Ain, on 15 January 2012 - 06:03 AM, said:
I find myself in a bewilderment, a most perplexing one. About three weeks back I accepted an invite to go to my friend's school formal, an extremely flattering offer if there ever was one. This takes place on the 17th of February. During all this time, however, another friend of mine, one of my best friends in fact, was planning her 18th birthday. It was all she talked about, and it happens that the much-anticipated event also falls on the 17th of February.
I am honestly torn. Which one do I go to? Going to both is impossible, and I don't want to disappoint either of them. Looks like I'm going to have to. Too much of a good thing, eh?
You accepted an invitation to a formal event, done deal. Apologise to 18th birthday girl but what's done is done.
Excuse youreself after the formal itself and get to the 18th, although by then being full of 18 year olds they probably passed out after their 2nd beer hours ago ...
I would suggest you also get yourself a wall planner, or use your touchphone calendar function (they're not just for internet and music you know

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I must say I'm a little annoyed by this modern notion of "provisional acceptance" ie people will accept whatever invitations without checking their calendars - and considering how many people worship their touchphones means they have no excuse - but only until something better comes along. Check your dates and only accept an invitation if you mean it. If something better comes up after your initial acceptance ... tough. An acceptance to a formal event is you having given your word. It's up to you if keeping it means anything to you.
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