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worry, on 20 August 2025 - 02:08 PM, said:

How very dare you sir!

My sons ADHD makes it sometimes hard to manage him, but my wife and I (and to an extent our daughter) have learned tactics to help ease him through outbursts and issues...his cousins don't get it.

My sister in law (who I have always butted heads with) also doesn't get it...while simultaneously dealing with her own Neurodivergent child, but not offering the same quarter to her nephew. It's baffling.

Everyone is at the cottage right now, together (since Sunday), I'm not there yet, heading up tonight as I had to work.

Anyways, the other kids (11, 10, 9, 9, 9, 8) all reject him (6.5) playing with them, get angry at him for hyperfixations (like a song he'll repeatedly sing, or some phrase he focuses on saying over and over), or last ight when all the kids were sleeping in the same room together, but some of them threw an absolute screaming fit when my son said he wanted to join them. with 11 saying that he would keep them up, or wake up in the night and disturb them...My sister in law automatically jumped on her kids side (she always does this, she does not have a "let's look at this in a balanced way" bone in her body...if her kids are involved, she's on their side no matter what they do), of the two that kicked off hardest (11 and 9) about it, 11 is the one with her own neurodivergence and my sister in law told my wife to "Watch what she says around 11, as she's going internalize it and it will affect her mental health"....not even a whisper of a thought for how her nephew will feel being roundly rejected by the whole group of kids. Son eventually was so upset that my wife had to sit with him in her room till he cried himself to sleep.

As someone who is far away and can't be there to help yet, this made me angry....yes they are just kids but my gods, have a talk with them about how he can't help his emotions and behaviour and he's trying his best.

Sidebar: last time this happened, my 9 year old nephew was getting annoyed by my son and angrily shouting at him to stop (I think he was singing a song) and my sister in law said to my son "I'm just warning you that 9 has been known to use physical violence recently when he gets upset, so you better stop bothering him"....so her son resorting to violence becuase he's annoyed is AOK and if he attacks your nephew that's okay too? WHAT THE HECK? This same nephew last time we were up there out of the blue called me Uncle Fatty...I told his mom and she laughed and said "Ah he's a kid"

Anyways, this morning my son slept the longest (which is usually his thing, he's a good sleeper) and my wife pointed that out to my sister in law who immediately got her back up again and said "He wouldn't' have if he'd slept up there with the kids"...just....ugh.


So now I'm walking into a fraught family vacation here everyone is in a mood, and I have to keep my cool, while also making sure to support my son as he navigates all this. My goal is to make sure he knows that I know he's trying his best, and it's not his fault and that his cousins simply cannot understand and their mother is not bothering to help them to.

So...weeeeee....looking forward to relaxing at the cottage /s

sigh

worry, on 15 August 2025 - 03:26 PM, said:

....like Cloud Atlas? Ooooooo, that seems cool.

QuickTidal, on 02 June 2023 - 01:09 PM, said:

So it turns out that neither of these summations is accurate and instead that Shelly is alive, fine and has now been referred to by Jenna Miscavige (ex-Scinetologist and niece to David and Shelly) as the "Ghislaine Maxwell to David's Jeffrey Epstein" and that she's always been just as awful as David and has done the same horrible things to those around her.

So that's a bombshell. I think we were all operating on the notion that Leah Remini peddled for there last decade or more that her "friend" was a victim and missing...when it turns out she's just a terrible human being and is still in the cult doing nasty things for the cult.

Also re-watched MR. BASEBALL. I still love that movie. Also the fact that it avoids being overtly racist like most movies that took place in Japan but were about Americans.....it sticks pretty hard to the American-fish-out-of-water tropes where Selleck's character is the butt of the jokes...and avoids doing too much "Look at these crazy Japanese people" thing that other films in that era fell into.

The only thing I don't like is the ending. Jack going back to America feels like a regression. They literally didn't want him there but no one was willing to help him get his stride back....but in Japan with the support of the Japanese players and managers around him, he does...so I feel like he should have stayed with the Dragons, and then Hiroki would not have had to move.