[Slow Ben]

Mezla PigDog, on 03 February 2016 - 03:47 PM, said:

Arthur Dayne, on 03 February 2016 - 12:57 PM, said:

I feel like i'm on a one way street in giving a fuck about a large number of my "friends" and that's causing some serious depression like mood swings from time to time. Is it just that i'm older and that shit happens or is there something wrong with me... Fuck.

I think it is normal in your 30s. People are getting on with stuff - relationships, kids, homes and/or work. There isn't as much room for friends as there is in your 20s. For people at the same age who are single I can imagine it feels like a friendship wilderness at times. I'm 35, have a bunch of really close friends that I barely get time to speak to and see maximum 3 or 4 times a year and that's in a good year. I just try to make sure they know I care enough to cement the friendship down for when we come out the other side and have more time. Also at the same time I am shedding friends who don't gel anymore - people accumulated from previous jobs, old old old friends where there is really nothing left in common, life is too short to spread the effort too thin. And as I don't quite have kids yet I try not to take it personally when friends with kids/partners/busy jobs aren't operating in the same orbit anymore.

Fight for the ones you really care about, keep open to making new friends, don't take it personally if it is a lifestyle clash that is stopping it working but at the same time if you have some shitty habits then work on them (that's not an accusation, we all have them).

Mez is wise.

[Maark Abbott]

Dumbledude, on 03 February 2016 - 05:59 AM, said:

The Matriarchy welcomes you.

I shall trust the mattress autarchy as Sgt. Doakes does Dexter Morgan.

EmperorMagus, on 03 February 2016 - 06:01 AM, said:

Maark, on 03 February 2016 - 05:54 AM, said:

Just caught wind of this 'Return of Kings' band of fuckwits.

Only adequate response: "What the dick?"

Sometimes I truly love Canada.
This is one of those times.

Well, they gave us Sabian, so they can't be all bad.

TheRetiredBridgeburner, on 03 February 2016 - 06:31 AM, said:

Maark, on 03 February 2016 - 05:54 AM, said:

Just caught wind of this 'Return of Kings' band of fuckwits.

Only adequate response: "What the dick?"

Discovered that yesterday. Mind is still utterly boggled that 1) it exists and 2) people buy into it.

Some people will latch onto any cause if they see it as giving validation to their own prejudice and hatred. See: Britain First.

[Abyss]

Maark, on 03 February 2016 - 05:56 PM, said:

TheRetiredBridgeburner, on 03 February 2016 - 06:31 AM, said:

Maark, on 03 February 2016 - 05:54 AM, said:

Just caught wind of this 'Return of Kings' band of fuckwits.

Only adequate response: "What the dick?"

Discovered that yesterday. Mind is still utterly boggled that 1) it exists and 2) people buy into it.

Some people will latch onto any cause if they see it as giving validation to their own prejudice and hatred. See: Britain First.

Variations of these 'men should be men and women should be having sex with men and shutting up the rest of the time' groups have been around for ages. The internet just gave a few of the louder ones more of a voice.
Also painted more of a target on them, as seen by toe TO and Ott tweactions.

[Gnaw]

Awake 6 hours.

On 7th beer.

I think there's a problem with that math.

[Binder of Demons]

Very frustrated at the minute. Did a job interview of sorts just before christmas and thought it was basically a done deal. Had to follow up on some things in early january but once those obstacles were out of the way, it was simply a matter of the employer doing their bit on the paperwork side, and off we go. After a few weeks now of me trying to balance prodding them along gently, without seeming to pester them, I finally got a more definitive response (of sorts).

The guy who I would have been working for, just announced that he is leaving at the end of this month, and so he isn't sure about them taking on someone like me despite the fact that I could be working away independently until his replacement is in place. What's so frustrating is that the way he said it to me today was framed in a "it wouldn't be very fair on you" type of way. Which is shite, cos they could have had me in situ for nearly a month already, and I would have been well up to speed by the end of Feb, so his departure would have been a minor inconvenience to my role.

But now I'm stuck, cos I'd really like to work there (as it ties together my past education and experience with my newer career direction), but having waited the best part of 6 weeks for this to come to pass, I don't know if I can keep waiting indefinitely for them to decide if the job will happen at all now. What if they decide to hold off until the new guy gets established before allowing him to hire a person to work with, then you could be talking 3-4 months minimum.

So annoying.

[Mezla PigDog]

Gnaw, on 02 February 2016 - 08:52 PM, said:

Is it a bad sign when you need two beers to stop the shakes in the morning?

Gnaw, on 04 February 2016 - 09:13 PM, said:

Awake 6 hours.

On 7th beer.

I think there's a problem with that math.

