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#9260 amphibian

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Posted 24 October 2011 - 12:46 PM

It may seem counter-productive, but having an actual fistfight will speed up the healing of the cookie cataclysm.

Like Maia, I suspect that this is more an overarching issue that is using this particular biscuit blow-up as a pre-text. I bet your friend believes that recent actions on your part show a bit of selfishness or thoughtlessness for him and/or others. You can either fight it out, assess your own conduct and fix anything that needs fixing while letting it pass or you can avoid interacting with your friend until it subsides.

I'd fight, but that's because I'm sorta wired that way.

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Posted 24 October 2011 - 01:10 PM

Ain, on 24 October 2011 - 10:39 AM, said:

Two things.

One: A female friend of mine is trying to have a coherent and logical debate about feminism and she's not taking any wildly biased stance. And all she's returning are a cavalcade of perverted calls and sexist remarks. Some of them from people I know. They are acting like total pigs and just reading it makes me feel sick.

Is this on Facebook? And if so, how come anyone expected anything else?

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Two: So last week I ate my friend's biscuit when I was in his house. He seems to have taken this as a massive personal affront and now he's acting colder than winter towards me. Apparently there's also more to it....which is news to me, because I hardly ever talk down to him or whatever. So yeah, possible friendship ending, all because I decided to eat his biscuit. It's about respect or something...yeah.

And all this before my last day of school too.

Fun.

EDIT: In regards to the 2nd, what do I do?

C-O-M-M-U-N-I-C-A-T-E. In person. Ask. Then say sorry. It might be PDA related, it might be he likes your girl, too, it might be he feels you're not paying enough attention to your best mate, it might be he envies you. Whatever, yuo'll only find out if you ask. And if he answers honestly, of course.

Then, when it is settled, for his next birthday, in addition to whatever you;d normally buy him, buy 1 teensy tiny biscuit, wrap it with a big pink bow and add a poem that's overly soppy emo so that he can't mistake it for anything but sarcasm, and give it to him.

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Posted 24 October 2011 - 01:30 PM

After working harder this year than the previous 2 years put together, my boss rewards me with...no raise.

OK, I think I got it, but just in case, can you say the whole thing over again? I wasn't really listening.

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Posted 24 October 2011 - 01:42 PM

Ain, on 24 October 2011 - 11:13 AM, said:

Seeing as he's my best friend, I would appreciate some actual advice...thanks.

Sorry, I was serious. Calling him on being sensitive to shit like that will bring it into the open. If you get into a tussle about it that's normal, guys are guys.

"what should I do? How should I handle it?" That's looking for headgames as a way out.

Just stand in front of him and ask him point blank if he has a problem. It's not the easiest thing to do, but it's the most straightforward.

Most likely you'll have it out (if he does have a problem) and get what is bothering him into the open and sort it out from there.

In my experience when I fought with my best friends in my life it either was a big blowout after which we forgave, or we shoved each other around or traded a punch or two and forgave.

Unless you slept with his sister or his mom....you can work it out.

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Posted 24 October 2011 - 02:44 PM

A major fuckup by an inept coworker put the company at risk. Again. And I let it slip by my safety net somehow. I'll now have to reverse in development to watch her hands closely now. GAH.

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#9265 HiddenOne

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Posted 24 October 2011 - 03:51 PM

Gothos, on 24 October 2011 - 02:44 PM, said:

A major fuckup by an inept coworker put the company at risk. Again. And I let it slip by my safety net somehow. I'll now have to reverse in development to watch her hands closely now. GAH.

Give her a taste of the cat o'Nine Tails

Seriously, my underlings & overlings screw up all the time. Now I've decided to join them without shame!!! But it doesn't help the stress level, because I'm conditioned for perfection, so I keep forgetting that I don't give a damn

HiddenOne. You son of a bitch. You slimy, skulking, low-posting scumbag. You knew it would come to this. Roundabout, maybe. Tortuous, certainly. But here we are, you and me again. I started the train on you so many many hours ago, and now I'm going to finish it. Die HO. Die. This is for last time, and this is for this game too. This is for all the people who died to your backstabbing, treacherous, "I sure don't know what's going on around here" filthy lying, deceitful ways. You son of a bitch. Whatever happens, this is justice. For me, this is justice. Vote HiddenOne Finally, I am at peace.

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Posted 24 October 2011 - 04:56 PM

Ain, on 24 October 2011 - 10:39 AM, said:

The biscuit dimension to this story is pretty crazy! There must some other root cause which will refer to the respect issue. The only thing for it is to ask him what's up. Go along the lines of: "If I've done something to offend you, I really didn't mean to and can you elaborate so that I can avoid repeating the mistake". Then see if he comes up with a respectable reason. If he does, then fair enough you can discuss it and move on. If he doesn't then you have to decide if your friend is actually worth the hassle of sorting it out or not.

