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Posted 04 April 2015 - 06:06 AM

So, I took the time to look into a couple of the studies behind these statistics. Namely this one: http://online.lieber.../vio.2014.0022: Denying Rape but Endorsing Forceful Intercourse: Exploring Differences Among Responders. I can't say that I like the methodology of the research at all but on the other hand I am not familiar with the various models they use either. Perhaps their methods are the best they can do but I do find the selection of individuals, the scale they use to indicate willingness to rape and the phrasing of the questions... questionable. This paper does not strike me as being incontrovertible proof of the existence of rape culture as a pervasive social identity inherent to all college age men.

HOWEVER I am of course also approaching this subject from the position of a non-believer. I am seeing flaws where a pro-ponent will see confirmation.

But back to the Art culture argument and lets keep this to an American discussion since the topic Rape Culture originates from America and the studies seem to come from America. Is America an art culture? How many people purchase art? Real art like sculptures, paintings, shit in a can, etc. Not a kitten on a poster from Walmart. How many unique visits do galleries and museums get? Who is visiting these places, etc. And I am not talking about the Block Buster level of exhibitions that attract all levels of society. I'd be willing to guess that very small portion of America's population would identify as being a part of an art culture. In fact some people might scoff at the idea.

For the same reason I find the idea of speaking of America as a whole as a rape culture hysterical. Rape culture is such a wide ranging term, such a nebulous concept, that everything becomes rape. People become guilty of rape by proxy. People become partial to rape simply by buying the wrong product or wearing the wrong clothes or saying the wrong thing. Which cirkles back to the topic of this thread Sexual Objectification.

You can't NOT look at another person's attributes and appraise them. It's a completely natural, subconscious subroutine. But now, when ever we do it, we're suddenly doing a bad thing. We are not just being amoral from some puritanical world view, we are in fact acting out a behavior that leads to the rape of women. What the fuck, I just like that womans butt.

Looking at the things that can constitute rape or a degree of sexual coercion, I feel like people should be signing sexual intercourse contracts in front of an offical representative to ensure that nobody accidentally gets raped and put in jail.

EDIT: I should have ended this post by amending that I am NOT saying that there isn't an inherent cultural flaw in our society, when it comes to rape, slut shaming, treatment, etc. I am not saying that we can't do better and shouldn't try.

I am simply arguing that labels are dangerous and creating an umbrella term like Rape culture that encompasses pretty much every aspect of social relation between the sexes is unnecessarily radical.

I think.

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Posted 04 April 2015 - 07:16 AM

Incontrovertible proof isn't exactly the goal here, I don't think, nor was I personally attempting an exhaustive encyclopedia of evidence (we don't have 3000 centuries to cover it all). That was the most recent pertinent study off the top of my head, and is evidence that in a decent sized random sampling of college men there exists a perception discontinuity between forceful/coercive intercourse and rape. They semantic themselves into rationalizing coercing women into sexual activity. And regardless of whether it remains a mental exercise or a real behavior for individuals, it's a disturbing finding (and it's the belief that is the culture part anyway).

I'm not really inclined to argue over whether America is an "art culture" since that wasn't my point (though I mean c'mon, America produces art out the yinyang). We don't have to pretend that America is only one thing. Rape culture exists and is pervasive. Anti-rape culture exists and is growing, in fits and starts. These are two cultures that exist in America simultaneously, sometimes even in the same space. We also have a magazine culture, where rape culture and anti-rape culture are both perpetuated. Some magazines may even ignore both. Same with music culture, movie culture, work culture, whatever. Cultures coexist, overlap, oppose one another, ignore each other, and otherwise interact in whole hosts of ways and I don't see a reason to pretend otherwise.

I think it's kinda funny you use the word "hysterical" which of course originates in the diagnosis of a female neurosis originating in the womb, used as a means to control women behaving badly. Just wanted to point that out!

Anyway, people aren't guilty of rape "by proxy". Actual rapists are rarely convicted of the rapes they actually commit, let alone the people who merely disseminate the culture. And rape culture is no more nebulous than any other recognized cultures, and I've found that it's only depicted as such by those who want to abstract it into meaningless as a means of shutting down the dreaded political correctness. If I talked about mall culture you wouldn't suddenly get confused, you wouldn't think I was talking about an entire population of people visiting or living in malls; you'd know I was talking about mallrats, window shoppers, food court junkies, valley girls, etc. (I know that's a dated reference, pretend we're living in the 80s/early 90s). You'd also know there are hubs of that culture, there are popular reinforcements of that culture in the media, there are critiques of the culture, and we wouldn't have to start at the beginning every single time it comes up.

