doubt....and I do not like it. And I can't help but feel like an asshole because he's so sad and heartbroken over this, and I'm...not. Not as much, anyway.
I totally agree that a clean break is the best option, but it's hard because we own an apartment together. And there'll be no true break until that is sorted out...which may very well take months.
Ack!
Usually I feel pretty confident about my decsion, but whenever I talk to him, it fills me with doubt....and I do not like it. And I can't help but feel like an asshole because he's so sad and heartbroken over this, and I'm...not. Not as much, anyway.
I totally agree that a clean break is the best option, but it's hard because we own an apartment together. And there'll be no true break until that is sorted out...which may very well take months.
Ack!
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Posted 29 June 2011 - 09:00 AM
Dunno, buy him a stripper or something.
As for his state: it's been scientifically proven that guys tend to be more broken up after a breakup than gals. A guy's partner becomes, over time, a very strong element of his self, a large part of who he is. Losing that we lose our identity and get seriously confused with the world, as well as lose tremendous amounts of self-worth. We also don't tend to confide in friends (guys don't really talk about feelings, at least most that aren't me), you're more likely to see alcohol. But he'll get over it. And quite frankly, he shouldn't show you any weakness, but that's just my pov.
Hell. People say that unrequited love is like suffering a breakup without having the advantage of actually being in a relationship, and it took me 2 years to get over one.
As for his state: it's been scientifically proven that guys tend to be more broken up after a breakup than gals. A guy's partner becomes, over time, a very strong element of his self, a large part of who he is. Losing that we lose our identity and get seriously confused with the world, as well as lose tremendous amounts of self-worth. We also don't tend to confide in friends (guys don't really talk about feelings, at least most that aren't me
), you're more likely to see alcohol. But he'll get over it. And quite frankly, he shouldn't show you any weakness, but that's just my pov.Hell. People say that unrequited love is like suffering a breakup without having the advantage of actually being in a relationship, and it took me 2 years to get over one.
It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.
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Posted 29 June 2011 - 09:13 AM
I like it when people say scientifically proven. Shouldn't everyone have figured out by now that there are just as many idiots in academics as there is in other occupations?
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Posted 29 June 2011 - 09:16 AM
Brynjar, on 29 June 2011 - 09:13 AM, said:
I like it when people say scientifically proven. Shouldn't everyone have figured out by now that there are just as many idiots in academics as there is in other occupations?
Feeling better yet?
It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.
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Posted 29 June 2011 - 09:16 AM
Guys tend to take breakups worse? Wow, good thing I was just a man-whore for all those years. Certainly worked for me. While I still remain on good terms (and even friends) with the vast majority, I don't think I ever "mourned" when they inevitably moved on. It was usually their decision, which I was cool with as it mostly meant they had found someone they liked and no longer needed a booty call. 
Then again, this is from the guy who has been in a relationship for 18 months or so and she and her daughter are moving up here to live with me in the new year.
La Sombra, quietly freaking out ...
Then again, this is from the guy who has been in a relationship for 18 months or so and she and her daughter are moving up here to live with me in the new year.
La Sombra, quietly freaking out ...
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Posted 29 June 2011 - 09:47 AM
Gothos, on 29 June 2011 - 09:16 AM, said:
Brynjar, on 29 June 2011 - 09:13 AM, said:
I like it when people say scientifically proven. Shouldn't everyone have figured out by now that there are just as many idiots in academics as there is in other occupations?
Feeling better yet?
No, actually I pulled a muscle playing football yesterday. Hurts like shit walking now.
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Posted 29 June 2011 - 12:03 PM
indeed!
WMWMG: all my friends do stuff but due to lack of moneys i cant join
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