[TheRetiredBridgeburner]

Tiste Simeon, on 22 March 2025 - 02:44 PM, said:

I'm in Dublin for a child free weekend with Mrs Tiste!

Hope you had a lovely time!

I had my autism assessment yesterday. I was expecting it to be far more nerve-wracking than it turned out to be, the assessor was a really kind gentleman who was very easy to speak to. I'm officially diagnosed with a very long report to follow up, but it feels good to have the process out of the way and to not be thrown a curveball by the outcome (it's what we expected). I did speak about the differences/quirks having made me wonder if I wasn't a very nice person in the past when I was younger, and the assessors said some very kind things about that and about the need to frame it not as something "wrong" but merely a perfectly valid difference in how I experience the world and think about it. I'm very pleased I decided to go down this route.

[QuickTidal]

Tiste Simeon, on 22 March 2025 - 02:44 PM, said:

I'm in Dublin for a child free weekend with Mrs Tiste!

The Brazen Head. It's right on the river Liffey. 20 Lower Bridge St.


Oldest pub in Dublin. Small, but wonderful and welcoming. Had my first in-country Guinness there and it was a life-changing experience.

[amphibian]

 TheRetiredBridgeburner, on 27 March 2025 - 11:53 AM, said:

I had my autism assessment yesterday. I was expecting it to be far more nerve-wracking than it turned out to be, the assessor was a really kind gentleman who was very easy to speak to. I'm officially diagnosed with a very long report to follow up, but it feels good to have the process out of the way and to not be thrown a curveball by the outcome (it's what we expected). I did speak about the differences/quirks having made me wonder if I wasn't a very nice person in the past when I was younger, and the assessors said some very kind things about that and about the need to frame it not as something "wrong" but merely a perfectly valid difference in how I experience the world and think about it. I'm very pleased I decided to go down this route.

Congrats! I'm happy there was a good moment of empathy by the assessors for you in the recursive loop about what happened long ago.

Nice is also extremely flexible as a concept - there's a bunch of unpacking to do in regards to who wants something nice, what they think is nice, and what they're actually given because these things are not always the same at any given moment.

[QuickTidal]

TheRetiredBridgeburner, on 27 March 2025 - 11:53 AM, said:

Tiste Simeon, on 22 March 2025 - 02:44 PM, said:

I'm in Dublin for a child free weekend with Mrs Tiste!

Hope you had a lovely time!

I had my autism assessment yesterday. I was expecting it to be far more nerve-wracking than it turned out to be, the assessor was a really kind gentleman who was very easy to speak to. I'm officially diagnosed with a very long report to follow up, but it feels good to have the process out of the way and to not be thrown a curveball by the outcome (it's what we expected). I did speak about the differences/quirks having made me wonder if I wasn't a very nice person in the past when I was younger, and the assessors said some very kind things about that and about the need to frame it not as something "wrong" but merely a perfectly valid difference in how I experience the world and think about it. I'm very pleased I decided to go down this route.

I'm glad you have a diagnosis to work with. That's such an important step for sure. Helps to know that you are not second-guessing yourself.

[Slow Ben]

 QuickTidal, on 27 March 2025 - 12:35 PM, said:

 Tiste Simeon, on 22 March 2025 - 02:44 PM, said:

I'm in Dublin for a child free weekend with Mrs Tiste!

The Brazen Head. It's right on the river Liffey. 20 Lower Bridge St.


Oldest pub in Dublin. Small, but wonderful and welcoming. Had my first in-country Guinness there and it was a life-changing experience.

Second this. Went twice last time we were in Dublin.

This post has been edited by Slow Ben: 27 March 2025 - 11:42 PM

[Lost Marine]

Spent the day on top of a mountain. It was nice to be out after a long winter and too much office time.

[Tiste Simeon]

 Slow Ben, on 27 March 2025 - 11:42 PM, said:

 QuickTidal, on 27 March 2025 - 12:35 PM, said:

 Tiste Simeon, on 22 March 2025 - 02:44 PM, said:

I'm in Dublin for a child free weekend with Mrs Tiste!

The Brazen Head. It's right on the river Liffey. 20 Lower Bridge St.


Oldest pub in Dublin. Small, but wonderful and welcoming. Had my first in-country Guinness there and it was a life-changing experience.

Second this. Went twice last time we were in Dublin.

Dang missed that one but had plenty of good food and drink though! What a great city!

TRB that's ace news!

[TheRetiredBridgeburner]

amphibian, on 27 March 2025 - 01:39 PM, said:

Congrats! I'm happy there was a good moment of empathy by the assessors for you in the recursive loop about what happened long ago.

Nice is also extremely flexible as a concept - there's a bunch of unpacking to do in regards to who wants something nice, what they think is nice, and what they're actually given because these things are not always the same at any given moment.

QuickTidal, on 27 March 2025 - 01:41 PM, said:

I'm glad you have a diagnosis to work with. That's such an important step for sure. Helps to know that you are not second-guessing yourself.

Tiste Simeon, on 28 March 2025 - 07:43 AM, said:

TRB that's ace news!

Thanks all

Amph - the assessor went in to some similar ideas about "niceness" and polite norms as well, we had a really interesting tangent conversation about cultural differences in "polite" norms which was quite illuminating.