[Gothos]

I had a dream. In that dream, me and Alice...
No, wait. Let's go back a bit.

I've once been in a more-or-less platonic relationship with a girl from Zwijndrecht, Netherlands. We're still on good terms, though that wasn't always so, and we're kind of soul mates of sorts. It's like there really can exist a friendship between man and woman.
That is Tess.

Moving on, in my own localization I at one point thought like I saw a ghost - a girl that reminded me a lot of Tess, and that was not long after I heroically broke off contact with her (she got a regular life after that so I guess it was worth it). I was struck. From the perspective of time, this new girl is absolutely gorgeous... and absolutely not my best performance in history. Over the years we've never been together, never even kissed, I was just hanging around her I guess (she was with an old buddy of mine at the time).

This is Alice. One that not even got away, the one I never caught. I've had my chance but I missed it. Now she's with a guy I don't know well but have respect for. Ever since she's been talking about dumping him I was seriously infuriated - they were (are) good together, I could see that they're a match, at some level at least. I was furious. I stopped talking to her. Today we don't even acknowledge we've been acquainted when we run into each other. I try not to think about it, but it does cause me great grief. I do hope it does not for her.

Now, the dream. We talked. We explained everything to each other, though I do not recall what it was. We got together and went to the States (why would I want to go there is a separate matter, I don't really ever want to, except NYC). Everything was so fine. In that dream, me and Alice were together.

And then I woke up.
I haven't had the feeling I never want to wake up from a dream for a LONG time. A very long time. I don't know what to make of this, but my subconscience is sending me a message. What do I make of it?

This post has been edited by Gothos: 05 November 2010 - 08:13 AM

[Centzon Totochtin]

Sombra: or you could get one of these modern phones that sync's your contacts on your phone and computer

Venice seems to be potentially flooding when I am looking to be there... I am trying to decide whether to go or not

[Ain't_It_Just_]

@Gothos

This must be a sign. It is time to mend the rift. Do it!

My groove is messed because I want to go out with friends this weekend but I have to study instead. 48 hours of pure bleeeehhhhhh.

[Tapper]

Gothos, on 05 November 2010 - 07:59 AM, said:

I had a dream. In that dream, me and Alice...
No, wait. Let's go back a bit.

I've once been in a more-or-less platonic relationship with a girl from Zwijndrecht, Netherlands. We're still on good terms, though that wasn't always so, and we're kind of soul mates of sorts. It's like there really can exist a friendship between man and woman.
That is Tess.

Moving on, in my own localization I at one point thought like I saw a ghost - a girl that reminded me a lot of Tess, and that was not long after I heroically broke off contact with her (she got a regular life after that so I guess it was worth it). I was struck. From the perspective of time, this new girl is absolutely gorgeous... and absolutely not my best performance in history. Over the years we've never been together, never even kissed, I was just hanging around her I guess (she was with an old buddy of mine at the time).

This is Alice. One that not even got away, the one I never caught. I've had my chance but I missed it. Now she's with a guy I don't know well but have respect for. Ever since she's been talking about dumping him I was seriously infuriated - they were (are) good together, I could see that they're a match, at some level at least. I was furious. I stopped talking to her. Today we don't even acknowledge we've been acquainted when we run into each other. I try not to think about it, but it does cause me great grief. I do hope it does not for her.

Now, the dream. We talked. We explained everything to each other, though I do not recall what it was. We got together and went to the States (why would I want to go there is a separate matter, I don't really ever want to, except NYC). Everything was so fine. In that dream, me and Alice were together.

And then I woke up.
I haven't had the feeling I never want to wake up from a dream for a LONG time. A very long time. I don't know what to make of this, but my subconscience is sending me a message. What do I make of it?

Ehm, talk to her? She's cute, you get along well when you are not mad at each other, and even if it is never going to be a relationship, well, having her as a friend obviously beats not acknowledging one another when you meet, at the least for you, judging from the text above.

Honestly, I also think you are wrong for blaming her for breaking up. Your opinion of her relationship may not be what she experiences, but she is/was in it and you weren't - and in the end, her opinion of it is what counts. Quite often, two people who are awesome in your book and seem made for each other find out they're not - doesn't say anything about them.
Now, since you stopped talking to her, maybe it's time you start talking again

Also, she's a fine looking gal.

Doctor Tapper, could be on american tv, spouting platitudes.

