Abyss, on 10 August 2023 - 04:12 AM, said:
then his behaviour became public knowledge and suddenly the producer and him went quiet about it. I
Quiet about it perhaps initially, he then went on to work with the (I hazard to call them victims...what he did was more serial dating [in all but name], and used his (limited) power differential in the industry to achieve said serial dating...but none of that is a crime, just shitty player behaviour) women involved for like 6months I think? Then all of the sudden the olive branches and mea culpa's he was offering up started to be rejected by some amongst those women, and he pulled back from it as a result of what became a pretty untenable situation. A deep dive into it recently landed me on the side of "Some of the women involved don't want to heal and move on, they want him to suffer and let everything fester"....the people he seemingly had the longest relationships with have long since forgiven him as his contrition was high, and his payment in the industry deep. Katie West (probably his most well known "muse" in such a fashion had gone on record (in now deleted tweets) that SHE instigated their sexually charged relationship).
Was it right for these people to call him out on this? Sure if they were that upset over his serial dating and attentions to multiple women at once unbeknownst to them individually. No one was underage as far as I can tell, and nothing illegal occurred. I'm unsure why this had to happen publicly through as the stated intent of that website they created was "not to cancel him, but to work with him to get through this and have him understand their POV"...you don't use that as your callout websites' tagline if there's anything happening here that was not just "Asshole industry player, played women, and got caught being a serial dater/sex addict"...and frankly the whole thing stinks...serial dating is asshole behaviour, for sure...but the notion that someone not confessing to you that they are also talking to other women in the same way they are talking to you because "you felt you were the only one, and thus special"....is a tale as old as fucking time. This isn't new.
TL:DR: a deep dive into this has allowed me to forgive Ellis his cadish behaviour as he made inroads as much as he could to those he hurt, it's just that some of them refuse to work to move past it and seem to like the constant goal posts moving to keep the whole thing rolling along. I can see him as an asshole (possibly reformed) and still know that PLANETARY AND TRANSMET is some of the best fiction I've ever consumed.
Shrug. There are people called out by the MeToo movement that did criminal things, Ellis is not one of them as far as I can tell, he's just a pervy asshole.
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