As far as the "completely natural" aspect of sexual objectification, when was the last time you challenged the incontrovertibly of that? You don't think there's a bit of nature and nurture at play? Regardless, who outside of cartoon caricatures is telling you not to be attracted to women's butts? A request not to stare, or comment, or whistle, or gesture, or whatever, is not an affront on man's natural state any more than a request not to wear a loin cloth to work is. Yah, sometimes you don't get to act on your basest instincts. That's not puritanism, it's civilization. Be attracted to women, just keep your tongue in your mouth. And when you say "we" -- just as an experiment -- sometimes include women in that and see what comes of it.

As far as contracts go, California has already passed an "affirmative consent" law for college campuses. Hope the rest of the states follow.
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Posted 04 April 2015 - 07:20 AM

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That's very compelling stuff.

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I'm personally not sure this "functioning society" exists:


So how does the facade survive? How can this sort of thing stay below the surface of daily life, so much so that I've been basically ignorant of it? If 1 in 5 people had communicable disease we'd all be in a panic about it and it wouldn't be possible to keep it out of the greater public eye.

If this is all true and exists beneath the surface, then how do we even begin to solve it?
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Posted 04 April 2015 - 07:33 AM

View PostShinrei, on 04 April 2015 - 07:20 AM, said:

@worry

That's very compelling stuff.

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I'm personally not sure this "functioning society" exists:


So how does the facade survive? How can this sort of thing stay below the surface of daily life, so much so that I've been basically ignorant of it?

About a year ago, my grandmother told me that my mother was raped when she was a young teenager. I was 35 years old when she told me. I didn't ask or even wonder why I'd never been told, even by a mother who was overly determined to make sure I went through life equipped to deal with the downfalls of being a woman. I know my grandparents. It wasn't a stranger in a dark alley; she was hanging out with the wrong people, and she had it coming—or, at the very least, it would have ruined her reputation to press charges.

I still haven't talked to my mom about it.

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Posted 04 April 2015 - 08:23 AM

I don't know if facade is too hard a term or not -- like I said, I think more than one thing can exist at once -- but people do tend to have a hard time caring beyond their family and social circles except abstractly. One could argue civilization's main purpose is to make up for that deficiency. Solving it, and I don't mean this glibly but I'm borrowing the phrase, means in part to "think globally, act locally" -- which it's pretty clear you already are. You have a wife and daughter and other women in your life that you already treat with respect. Being conscientious and teaching conscientiousness goes a long way on the small scale. Lots of small scale shifts are what make up the big shifts.

Bigger scale efforts do exist: http://www.endthebacklog.org/ for one.
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Neither of those require subscription to radical, hardcore, or even particularly strong feminist beliefs. They're just facets of and responses to a mundane reality. And as Anita Sarkeesian wisely said (and I promise this isn't about video games and I'm not doing a special crossover post): "One of the most radical things you can do is to actually believe women when they talk about their experiences."
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Posted 04 April 2015 - 07:40 PM

Another one that alot of my women friends are particiapting in..is:

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Join us this April (2015) for our 3rd annual Red My Lips campaign!!! ♥

Red My Lips is an international nonprofit organization that uses red lipstick as a weapon and a tool to raise awareness about sexual violence, combat rape myths and victim-blaming, and demonstrate solidarity and support for ALL survivors. Our supporters, which we call 'Warriors,' wear red lipstick all throughout April (Sexual Assault Awareness Month) to raise awareness and funds. This is not about VANITY. It's about VISIBILITY. (Kind of like Movember...minus the brilliantly creepy 'staches.) Spread the word that RAPISTS are responsible for RAPE...not drinking, short skirts, or makeup.

Sexual violence is NOT a WOMEN'S ISSUE. It is a HUMAN ISSUE. It affects us ALL.


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Posted 04 April 2015 - 10:35 PM

View PostShinrei, on 04 April 2015 - 07:20 AM, said:


So how does the facade survive? How can this sort of thing stay below the surface of daily life, so much so that I've been basically ignorant of it? If 1 in 5 people had communicable disease we'd all be in a panic about it and it wouldn't be possible to keep it out of the greater public eye.

If this is all true and exists beneath the surface, then how do we even begin to solve it?

A communicable disease is usually easily identified, treatable with a one time or short term action and can be described as "exactly this or that with XYZ symptoms".

Sexism, racism, economic disparities and the like are much harder to accurately pin down in specific situations. Sometimes, an action or a situation can be one of the above, some of the above, all of the above or none. The general sense of most definitions points to systemic accrual of advantages to a select group and the systemic minimization of everyone not part of that group, with the weakest usually getting the worst of it.

How do we fix it? Not by being polite or avoiding the usage of ugly words like "rape culture".

