[worry]

Don't tell me how it ends.

[Morgoth]

worry, on 03 February 2018 - 10:01 PM, said:

Don't tell me how it ends.

Hamilton conquers Qin and becomes emperor of the Orient

[Tsundoku]

Morgoth, on 04 February 2018 - 12:30 AM, said:

worry, on 03 February 2018 - 10:01 PM, said:

Don't tell me how it ends.

Hamilton conquers Qin and becomes emperor of the Orient

Then loses his limp after walking out of a Police station.

[Tiste Simeon]

worry, on 03 February 2018 - 10:01 PM, said:

Don't tell me how it ends.

A VP shoots an immigrant. Which is presumably why Mike Pence went to see it a couple of years back.

[Tsundoku]

Tiste Simeon, on 04 February 2018 - 09:30 AM, said:

worry, on 03 February 2018 - 10:01 PM, said:

Don't tell me how it ends.

A VP shoots an immigrant. Which is presumably why Mike Pence went to see it a couple of years back.

But not with any women who weren't his wife.

[Traveller]

Things are all looking up.

After a pretty awful and worrying time with my wife before and over Christmas, we've managed to get through - I managed to figure out what was wrong. And set about fixing it. I thought about everything she'd said, and been saying, and had a good look at how I'd been acting over the last year or so. I looked at things from her point of view, and realised that she wasn't depressed, hormonal or stressed - she was feeling neglected. The job stress added to it, depression was a result; but if I'd been more supportive she could have handled it.

I'm not saying I havent been doing anything - quite the opposite, but while I'd been sorting the house, kids, work, and letting her get some time out at home by taking the kids out, I'd stopped showing her how much she means to me; all the little things, all the stuff you do for each other as a couple that has slowly fallen by the wayside as the kids slowly took over more and more of our time.

Anyway. While she was still not talking to me, I booked us a hotel for her Birthday. I got her mum to sort the kids. I cooked her a lobster pasta dish we'd had on holiday. I had a bath ready when she'd had a shitty day. Just a bit at a time.
I wasn't sure she'd want to go away, but she did, and we had a great time. We had food, wine and a walk on the beach in the morning; she was like a different person, smiling and holding onto my arm, which meant a surprising amount at that point. That was the beginning of January.

I'm keeping at it; it's stupid but I hadn't realised how much we were missing each other. She'd been using her holiday time to cover school holidays, as we take turns, but didn't get time off together last year, so now we've now booked two weeks off at the same time over summer. She's just booked a two day trip away for us in March at a spa/hotel. Her work is still stressy but she's happy when she gets home, so she can deal with it.

I'm just glad I stuck to being patient, to listening, and trusting my instincts.
I don't usually make resolutions, but I've made plenty for this year, and learned some valuable lessons. Like don't take things for granted, for one.

We're making more time for us; kids can't just take over everything - and I'm asking myself what she wants before I do anything.

Just thought I'd update, after all the good advice and support I got here when I needed it the most, thank you.

[Tiste Simeon]

Hey man that's amazing news! Really pleased for you!

[Andorion]

Traveller, on 05 February 2018 - 09:46 AM, said:

Things are all looking up.

After a pretty awful and worrying time with my wife before and over Christmas, we've managed to get through - I managed to figure out what was wrong. And set about fixing it. I thought about everything she'd said, and been saying, and had a good look at how I'd been acting over the last year or so. I looked at things from her point of view, and realised that she wasn't depressed, hormonal or stressed - she was feeling neglected. The job stress added to it, depression was a result; but if I'd been more supportive she could have handled it.

I'm not saying I havent been doing anything - quite the opposite, but while I'd been sorting the house, kids, work, and letting her get some time out at home by taking the kids out, I'd stopped showing her how much she means to me; all the little things, all the stuff you do for each other as a couple that has slowly fallen by the wayside as the kids slowly took over more and more of our time.

Anyway. While she was still not talking to me, I booked us a hotel for her Birthday. I got her mum to sort the kids. I cooked her a lobster pasta dish we'd had on holiday. I had a bath ready when she'd had a shitty day. Just a bit at a time.
I wasn't sure she'd want to go away, but she did, and we had a great time. We had food, wine and a walk on the beach in the morning; she was like a different person, smiling and holding onto my arm, which meant a surprising amount at that point. That was the beginning of January.

