Cause, on Dec 27 2008, 04:13 AM, said:
Well, Cause, I can certainly relate. Where I live there are certain things I am expected to be a part of in a way, and when I'm not a part of it people look strangely at me or at least differently. Of course not all people are like that, and I'm not sure I'd loose a boyfriend over it or anything, but I can certainly relate to the kind of estrangement you feel when you're 'outside the box' so to speak. All societies have these kind of 'norms', and if you're outside of it, you're seen as not fitting in. I would not for instance say, in an interview for a job, that I believe in God. I might be seen as not fitting in with the company policy.
Neither am I saying that I am a victim; lots of people seem to respect my integrity, but I can certainly feel some may avoid me or see me in a certain way that I don't agree with.
But I am quite used to it, since it has been part of my entire life. I remember I got laughed at in 3rd grade because I said I believed in what the bible said about people getting very old. Even the teacher showed disdain. Ever since those episodes I've learned that certain beliefs are not welcome, and I of course never spoke up very much in school that semester.
I don't want to say I am a victim or anything - I just recognize that there are certain views that accepted by society and that others aren't. It's the way you learn integrity and to fight for your beliefs. Not to say that it was correct to ridicule me, but the way I see it, there's a lot of ignorance where this comes from, as to people that are different from the mainstream, so to speak, in certain social groups.
As a side not, and in retrospect, I think it was healthier for me to actually be criticized for what I believed than not. I wouldn't have wanted to be raised in an environment where everything I believed was the mainstream. It would seriously have messed up my intellectual capabilities. I wouldn't have wanted to be raised in USA - in some ways, the society over there is way too unforgiving of individual thinking and intellectual complexity <-- my view, might not be correct, but it's how I see it (sorry).
This post has been edited by Gem Windcaster: 27 December 2008 - 02:19 PM