We each have to learn about these things, push for change in laws of workplaces, the places we live in on the local, state and federal levels, call out those who don't understand or have an active interest in keeping unethical institutions the way they are and more. We are just regular people, so we can't do all this all the time - unless we're being paid well to do so.

But sending a few bucks to groups like RAINN, teaching kids to get affirmative consent, watching and reading entertainment that treats minorities and women as having agency and value, those we can do. We can also do more in publicly shaming the people who spout nonsense about Menisism, engage dog whistle/coded talk, talk about sluts, cross personal boundaries set by others, and refuse to allow the legislative and economic machinery that keeps others disadvantaged/poor to be slowly dismantled.

Find a cause or two that makes the world better and show up for it regularly. And listen to women when they speak about problems affecting them. Really listen.
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Posted 10 April 2015 - 10:11 AM

I know the "rape culture" discussion is only one sub-subject of this thread, but this story from The Daily Show is a pretty good example of how more than one culture can exist in the same space, with one in opposition of the other. I suppose everyone can decide for themselves which one is facing the uphill battle:


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Posted 10 April 2015 - 12:08 PM

View Postworry, on 10 April 2015 - 10:11 AM, said:

I know the "rape culture" discussion is only one sub-subject of this thread, but this story from The Daily Show is a pretty good example of how more than one culture can exist in the same space, with one in opposition of the other. I suppose everyone can decide for themselves which one is facing the uphill battle:




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Posted 10 April 2015 - 04:51 PM

For a better look into how sexual assault is minimized by both regular people and law enforcement, read this long article on serial rapist Darren Sharper and how he got away with his evil acts for so long: http://www.propublic...rper-rape-spree

You'll see how easily manipulated bureaucracy, lack of police coordination on statistics and parallel cases, and sheer disdain for the women who were assaulted having consumed alcohol or wanted to hook up with someone led to non-pursuit of rape allegations or even a "he's to be protected" situation.
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Posted 10 April 2015 - 06:16 PM

View Postamphibian, on 10 April 2015 - 04:51 PM, said:

For a better look into how sexual assault is minimized by both regular people and law enforcement, read this long article on serial rapist Darren Sharper and how he got away with his evil acts for so long: http://www.propublic...rper-rape-spree

You'll see how easily manipulated bureaucracy, lack of police coordination on statistics and parallel cases, and sheer disdain for the women who were assaulted having consumed alcohol or wanted to hook up with someone led to non-pursuit of rape allegations or even a "he's to be protected" situation.

It's their failure to use the database that frustrates me more than anything. I can understand the social conditioning to doubt the accuser; it affects women too. But please people, at least use the goddamn database so serial criminals don't continue to get away with it. I love databases. I have spent years of my life helping to build them. Wake up to the age of the internet; we can no longer afford to treat it like a new-fangled thing.

PS: I love 538's headline: Better Data Entry Could Help Stop Rapists...

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Posted 10 April 2015 - 10:06 PM

Other side of what?
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Posted 15 April 2015 - 08:53 AM

View PostShinrei, on 04 April 2015 - 07:20 AM, said:

So how does the facade survive? How can this sort of thing stay below the surface of daily life, so much so that I've been basically ignorant of it? If 1 in 5 people had communicable disease we'd all be in a panic about it and it wouldn't be possible to keep it out of the greater public eye.


This is an excellent blog post that may help shed some light on that: Confessions of a Privileged White Girl

Please don't let the word "privilege" deter you from reading it in full - privilege is as varied and diverse as humanity, and it affects us all in different ways.

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Posted 15 April 2015 - 10:49 AM

Also: How to Talk to a Skeptic About Rape Culture
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Posted 15 April 2015 - 02:51 PM

View PostIlluyankas, on 04 April 2015 - 12:42 AM, said:

Rape-excusing culture being too many syllables, presumably.


doesn't have the same ring though. It's all about dem buzzwords you see.

View Postworry, on 04 April 2015 - 02:55 AM, said:


1 in 3 college men say they would have "forced intercourse" if they could get away with it (from Jan 2015): http://www.newsweek....emantics-297463



dwards cautions that this research is preliminary, because the sample group is very small: 86 men participated in the study, but only 73 were analyzed due to missing data. Because more than 90 percent of the participants were white and all described themselves as heterosexual, the study has demographic limitations. The team hopes to conduct this research on a larger scale, Edwards says. In the meantime, “the No. 1 point is there are people that will say they would force a woman to have sex but would deny they would rape a woman,” Edwards tells Newsweek.

My grasp of statistics is very dated, but i get the feeling a sample of 73 isn't large enough to apply it to all college students (millions if not hundreds of thousands). I get what you're trying to say in regards to a discontinuity of perception however. This might just be my anti scientism side being all, lets not just take these studies at face value.

