Arsewipe McBogroll the Third, on 17 August 2011 - 07:41 PM, said:
She would use it against me and tell everyone that I used her for sex I think. One of the reasons I think shes so negative is that any possible spin she can put on something she takes it negatively. For example I said I didnt want to get back with her and she then went on to tell me since weve been broken up hes been on a few dates and has lads lining up to wine and dine her sorta thing. My response was 'fine,well if youve moved on...' to which her reply was 'no wait I really love you etc'. Thats another thing shes very bipolar (as in clinically bipolar and depressive and had anti depressants in the past) so depending on how she feels shes prone to huge mood swings. Even though were not back together yet and only in our early 20s shes also saying she wants us to move in together and have a baby. Im unsure what to make of this new development tbh.
Be strong mate. Move on.
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Centzon Totochtin, on 18 August 2011 - 05:21 AM, said:
Yes yes I do... I'm not sure that's how I would define Sombra however
Loki, on 18 August 2011 - 06:07 AM, said:
Gatekeeper, on 18 August 2011 - 05:18 AM, said:
Cent- Noooooooo!!! Do you need a fine young soldier to take care of you?? Sooommmbbrraa!!!
Brightside to getting a fever....oh wait, Sombra....nevermind.....
*shrug* fair enough, no skin off my nose if you suffer ...
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Posted 18 August 2011 - 11:10 AM
Having to meet my friend in the city tomorrow super early for this modelling thing for her studio art folio....I really am regretting agreeing to her proposal. Also, the trains on my local line will be down because of repairs so I have no idea how I'm gonna get there. Bollocks.
-BIG MOTHERFUCKING EDIT OF IMPORTANCE-
Not quite a groove messer but I would like some opinions. I asked what Lex thought about increased intimacy/sex. Keep in mind I wasn't forcing the issue, I just wanted to know how she stood on it, as we've been going out for a while now. She said a few things, all of which are perfectly understandable, but her overriding reason to say no is that "naked people gross me out."
I've managed to be a good mind-changer when it comes to her-anyone know a way I could remove this mental block? Not that it's a desperate relationship-changing issue, it's just it might cause problems in the future. Much appreciated all.
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Having to meet my friend in the city tomorrow super early for this modelling thing for her studio art folio....I really am regretting agreeing to her proposal. Also, the trains on my local line will be down because of repairs so I have no idea how I'm gonna get there. Bollocks.
-BIG MOTHERFUCKING EDIT OF IMPORTANCE-
Not quite a groove messer but I would like some opinions. I asked what Lex thought about increased intimacy/sex. Keep in mind I wasn't forcing the issue, I just wanted to know how she stood on it, as we've been going out for a while now. She said a few things, all of which are perfectly understandable, but her overriding reason to say no is that "naked people gross me out."
I've managed to be a good mind-changer when it comes to her-anyone know a way I could remove this mental block? Not that it's a desperate relationship-changing issue, it's just it might cause problems in the future. Much appreciated all.
How long have you been going out AIJ, you're both about 17/18 right?
I take it then it would be her first time. You're both young and from your posts i'd say you seem to have a good relationship, she isn't shying away from physical contact of any sort and if she doesn't pull away after the broaching of the subject I'd say that's a good sign. She maybe was just a bit shocked when the subject came up, like wasn't expecting it but i'd just let it go and keep up the level of intimacy you currently have maybe slowly advancing as it is seems to be appreciated (god I'm making you sound like an army).
She maybe just needs some time to get used to the idea and now you've mentioned it she might consider it more and find her feelings changing on the subject, everyone moves at different rates and it is not a failing on your part if she needs more time. I hope that makes some sense .
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Not quite a groove messer but I would like some opinions. I asked what Lex thought about increased intimacy/sex. Keep in mind I wasn't forcing the issue, I just wanted to know how she stood on it, as we've been going out for a while now. She said a few things, all of which are perfectly understandable, but her overriding reason to say no is that "naked people gross me out."
I've managed to be a good mind-changer when it comes to her-anyone know a way I could remove this mental block? Not that it's a desperate relationship-changing issue, it's just it might cause problems in the future. Much appreciated all.
A tough situation. The way I would approach it is this (going to be a tad graphic here):
Ever see that scene in 40 DAYS AND 40 NIGHTS where Josh Hartnett uses a flower to slide all over mostly naked Shannyn Sossamon? You need to do an aspect of this.
Basically this is a situation that is going to require time and patience on your part, not the least of which is if she's shy about the act itself or is a virgin you certainly DON'T want to rush her, but give this a go.
The next time you are fooling around with her, spend extra time touching and kissing areas that aren't necessarily typically erogenous, arms, the hollow of her neck under her jaw, the nape of her neck just below the hairline, the curve near her waist, and depending on your state of undress her stomach and OUTER thighs. Don't actually go near her "business areas" at all, this isn't about sex, it's about senses. Be insanely gentle about it, don't talk or anything and just behave as if you were feathers on the breeze that caresses her skin. do this for as long as she will allow you to. Repeat this the next bunch of times you make out with her, and don't go beyond that. You want her to feel safe with you and so you don't want to cross any borders she's not willing to cross yet. No matter how silly you might feel, do it anyways as the sensual is the path to take here.
I dated a girl once who thought the same as Lex. Basically her mental block is because she associates sex, or higher levels of intimacy with the human body as it might be in a stark white room with garish light where you can see all the gross nooks and crannies. She can't dissociate the two images and her brain tells her it's gross. By doing some variation of the above act you will be essentially allowing her SENSES to override her brain. Her senses will tell her that this act can be unbelievably beautiful and not gross at all. I'm not saying to trick her or anything, but if you do this a few times she will hopefully decide that her senses are right and that there is more to intimacy that just nudity, and then down the line would be more open to heading that way with you.
No rush, and if you really are into her you'll both get there eventually brother.
Hope that helps, and wasn't too graphic.
Oh edit: This...is THE BEST song to make out to. Just FYI.
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Arsewipe McBogroll the Third, on 17 August 2011 - 07:41 PM, said:
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