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Hi QT - I know I am a complete strange to you. I haven't posted here for probably a decade or so, but I occasionally still read silently.

Bullying is a topic close to me - I saw it happen to my sister, and I see it currently in my elder son's class. You are absolutely right to take it seriously and are dealing wonderfully with it.

I just want - and hope it doesnt feel to obnoxious - offer a few bits of advice:

1. Do what you have to, to make it stop. My sister got over here mental instability and insecurity, but 20 years after school, the unhealthy sugar addiction, stress eating and destroyed liver still remain. My parents had to threaten to go to the state level authorities and the local newspaper before the local school authorities and the teachers actually did something. You are probably not there yet, but if needs be... do what you must to protect your daughter.

2. Definetely keep up the Teakwondo, or another fighting sport. It will really help your daughter to build up her selfconfidence.

3. Write everything down. Everytime your daughter comes home and tells a story, make an entry in a (macabre) diary. If you can later on show a record of constant abuse it is far harder to deny that it is not "just some small fights between kids, you know how it gets" or "oh she was just feeling bad that one time".

4. If you can, try to talk to the parents of the other children that suffered the abuse (or of classmates who have seen it) and get them to work with you. It is much harder to claim "there are two sides" if there are several accounts from different sources, and much easier dealing with the school if you are several sets of parents working together.