[Andorion]

QuickTidal, on 03 February 2017 - 04:03 PM, said:

Boo. Sorry man.

Its ok. I am kind of used to things like this, like for example how Kobo readers are not available in India.

Abebooks and Betterworld books do ship and that itself is huge. I am going to create accounts on both. I remember last year when Amazon arbitrarily delaed FoL for two months. If they do ship, then I at least have a choice

[Raymond Luxury Yacht]

My wife is in the hospital with a severe asthma flairup caused by a terrible sinus infection. She expects to be there for a few days.

[Loki]

Raymond Luxury Yacht, on 03 February 2017 - 05:35 PM, said:

My wife is in the hospital with a severe asthma flairup caused by a terrible sinus infection. She expects to be there for a few days.

Asthma is a bastard. Not being able to breathe is terrifying. I hope she improves quickly and without any issues.

The last time I was in hospital, the woman in the bed next to mine sprayed half a can of deodorant on herself which set off an attack. I was already on oxygen. Her response afterwards was 'how was I supposed to know?' I have never wanted to hurt a stranger so badly in my life.

[Abyss]

Loki, on 03 February 2017 - 05:42 PM, said:

Raymond Luxury Yacht, on 03 February 2017 - 05:35 PM, said:

My wife is in the hospital with a severe asthma flairup caused by a terrible sinus infection. She expects to be there for a few days.

Asthma is a bastard. Not being able to breathe is terrifying. I hope she improves quickly and without any issues.

The last time I was in hospital, the woman in the bed next to mine sprayed half a can of deodorant on herself which set off an attack. I was already on oxygen. Her response afterwards was 'how was I supposed to know?' I have never wanted to hurt a stranger so badly in my life.

Was clubbing her to death with the O2 tank contrary to hospital policy or something?

[Slow Ben]

Hope she gets better quickly RLY.

[Raymond Luxury Yacht]

She's still in the hospital, unlikely to come home tomorrow.

[QuickTidal]

Raymond Luxury Yacht, on 04 February 2017 - 06:56 AM, said:

She's still in the hospital, unlikely to come home tomorrow.

Sending good vibes for her RLY.

[Morgoth]

First day of work after having returned from Cambodia. It's cold. It's snowing and I have almost 500 new e-mails to go through.

[EmperorMagus]

In other news, it snowed again and now there is another apocalypse in this city.

FFS, it's Canada and the city runs out of road salt ...

[Andorion]

Cheesewiz, on 07 February 2017 - 05:04 AM, said:

I knew this spring/winter I've been having was not normal but I was really shocked to hear our weatherman actually say we ve been 20 degrees above average in my area. That's crazy...

Bengal weather! BK start planting Mango trees. They are delicious

[Puck]

Missed my train 'cause mother dearest decided to throw a hissy fit for whatever reason. Possibly because I did not thank her enough for arranging for me to meet a client AFTER I've already been out for work and back for eleven hours (long-ish) commute. Because I deal with stress so well these days, like almost puking and panic attack well. What's wrong with meeting tomorrow, when I'm off regular work and can drop by the shop I'm supposed to do shit for?

/rant

[Macros]

This storm BK?


Makes me glad that there's a bunch of climate change deniers and coal barons in the White House this term

[Mezla PigDog]

Goddamned Human Resources! I'm trying to arrange the paperwork for my return to work after maternity leave. We are taking Shared Parental Leave where Mr PigDog does the at home part of some of my maternity leave and I go out and earn a crust. Nobody in either of our companies have taken the Shared bit before so we have two HR departments trying to pretend that they understand what to do and giving us bad advice or plain not answering emails for ages. I can't believe nobody else has used it, it's a sweet deal and one of the only things Nick Clegg got right in the coalition government. Uptake is about 2% supposedly.

[worry]

Weather Channel believes in climate change. They are Fake News.

[Loki]

A friend made a seemingly harmless comment which for some reason didn't sit right with me. I sent them a message asking if everything was okay and got a whole lot of unexpected and concerning insight into their relationship.

I'm now in a situation where I don't know how concerned to be. It's one of those situations that isn't clearly abusive ie physically abusive, but it's also obviously not healthy either. But outwardly you wouldn't know there were any issues.