View PostApt, on 04 April 2015 - 06:06 AM, said:

So, I took the time to look into a couple of the studies behind these statistics. Namely this one: http://online.lieber.../vio.2014.0022: Denying Rape but Endorsing Forceful Intercourse: Exploring Differences Among Responders. I can't say that I like the methodology of the research at all but on the other hand I am not familiar with the various models they use either. Perhaps their methods are the best they can do but I do find the selection of individuals, the scale they use to indicate willingness to rape and the phrasing of the questions... questionable. This paper does not strike me as being incontrovertible proof of the existence of rape culture as a pervasive social identity inherent to all college age men.

HOWEVER I am of course also approaching this subject from the position of a non-believer. I am seeing flaws where a pro-ponent will see confirmation.

But back to the Art culture argument and lets keep this to an American discussion since the topic Rape Culture originates from America and the studies seem to come from America. Is America an art culture? How many people purchase art? Real art like sculptures, paintings, shit in a can, etc. Not a kitten on a poster from Walmart. How many unique visits do galleries and museums get? Who is visiting these places, etc. And I am not talking about the Block Buster level of exhibitions that attract all levels of society. I'd be willing to guess that very small portion of America's population would identify as being a part of an art culture. In fact some people might scoff at the idea.

For the same reason I find the idea of speaking of America as a whole as a rape culture hysterical. Rape culture is such a wide ranging term, such a nebulous concept, that everything becomes rape. People become guilty of rape by proxy. People become partial to rape simply by buying the wrong product or wearing the wrong clothes or saying the wrong thing. Which cirkles back to the topic of this thread Sexual Objectification.

You can't NOT look at another person's attributes and appraise them. It's a completely natural, subconscious subroutine. But now, when ever we do it, we're suddenly doing a bad thing. We are not just being amoral from some puritanical world view, we are in fact acting out a behavior that leads to the rape of women. What the fuck, I just like that womans butt.

Looking at the things that can constitute rape or a degree of sexual coercion, I feel like people should be signing sexual intercourse contracts in front of an offical representative to ensure that nobody accidentally gets raped and put in jail.

EDIT: I should have ended this post by amending that I am NOT saying that there isn't an inherent cultural flaw in our society, when it comes to rape, slut shaming, treatment, etc. I am not saying that we can't do better and shouldn't try.

I am simply arguing that labels are dangerous and creating an umbrella term like Rape culture that encompasses pretty much every aspect of social relation between the sexes is unnecessarily radical.

I think.


The thing with the rape culture, and my take on term, is that it is a narrative that explain a re-occurence of behaviors. There have been many cases where victims of rape have been met with skepticism as opposed to compassion, and where perpatrators are sympathised with, rather than being condemned. This is despite the fact that these events occur with a degree of repittion, by people who are unrelated. From Nova Soctia to california, we're finding these trends, these recurrent behaviors. As such rape culture refers to these societal events. Now with any sort of meta narrative, you're going to find it manifested in different ways. Sometime it manifests itself in the way steubenville happened. Other times, i recall a piece on rape culture at Canadian universities and one example was at one school, (queens i think) having people chanting these rape songs), or even at my old uni there was some controversy over some guys holding up sings by the side of the road saying "honk if you're dropping off your daughter" during the first year move in.

In the latter scenario, the common reaction, including my own at the time, oh it's just guys being stupid, nothing to see here. But upon closer thought, the steubenville people said the same thing, it's just boys being boys. See where I am getting at? Rape Culture will manifest differently according to circumstance. I'm not saying that people who justified the latter act are rape apologists, rather our society (an amalgamation of behaviors, not specific behaviors) has certain behavior trends that manifest differently. That these behaviors are trends, not outliers is the rape culture.


I'm running out of quote space here, In regards to how do we deal with this sort of thing, the recent reforms in ontario's sex education curriculum is a good start. Part of it, in grades 1 or 2, the idea is introduced that No means No. Given that rape culture is something that lies in the mentality of the society, you gotta change it from the ground up. That means instilling different values in the youth.

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Posted 15 April 2015 - 08:30 PM

"No means no" is not nearly as important as the presence of an enthusiastic "Yes!"; after all, the former implies that the absence of a "No", whether from intoxication, intimidation or resignation, is still a "Yes".

Consent: it's not actually that complicated

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Posted 17 April 2015 - 02:50 PM

View PostShiara, on 15 April 2015 - 08:30 PM, said:

"No means no" is not nearly as important as the presence of an enthusiastic "Yes!"; after all, the former implies that the absence of a "No", whether from intoxication, intimidation or resignation, is still a "Yes".

Consent: it's not actually that complicated

agreed, however it's a step in the right direction. Changing a society is something that takes many, small incremental steps

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