Andorion, on 08 June 2015 - 05:28 PM, said:
What you said about building your own support networks is exaclty what I think. You can't rely on people to help you just because you are related. For example one of the people who really helped us, who has always been there for us is a colleague of my mothers who has now become practically part of the family. We know that in an emergency he will be there for us. Similarly I know three of my friends will come to help if I call them. I know people say blood is thicker than water, but not always.
We are currently finding this with my Gran. She's 90 and flatbound due to ill health, she only gets out occasionally when well enough for someone to take her out a short distance in the car. There's all sorts of family politics involved with my Dad and his siblings from when my Grandad died, but at the moment by Dad and Aunt do everything for my Gran and the other two never bother. I live 60 odd miles away and visit when I go home, and she sees far more of me than her two sons who both live no more than ten minutes drive away.
So in short, I agree with the building of own support networks and not necessarily relying on blood to be thicker than water (however you wish to go about proving that in the name of science!)
Still, I'm sorry to hear of both yours and Amph's situations.

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