[Mentalist]

Pulled smth in my left leg yest. We lost a game while having a 2 man advantage the whole damn game, b/c our striker and one of my fellow defenders weren't actually running for the loose balls.

I think that since I was so pissed off at that I went extra hard, which is how I ended up feeling it about halfway through the second half.

On the bright side, no game for my other team this week, so I have until the end of the long weekend to recover

This post has been edited by Mentalist: 31 July 2017 - 01:30 PM

[TheRetiredBridgeburner]

Sorry to hear Morgoth. Even if it's kind of expected, it's still a hard situation to deal with.

This post has been edited by TheRetiredBridgeburner: 31 July 2017 - 06:21 PM

[Traveller]

Morgoth, on 31 July 2017 - 10:54 AM, said:

amphibian, on 31 July 2017 - 10:18 AM, said:

What was the fight about?

She's insecure and anxious about social situations which made her feel bad and upset which again led to her taking it out on me in ways. It was manageable i thought, there's a lot of stuff about her and our relationship that was great enough I could look past it. But on this vacation, especially the time we spent with my family, it became too much. I don't mind supporting her when she feels upset, but I can't spend every moment worrying about her and whether I'll do something that'll make her angry. Or jealous. She got jealous about the weirdest stuff and I just couldn't deal with it anymore, especially since I'm not the jealous type.

I had hoped she'd feel less insecure the longer we were together, and the more time we spent with my family (we've gone on cabin trips, birthdays and such in the past) but it never seemed to get better.

This jealousy thing is weird and destructive and I cannot understand it, or why it never seems to go away. It was the only thing that made me wary about getting married - I thought it would get better once married.. then when we had children.. but no, it still rears up now as ugly as ever.

Mostly to do with my ex, who I was with from about age 17-23 (goddamn 20 years ago now) but also any other woman I ever talk to. But my ex remained good friends with my brother, they live close together and their kids play when they visit or go out.

Any mention of her to my wife though, and it's like hitting an insanity button. She gets into a foul mood, and treats me like she's just walked in on me wirh someone else. And.. she's never met her, knows little about her, and for fucks sake it's been a good 12 years since I even saw her!

It doesn't come up much as we live in different parts of the country, but it means I've had to miss events with my brother because of the shitstorm I'd have to endure as a certain person would be there too.

Well this September will be fun... my brother and his girlfriend of 15 years have decided for some reason (maybe their kids) to get married. And we're all invited. Kids, wife and all. On the plus side I might actually get to see some friends I've not seen in years. On the downside - crazy unreasonable mode will kick in if I so much as acknowledge her, and I'll get shit for weeks if I do/say the 'wrong' thing.

Just saying, you've probably made a wise choice there Morgoth.

This post has been edited by Traveller: 31 July 2017 - 09:12 PM

[Puck]

Traveller, on 31 July 2017 - 08:42 PM, said:

This jealousy thing is weird and destructive and I cannot understand it, or why it never seems to go away. [...]

^ This, big time. I've been the third wheel in these situations several times and it's ruined enough friendships that I'm really weary of getting into that situation again. Been good friends with guys with jealous/insecure girlfriends a couple of times and if there's one thing that turns me off people now it's a clingy significant other. Thanks, but no, thanks. I could've been screaming in their faces that I'm not even hetero and absolutely, utterly not their guys' type AT ALL, you, girl, are, but it would've been pointless. It starts with "My gf wants to come too when we watch this movie/play this game she's zero interested in" and ends with "sorry, you're great, but my gf is too unhappy when we hang out". My groove is messed with by just thinking about it, because I actually miss the people I don't get to see anymore because of that. Ugh.

[Gust Hubb]

Fucking traffic. I swear, I thought when I left Denver I wouldn't have to deal with it as much. Which is true, except rush hour, at 4 pm?! WTF.


EDIT: Instead of double posting....

Chat is down for the first time I tried it in months.

And I am too fucking irritable and tired to cook as planned so throwing together a quick meal.

This post has been edited by Gust Hubb: 31 July 2017 - 10:33 PM

[Lady Bliss]

This isn't a BAD thing really, but I'm on the fence about whether to throw my name in the hat for an AVP position in Minneapolis. I think I have the experience for the job, but not sure if it would be a pay cut or worth the move. Also, if I don't get it, I don't want my boss thinking I'm looking to leave. Thoughts anyone?

[Lady Bliss]

Down South, on 01 August 2017 - 01:04 AM, said:

I'd do a bit of research to see if it is indeed an increase or not before the boss knows. I guess the big ?'s though are you happy where your at, would less potential pay affect your lifestyle, what is the cost of living from there to current city etc. is your boss notorious for holding grudges? Good luck.

I LIKE where I'm at now. San Francisco is amazing. But I can't really afford to live here, so long term, I will eventually be trying to move out.

[worry]

You sure? They don't call San Francisco and Minneapolis the Twin Cities for nothing.

[Silencer]

Gust Hubb, on 31 July 2017 - 10:31 PM, said:

Fucking traffic. I swear, I thought when I left Denver I wouldn't have to deal with it as much. Which is true, except rush hour, at 4 pm?! WTF.


EDIT: Instead of double posting....

Chat is down for the first time I tried it in months.

And I am too fucking irritable and tired to cook as planned so throwing together a quick meal.

Psh, come to Auckland, rush hour is like 3:30pm to 6:30pm every day. XD


As for chat, it is down permanently. Refer a post in the help forum, but IP Board have pulled the plug and I'm contemplating replacements because no-one really used it anyway.