I'm keeping at it; it's stupid but I hadn't realised how much we were missing each other. She'd been using her holiday time to cover school holidays, as we take turns, but didn't get time off together last year, so now we've now booked two weeks off at the same time over summer. She's just booked a two day trip away for us in March at a spa/hotel. Her work is still stressy but she's happy when she gets home, so she can deal with it.

I'm just glad I stuck to being patient, to listening, and trusting my instincts.
I don't usually make resolutions, but I've made plenty for this year, and learned some valuable lessons. Like don't take things for granted, for one.

We're making more time for us; kids can't just take over everything - and I'm asking myself what she wants before I do anything.

Just thought I'd update, after all the good advice and support I got here when I needed it the most, thank you.

Hey great to hear that you turned things around!

The holidays together sound awesome. There really is very little that can be as fulfilling as a few days spent together, away from everything else.

[Cause]

Briar King, on 01 February 2018 - 02:52 AM, said:

Lmfao!! I’m standing outside and my neighbors daughter’s daughter who is maybe 3 just started shouting while getting loaded in truck, “I see the moon! I see the moon and the moon sees me! I see the moon and the moon sees me!” Repeated atleast 5 times. I had to control myself from falling on the ground laughing.

Had to have been here.

Ask if she knows Kvothe or the true name of the wind

[worry]

Yah it's like "Wow my head hurts...was I shot in the head last night with a tear gas canister by a man in riot gear riding a tank through my neighborhood? *looks in the mirror* Oh right. Just a regular hangover then LOL!"

[Arthur Dayne]

Holy freaking hell, I haven't been on the forum in FOREVER!!! I've got a baby on the way and i'm in my 2nd year of college. I'm sure I have missed an incredible amount of things, so what's making me happy is the ensuing hilarity of what you all have been up to while I was gone.

[Morgoth]

So a new date happened last night and we're now a couple I guess? Maybe. It's been such a fast ride I am still in a bit of shock. But she's pretty awesome, so so far so good!

[Cause]

My cousin was coming from America.

So I'm now the proud new owner of a waterproof kindle (most beautifully designed piece of tech I have ever seen) and an ipad pro. Seriously tech is so cheap in the states it makes me weep. That and the states has amazon pantry.

The kindle was def a great purchase, its just so nice and I look forward to reading it in the bath.

I have high hopes for the ipad as a electronic journal and also as a way to read text books and science papers. So far though its just been an amazing Netflix device.

[Slow Ben]

The kids school is cancelled today because of ice. While this means i'll get diddly squat done for work, a day being lazy with the kiddos will be awesome.

[Puck]

Bought a new graphic tablet. Finally.

[crazymags]

Valentines day, am I the only one who is excited to this occassion?

[Mentalist]

crazymags, on 08 February 2018 - 04:19 AM, said:

Valentines day, am I the only one who is excited to this occassion?

one of the holidays i care the least about each year, tbh.

Making me happy was that I had a pretty good last day at our professional development conference. We had a Young Lawyers' Division reception, which involved food and improv artists as entertainment.

Caught up with a few people I knew, met a ton of new people (which is basically the point of the event), and now there's only one day left in the work week!

[Morgoth]

Had a great time this week end with the new girl. She's a Spanish psychologist doing her best to become certified in Norway. If she can't I wouldn't be surprised if she decided to move somewhere else, but that's a worry for another time. For now I am content to enjoy how great and natural it feels being with her.

[Tsundoku]

Morgoth, on 12 February 2018 - 09:21 AM, said:

Had a great time this week end with the new girl. She's a Spanish psychologist doing her best to become certified in Norway. If she can't I wouldn't be surprised if she decided to move somewhere else, but that's a worry for another time. For now I am content to enjoy how great and natural it feels being with her.

Muy caliente!

[Morgoth]

Tsundoku, on 13 February 2018 - 08:32 AM, said:

Morgoth, on 12 February 2018 - 09:21 AM, said:

Had a great time this week end with the new girl. She's a Spanish psychologist doing her best to become certified in Norway. If she can't I wouldn't be surprised if she decided to move somewhere else, but that's a worry for another time. For now I am content to enjoy how great and natural it feels being with her.

Muy caliente!

She is that