I'm gonna say it Gnaw. Don't be that guy.

[Mentalist]

Mezla PigDog, on 04 February 2016 - 09:43 PM, said:

Gnaw, on 02 February 2016 - 08:52 PM, said:

Is it a bad sign when you need two beers to stop the shakes in the morning?

Gnaw, on 04 February 2016 - 09:13 PM, said:

Awake 6 hours.

On 7th beer.

I think there's a problem with that math.

I'm gonna say it Gnaw. Don't be that guy.

I don't have the full picture, but my understanding was Gnaw has neuropathic pain, which is basically chronic.

Gnaw, I don't know where you are/what's the legal status isthere, but have any of your pain specialists ever talked to you about cannabis for pain control?

I ask because my boss is a strong proponent of that, and we deal with a large number of injured workers who find that to be a much better pain control than most opiate heavy-duty painkillers with less side effect consequences with the GIT.

[amphibian]

I am dealing with some moderate pain every day these last three weeks because a blood clot has moved to my sacroliac joint. Can't do sit-ups, certain twists of my back, and getting out of a chair/bed in the morning is real tough walking for the first two minutes. I had a week-long stay in the hospital three years ago when three clots collapsed a lung and only coughed out two, so this is either that third clot migrating or a new one that's popped up.

I haven't gotten to the point of using alcohol/drugs to deal with it, but I do understand how even that level of pain affects life. I'm having to find alternate motions for certain things in daily life and in my workouts.

My big thing with 7+ beers a day is that it's a ton of carbs. Switch to liquor?

[worry]

Gnaw, weren't you gonna go traveling or something like that? WTH you doing?

[Abyss]

Loki, on 02 February 2016 - 11:59 PM, said:

Watching my son eat a Nutella, peanutbutter, and chorizo sandwich with a side of corn relish and mayonnaise... 😨


I think I just threw up a little.

Your son is a culinary genius and I want to watch his Food Network show.

[Morgoth]

I was just told I am the second choice for the job I interviewed for last week. It's as close I'll get in some time to my dream job, and the only reason I was even considered is that my field of specialty is pretty perfect for the position. It's very flattering to be considered the second best for a job like this, but that's a small consilation.

I can only hope that the guy placed as nr 1 (he had ten or so more years of work experience - bah) gets unreasonable about the sallary and ends up not taking the offer.

Shit

[worry]

Have you already used up your one free assassination?

[Gnaw]

His Name, Address, Routine.

Your dream job. How much is it worth to you?

[Morgoth]

I worry that such actions would make me ineligible.

[Macros]

Only if you get caught.
I had a similar bump a few years ago for an awesome job opp in Abu Dhabi, was second choice, guy that got it had 10 years experience on me.

Pissed me off to no end as I had to go back to that bloody villa in France

[Abyss]

Morgoth, on 05 February 2016 - 09:41 AM, said:

I was just told I am the second choice for the job I interviewed for last week. It's as close I'll get in some time to my dream job, and the only reason I was even considered is that my field of specialty is pretty perfect for the position. It's very flattering to be considered the second best for a job like this, but that's a small consilation.

I can only hope that the guy placed as nr 1 (he had ten or so more years of work experience - bah) gets unreasonable about the sallary and ends up not taking the offer.

Shit

Make a salary counter-offer that makes you a more economical choice vs anything 1st place dude can bring to the table.

[Abyss]

Macros, on 05 February 2016 - 11:39 AM, said:

....I had to go back to that bloody villa in France

WAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH

[QuickTidal]

Abyss, on 05 February 2016 - 03:38 PM, said:

Macros, on 05 February 2016 - 11:39 AM, said:

....I had to go back to that bloody villa in France

WAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH

I had this reaction too, and wondered why a villa in France was so bad. I'm sure there's a story. Macros?

[Tsundoku]

Slow Ben, on 03 February 2016 - 05:46 PM, said:

Mez is wise.

Comes with ... experience.

Abyss, on 05 February 2016 - 03:41 AM, said:

Loki, on 02 February 2016 - 11:59 PM, said:

Watching my son eat a Nutella, peanutbutter, and chorizo sandwich with a side of corn relish and mayonnaise... 😨I think I just threw up a little.

Your son is a culinary genius and I want to watch his Food Network show.

Who needs that Heston wanker anyway?

[Obdigore]

Abyss, on 05 February 2016 - 03:38 PM, said:

Macros, on 05 February 2016 - 11:39 AM, said:

....I had to go back to that bloody villa in France

WAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH

I believe Maccy means he had to go back and continue doing electrical work on someone else's bloody (literally, maybe?) villa in France, instead of going somewhere cool.