[Zanth13]

Gothos, on 05 November 2010 - 07:59 AM, said:

I had a dream. In that dream, me and Alice...
No, wait. Let's go back a bit.

I've once been in a more-or-less platonic relationship with a girl from Zwijndrecht, Netherlands. We're still on good terms, though that wasn't always so, and we're kind of soul mates of sorts. It's like there really can exist a friendship between man and woman.
That is Tess.

Moving on, in my own localization I at one point thought like I saw a ghost - a girl that reminded me a lot of Tess, and that was not long after I heroically broke off contact with her (she got a regular life after that so I guess it was worth it). I was struck. From the perspective of time, this new girl is absolutely gorgeous... and absolutely not my best performance in history. Over the years we've never been together, never even kissed, I was just hanging around her I guess (she was with an old buddy of mine at the time).

This is Alice. One that not even got away, the one I never caught. I've had my chance but I missed it. Now she's with a guy I don't know well but have respect for. Ever since she's been talking about dumping him I was seriously infuriated - they were (are) good together, I could see that they're a match, at some level at least. I was furious. I stopped talking to her. Today we don't even acknowledge we've been acquainted when we run into each other. I try not to think about it, but it does cause me great grief. I do hope it does not for her.

Now, the dream. We talked. We explained everything to each other, though I do not recall what it was. We got together and went to the States (why would I want to go there is a separate matter, I don't really ever want to, except NYC). Everything was so fine. In that dream, me and Alice were together.

And then I woke up.
I haven't had the feeling I never want to wake up from a dream for a LONG time. A very long time. I don't know what to make of this, but my subconscience is sending me a message. What do I make of it?

Everyone is saying talk to her and maybe do that...

but someone should be on the other shoulder too

ignore the dream for what it is... a dream...

don't build up hope when their might be none,

and there is a good chance you and this girl might not even be good for eachother...

maybe you should just go about your life like the dream didn't happen, maybe go to a bar tonight and chat some girls up, move on...


i am not saying i endorse this message or would follow it, I am just saying it should be expressed as well... our minds have a tendency to blow things out of proportion, maybe chill on it for a few days at least try to get some perspective...

[Puck]

The only person who can mess with my groove is doing so once again [and thanks to whom it's really hard to mess with said groove for anyone else], who is my very own beloved mother. Got to love it when she accidentally forgets to tell me that she planned for me to help out at her atelier on about the only afternoon I have some time to do assignments.. Woman, I got me a job mostly to get away from you and your money management, damn it. I'm not working anymore for the money you already owe me and I also don't have the f*cking time to do so.*


*about the moral side of this: yes, I'm totally okay with wanting my mom to pay me back the money she borrowed from me. There's a limit to everything, and being the only one in my course who can't do graphic-design assigments because of a six years old pc is not a nice feeling. I worked during the whole summer and I f*cking want to spend the money on what it was meant for. I'm done with never asking for anything. /rant

[Mentalist]

my groove is somewhat messed with by the fact that I've been scheduloed to work Sunday, Monday and Tuesday evenings.

which would be okay, cept I have a 1000 words opinion letter I need to write for 10 AM on a Monday, and I need to do a shedload of research for it first. which I won't have time for, b/c ki'l be going out tonight, and there's all the regular coursework I need to keep up with on top of that.

so, in short, its the prospect of a VERY busy tomorrow and the need to actually get everyhting organized like clockwork this weekend.

[Silannah]

I have to finish a comic book script before Sunday (preferably tomorrow) so my friend can get to work on the art, and a modern translation of 200 lines from Romeo and Juliet due on Tuesday... But there are so many more interesting things to do...

Oh, and my sister's being THE MOST EVIL PERSON ON THE PLANET because she has gotten four hours of sleep a night for the past month or so, and though it's her own fault she takes it out on me.

[Tsundoku]

Centzon Totochtin, on 05 November 2010 - 08:29 AM, said:

Sombra: or you could get one of these modern phones that sync's your contacts on your phone and computer

Uhm... that's what I did. The PROBLEM is getting the numbers on to the new phone.
And no, I don't want my phone clogged with numbers I rarely use yet still want to hang on to, which is what will happen if I synched my phone list on my computer.

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Venice seems to be potentially flooding when I am looking to be there... I am trying to decide whether to go or not

... does someone else want to tell her or should I?