My friend kept making excuses and minimising their partner's actions and questioning if things were really as bad as they thought or if it was mostly in their head. The more we spoke the more it became clear that they had been told that they were overreacting/were confused/didn't hear/see what they thought they did etc so often that they had started questioning their own mind. I stated some things that they had mentioned that couldn't have been made up and showed them that things weren't in their head and that they were bad and that they shouldn't second guess themselves.

I did my best to give practical advice and suggestions for things to try and/or say whilst simultaneously reinforcing that the behaviour they were concerned about *isn't* normal or acceptable and that they had every right to be upset/concerned. I also mentioned that I felt they had become apathetic over time because I myself would have been downright furious about certain things.

Beyond making it clear I am there for them, I'm not sure what else to do. Plus, everything was told in confidence so I can't discuss it with friends/mutual friends. I'm not even sure if I should be posting about it here but it's been really weighing on me and stopping me from sleeping.

This post has been edited by Loki: 08 February 2017 - 04:57 PM

[amphibian]

You are not a lawyer or a therapist. There are no official rules preventing you from telling other people if you believe there is a concern or even danger. Having people be aware might be worth the ire of your friend being angry about the sharing.

Really sorry your friend is being gaslit and manipulated. Hope the friend breaks free and gets help sooner rather than later.

This post has been edited by amphibian: 08 February 2017 - 05:17 PM

[Loki]

amphibian, on 08 February 2017 - 05:17 PM, said:

You are not a lawyer or a therapist. There are no official rules preventing you from telling other people if you believe there is a concern or even danger. Having people be aware might be worth the ire of your friend being angry about the sharing.

Really sorry your friend is being gaslit and manipulated. Hope the friend breaks free and gets help sooner rather than later.

I don't see how breaking their confidence will do any good and it will most certainly do some harm since I'm the first person they have fully confided in. It would likely make them avoid confiding in someone again.

I mean, I tell a mutual friend about it and then what?

I think I must be misinterpreting what you are suggesting as it reads to me like you're suggesting using shaming or peer-pressure to get them to do something. Which doesn't sound like something you'd suggest so I'm confused. It's also 3:30am and I haven't slept in over a day so my mind is a little mushy.

[Vengeance]

I fucking hate people who send an email about something then immediately follow it up with a fucking phone call. Before I even get the fucking email. Why the fuck did you even fucking bother to send the god dam email to begin with? Either call or send a fucking email don't do both. If it is important and you want me to look at it promptly then a call 5 minutes after you send it may be appropriate if I haven't answered your email.

Honestly it makes me want to get you off of the phone as soon as possible and then completely ignore you because of your retarded manners.

[Vengeance]

Mezla PigDog, on 07 February 2017 - 10:50 PM, said:

Goddamned Human Resources! I'm trying to arrange the paperwork for my return to work after maternity leave. We are taking Shared Parental Leave where Mr PigDog does the at home part of some of my maternity leave and I go out and earn a crust. Nobody in either of our companies have taken the Shared bit before so we have two HR departments trying to pretend that they understand what to do and giving us bad advice or plain not answering emails for ages. I can't believe nobody else has used it, it's a sweet deal and one of the only things Nick Clegg got right in the coalition government. Uptake is about 2% supposedly.

Yeah the wife thought that was a brilliant idea. She was very pissed that we have such shitty leave here in the US

[QuickTidal]

Vengeance, on 08 February 2017 - 06:25 PM, said:

I fucking hate people who send an email about something then immediately follow it up with a fucking phone call. Before I even get the fucking email. Why the fuck did you even fucking bother to send the god dam email to begin with? Either call or send a fucking email don't do both. If it is important and you want me to look at it promptly then a call 5 minutes after you send it may be appropriate if I haven't answered your email.

Honestly it makes me want to get you off of the phone as soon as possible and then completely ignore you because of your retarded manners.

You have my sympathy. This happens to me on a DAILY GODDAMNED BASIS. An almost hourly basis. And when I ask why they called me if they emailed me...they say "To make sure you got my email"....fuuuuuuuuuuck!