[Tsundoku]

Auckland peak hour:

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[Loki]

One of my child sponsorships is coming to an end. I've been sponsoring Enkhjin for four/five years now and she is my second sponsor child who I have sponsored through to completion (the first I sponsored for a decade). It's always a really bitter sweet occasion because I'm happy for her and her community but I'm also going to miss her. I still regularly wonder what became of my other completed sponsorship kid. She'd be in her twenties now. Ugh. I'm sad now.

[Gust Hubb]

Down South, on 01 August 2017 - 01:15 AM, said:

I would think SF would prob have a higher cost of living then Minneapolis. Def do some research on that and try to figure out what the pay scale is of job. $ isn't everything but don't fuck yourself without deep research.

I totally agree with BK here. Definitely do a pros and cons list and also work in moving costs and the like (you don't want to be trapped in SF when you eventually do have to leave because of finances, so a preemptive strike may behoove you).

How would the boss know you are looking elsewhere? And would he be amenable to honest conversation regarding your situation (e.g. tell him you cannot afford long term and discuss raise vs having his help moving to a new place?)

[Gust Hubb]

Silencer, on 01 August 2017 - 07:23 AM, said:

Gust Hubb, on 31 July 2017 - 10:31 PM, said:

Fucking traffic. I swear, I thought when I left Denver I wouldn't have to deal with it as much. Which is true, except rush hour, at 4 pm?! WTF.


EDIT: Instead of double posting....

Chat is down for the first time I tried it in months.

And I am too fucking irritable and tired to cook as planned so throwing together a quick meal.

Psh, come to Auckland, rush hour is like 3:30pm to 6:30pm every day. XD


As for chat, it is down permanently. Refer a post in the help forum, but IP Board have pulled the plug and I'm contemplating replacements because no-one really used it anyway.

I Psh you Psh. Denver was like this all fucking day long! Stupid Californians coming in and mucking it all up (I am a CA native btw... maybe I shouldn't have volunteered that...)

[Lady Bliss]

Gust Hubb, on 01 August 2017 - 01:15 PM, said:

Down South, on 01 August 2017 - 01:15 AM, said:

I would think SF would prob have a higher cost of living then Minneapolis. Def do some research on that and try to figure out what the pay scale is of job. $ isn't everything but don't fuck yourself without deep research.

I totally agree with BK here. Definitely do a pros and cons list and also work in moving costs and the like (you don't want to be trapped in SF when you eventually do have to leave because of finances, so a preemptive strike may behoove you).

How would the boss know you are looking elsewhere? And would he be amenable to honest conversation regarding your situation (e.g. tell him you cannot afford long term and discuss raise vs having his help moving to a new place?)

It would be a move within the same company and veeps talk.

[Mentalist]

Having to slide plastic mats under desks with a pulled leg muscle that makes crouching irritating. Not fun.

In theory, I should let it rest another day and hit the pool tomorrow. But it's supposed to thunderstorm today, so that plan may not work out...

This post has been edited by Mentalist: 01 August 2017 - 03:19 PM

[Macros]

I don't understand the jealousy people.
If you don't trust someone, don't be with them.
If you try use that bullshit of 'its not you I don't trust, it's other people' fuck off too.

I never have and never will tolerate that nonsense, any girl I'm with is made aware that I have a few really close friends that are girls, if they can't handle that, then the door is over there

[Vengeance]

I punched my punching bag at a bad angle. My hand wasn't lined up with my arm or my shoulder. I was walking by the bag and a little pissed about something and gave it a hit. A week later I still have a bunch of pain in my carpel tunnel bones. I didn't break anything but man is it irritating.

[Macros]

You should take your irritation abiut these pains out on something

Have you considered getting a punch bag?

[Vengeance]

Macros, on 01 August 2017 - 05:06 PM, said:

You should take your irritation abiut these pains out on something

Have you considered getting a punch bag?

I assume that you mean gloves or wrapps for when i punch my bag. I have wrist wrap gloves that I wear when I am actually working on the bag. The bag is in my basement and I was pissed and walked by and throw a punch at it. I didn't line my body up like I would do if I was working out on it. It was a stupid throw and I thought that I had broken my wrist or hand immediately after. I iced my hand and was able to move all of my fingers with out issue. But I have some bruising and inflamation right above my carpals bones.

[Vengeance]

Gust Hubb, on 01 August 2017 - 01:16 PM, said:

Silencer, on 01 August 2017 - 07:23 AM, said:

Gust Hubb, on 31 July 2017 - 10:31 PM, said:

Fucking traffic. I swear, I thought when I left Denver I wouldn't have to deal with it as much. Which is true, except rush hour, at 4 pm?! WTF.


EDIT: Instead of double posting....

Chat is down for the first time I tried it in months.

And I am too fucking irritable and tired to cook as planned so throwing together a quick meal.

Psh, come to Auckland, rush hour is like 3:30pm to 6:30pm every day. XD


As for chat, it is down permanently. Refer a post in the help forum, but IP Board have pulled the plug and I'm contemplating replacements because no-one really used it anyway.

I Psh you Psh. Denver was like this all fucking day long! Stupid Californians coming in and mucking it all up (I am a CA native btw... maybe I shouldn't have volunteered that...)

Psh your both Psh. Chicago has rush hour from 6am till 10pm all day every day. On lucky days rush hour will last until past midnight and start at 4am. Oh we have express lanes to help alleviate some of that, but if there is a fucking accident in those then you aren't leaving them for hours. I don't go into the express lanes.