This post has been edited by Sombra: 06 November 2010 - 07:04 AM

[Mentalist]

ugh

great night out, but tomorrow will be horrible. and that is messing with my grrov.e

[Binder of Demons]

about to go on a research cruise for 4-5 days and i'm already feeling nauseous. try not to laugh at the marine scientist that gets seasick please.

I think i might have picked up a stomach bug, since i've been feeling crap the last few days, and on top of that i now have to face the prospect of multiple days at sea. Plus i really need to get my last 2 study sites set up as soon as possible, and this trip is practically a final chance to do that. fingers crossed.

Still, seasickness. ughhh

all in all i'm thinking I should have studied alpine ecology instead.

If this trip works out though, I'll be blitzing the "what's making you happy" thread for a bout a week.

[lobo the wolfman]

I think l missed my chance with a great girl, (really she was one in a million), and now she has moved away. l have her phone number but no idea how to continue a friendship with her, much least try to start a relationship with her. I don't really interact with people that much, so l have no clue how to keep her interest.

[Tsundoku]

Binder of Demons, on 06 November 2010 - 09:27 AM, said:

about to go on a research cruise for 4-5 days and i'm already feeling nauseous. try not to laugh at the marine scientist that gets seasick please.

Tried. Failed.

[Grimjust Bearegular]

lobo the wolfman, on 06 November 2010 - 09:39 AM, said:

I think l missed my chance with a great girl, (really she was one in a million), and now she has moved away. l have her phone number but no idea how to continue a friendship with her, much least try to start a relationship with her. I don't really interact with people that much, so l have no clue how to keep her interest.

You know, "one in a million" is not really a compliment. I would take it as a grave insult. It's basically like saying "You're not that unique. There are thousands of other people just like you."

Now, "one in a trillion" on the other hand, is much better.


As for your problem, just call her and ask lots of questions about her day at work/school, ask about her hobbies and things she's interested in. Remember her answers, and look into the stuff she likes. See if you can like it too, so you'll have something in common. Most importantly, make her laugh! Chicks dig that


You're welcome


Messing with my groove: I'm at work and my right arm hurts

[Ain't_It_Just_]

That sucks lobo, hope you win her back someday.

My groove is messed because it's too late to play Xbox

[Sir Thursday]

Sinusitis

[Grimjust Bearegular]

Ain, on 06 November 2010 - 11:33 AM, said:

That sucks lobo, hope you win her back someday.

My groove is messed because it's too late to play Xbox

It's never too late to play XBox!!

[Gothos]

Extremely sentimental mood, melancholic, looking back at the last few years, the goods and the bads... Kings of Convenience going through the ether, and I'm sober like an infant baby...
I think the time has come to admit I lead a very lonely life. Have you ever been in a large crowd of people, all the while being totally alone in truth? That's my everyday. I meet a lot of people, I talk with a lot of people, but not many of them even feel real. Very little of them ever make it past the state of objects, becoming persons to me. They're bleak, they blend together into an inrecognizable mass.
This line of thinking usually accompanied slowly descending into being totally smashed. I'm having these while sober now.

I'm of mind to roll up in a fetal position and just lie down and... I don't know what. Can't sleep. Can't get myself to play even. Curl up and finally cry after all these years of bottling it up... but there's nobody to hold me. Nobody that I'd be OK with them seeing and hearing it. Nobody to share vulnerability with.


Fuck's sake, this sounds pathethic.

[Mentalist]

turn on some music

take a deep breath

and think about those who do matter.

family, close friends, etc.

its natural that we don't become best friends with everyone we meet. quite frankly, that'd be an overload for any person.

[Puck]

Gothos, if that's any help, you're not alone in this. I get that most of the time I go among people and for days afterwards, thus going partying is somewhat a no-go for me, unless I kick myself into meeting people.
From personal experience I'm with Mentalist on this: turn on some music and think about the people you're important to and who are important to you. Sounds like it won't help, but it does. This kind of loneliness is a bitch and the most you can do is to find a way to deal with it for yourself.

Myself, I often feel somewhat better when thinking about a passage in TtH [also a reason for why I love SE so much]..

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Sadness belonged. As rightful as joy, love, grief and fear. All conditions of being.
Too often people mistook the sadness in others for self-pity, and in so doing revealed their own hardness of spirit, and more than a little malice.