Lots of friendships die on the route through life, you can't change people so you just have to decide if the effort a particular friendship requires from you is worth it or not. Don't take it personally if someone sees your actions in a way that is not how you intended and can't understand your POV (assuming reasonable behaviour on your part of course).

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Posted 24 October 2011 - 05:00 PM

Arg! The email server at work is using the same system as an VERY antiquated docket logging system that went down...so the tech guy had to restart the server. I lost email access for about a half an hour.

Then after it is restarted my Mail proggy is asking me for the password (which I only ever had to put in ONCE when I started the job a year ago), and since it is a POP server it's not something that is in Mac Keychain access. So I can't get my email. The tech guy is out at lunch....he takes long lunches....and I can't do my fucking work!

Goddamn! The server issue didn't even AFFECT me, it only had to be restarted because of the docket logging system.

I am a ball of fucking annoyance right now.

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Posted 24 October 2011 - 08:48 PM

I found out this afternoon that my boss - who I really like and who is probably one of the best bosses I've ever had - is leaving the company in a few weeks. And knowing my luck, her replacement will be a total psychopath with delusions of grandeur who'll make me hate a job that I really do enjoy. Hmph.

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#9269 worry

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Posted 24 October 2011 - 10:38 PM

Sounds like everybody's got a case of the Mondays!

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Posted 25 October 2011 - 12:53 AM

HiddenOne, on 24 October 2011 - 03:51 PM, said:

Gothos, on 24 October 2011 - 02:44 PM, said:

A major fuckup by an inept coworker put the company at risk. Again. And I let it slip by my safety net somehow. I'll now have to reverse in development to watch her hands closely now. GAH.

Wrong product. You need:

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#9271 Slow Ben

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Posted 25 October 2011 - 01:39 AM

worrywort, on 24 October 2011 - 10:38 PM, said:

Sounds like everybody's got a case of the Mondays!

I believe you'd get your ass kicked sayin something like that man....

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#9272 Loki

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Posted 25 October 2011 - 04:14 AM

The lack of critical thinking people do these days.

Wry, on 29 February 2012 - 10:50 AM, said:

And you're not complaining, you're criticizing. It's a side-effect of being better than everyone else, I get it sometimes too.

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Posted 25 October 2011 - 09:51 AM

Well, turns out it was a good deal less serious than I thought...it's all good now. :unworthy:

But I'm sad because today was my last official day of school. Here it is...

Suck it Errant!

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#9274 Tsundoku

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Posted 25 October 2011 - 10:19 AM

Diarrhoea.

My system only calmed down in the last few hours. Started around midnight last night. No other symptoms. Had to go to the RAP at work and get the day off, which I spent intermittently asleep.

Much better now though, I had some sandwiches a little while ago and thus far no adverse effects. Hopefully I'll be OK for tomorrow, but I'll take it a bit easy at PT.

Stupid system, why can't you work perfectly all the time??? :unworthy:

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Posted 25 October 2011 - 10:53 AM

Thanks for the beautiful images there Sombra Posted Image

I've been sick, now I am back at work which is just sucky at the moment and I have some pretty big choices coming up which I am going to have to decide on... and could change my life significantly right now. BAH I want to eat ice cream and sit in the corner ignoring the world!

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Posted 25 October 2011 - 03:36 PM

Work is tediously slow and boring today!

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Posted 25 October 2011 - 06:02 PM

Maia Irraz, on 24 October 2011 - 08:48 PM, said:

Stop this from happening by applying for your boss's job.

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#9278 tiam

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Posted 25 October 2011 - 06:49 PM

Tried to contribute towards my PGCE application and the website has locked me out despite me confirming my email address for it. Not a massive deal but I really want this to go well.

EDIT- ignore me im a fucking idiot

EDITTED EDIT- So the website did let me in I was applying to the wrong section. However the more I look into this and the more I can see what they want from me the more im convinced that its not going to happen. I want to teach history yet my specific field is in Ancient History and all of the modules I have put down are irrelevant to the national syllabus. I am more than happy and quite looking forward to relearning alot of the more modern aspects of history but I really hope they give me the opportunity to atleast give it a go.

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#9279 LadyMTL

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Posted 25 October 2011 - 08:32 PM

Someshta, on 25 October 2011 - 06:02 PM, said:

Maia Irraz, on 24 October 2011 - 08:48 PM, said:

Stop this from happening by applying for your boss's job.

Oh man, if I did that they'd probably laugh themselves silly and then fire me. I'm the most junior person in my department, for one thing, and I really do not have what it takes to be the department director...at least, not yet. :unworthy:

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