[QuickTidal]

Macros, on 27 May 2026 - 03:50 PM, said:

after months of fucking about with a disputed boundary on the house we were buying, everything was agreed a week ago, all sorted, final paperwork being drafted up, ready to sign over and out of nowhere last night the woman rings her agent and says she's not selling.

Thanks for wasting 6 months of our fucking life and thousands of pounds you twat

what the heck? How is she allowed to even do this? I would wager the Real estate board would frown on this hardcore and she'd have trouble listing it again, should she ever choose to.

In Canada, she would get dinged for not just her own fees, but any you incurred as well.

What a pain to deal with.

[Tiste Simeon]

Macros, on 27 May 2026 - 03:50 PM, said:

after months of fucking about with a disputed boundary on the house we were buying, everything was agreed a week ago, all sorted, final paperwork being drafted up, ready to sign over and out of nowhere last night the woman rings her agent and says she's not selling.

Thanks for wasting 6 months of our fucking life and thousands of pounds you twat

Man that sucks. Is there any legal recourse you can take to recover some costs? I work in law but NI conveyancing and property legislation is not my area of expertise haha

[Abyss]

QuickTidal, on 27 May 2026 - 04:44 PM, said:

Macros, on 27 May 2026 - 03:50 PM, said:

after months of fucking about with a disputed boundary on the house we were buying, everything was agreed a week ago, all sorted, final paperwork being drafted up, ready to sign over and out of nowhere last night the woman rings her agent and says she's not selling.

Thanks for wasting 6 months of our fucking life and thousands of pounds you twat

what the heck? How is she allowed to even do this? I would wager the Real estate board would frown on this hardcore and she'd have trouble listing it again, should she ever choose to.

In Canada, she would get dinged for not just her own fees, but any you incurred as well.

What a pain to deal with.

This^

Any sense of whether it's a tactic as opposed to a decision? You could fire back a slightly increased offer w an extremely tight refusal timeline, or, if you want to be nasty about it, revoke the original offer and send a reduced one to reflect time expended.

[Slow Ben]

Abyss, on 27 May 2026 - 05:56 PM, said:

QuickTidal, on 27 May 2026 - 04:44 PM, said:

Macros, on 27 May 2026 - 03:50 PM, said:

after months of fucking about with a disputed boundary on the house we were buying, everything was agreed a week ago, all sorted, final paperwork being drafted up, ready to sign over and out of nowhere last night the woman rings her agent and says she's not selling.

Thanks for wasting 6 months of our fucking life and thousands of pounds you twat

what the heck? How is she allowed to even do this? I would wager the Real estate board would frown on this hardcore and she'd have trouble listing it again, should she ever choose to.

In Canada, she would get dinged for not just her own fees, but any you incurred as well.

What a pain to deal with.

This^

Any sense of whether it's a tactic as opposed to a decision? You could fire back a slightly increased offer w an extremely tight refusal timeline, or, if you want to be nasty about it, revoke the original offer and send a reduced one to reflect time expended.

I’d bet this is it. People suck.

In the states you could sue for “Failure to Perform”, but it’s a pain.

Worst case scenario you should get the money back you have in.

[Macros]

final bit of paper wasn't signed, nothing we can do. its a trust system until the dotted line it signed which is fucking mental but here we are

[Slow Ben]

FFFUUUUUUUUUUUU

[Cause]

I don’t know why it’s bothering me so much but today I tried to buy a packet of crisps at a convenience store. $2.69. I have made this purchase several times. Today there was a new employee and she told me there was a $3.00 minimum and I’d have to buy something else. She was floored when I said I’d just leave it then and headed for the door.

Nothing costs 31 cents and I don’t want to buy something I don’t want. I don’t know why but her reaction to me choosing to leave the transaction has been on my mind ever since. Like I did something wrong.

[amphibian]

Tiste Simeon, on 26 May 2026 - 06:24 PM, said:

TheRetiredBridgeburner, on 26 May 2026 - 09:36 AM, said:

Sorry to read that Tiste. I'm glad the parents reacted in the right way and made them clean it up - but it seems a weird amount of effort to do to anyone, let alone people who've been kind to them.

Thank you yes it's weird and I doubt the kids even knew what they were thinking. Oh well! Life goes on!

There's some element of punishing you for not being there going on in that. I would bet some doughnuts that they were jealous about not being included - this isn't rational, but it sounds like their actual home isn't a place they want to be all that much, so you get some complicated feelings coming over your way.

There were two kids who lived on the floor below my family for a year and were essentially abandoned by their mother when they weren't in school. At 7 and 5, they would go through the neighborhood as basically feral children looking for attention, good or bad, because they couldn't get anything at home. They meant well, but didn't have much in the way of manners so they ended up getting on the nerves of most people around.

[amphibian]

Cause, on 28 May 2026 - 05:42 AM, said:

I don’t know why it’s bothering me so much but today I tried to buy a packet of crisps at a convenience store. $2.69. I have made this purchase several times. Today there was a new employee and she told me there was a $3.00 minimum and I’d have to buy something else. She was floored when I said I’d just leave it then and headed for the door.

Nothing costs 31 cents and I don’t want to buy something I don’t want. I don’t know why but her reaction to me choosing to leave the transaction has been on my mind ever since. Like I did something wrong.

If you were paying by credit card, there's a processing fee that basically means the merchant pays more on fee than they made off what you bought if it's below a certain amount. Many stores have a 5 or 10 minimum for credit cards. 3 is actually low.

[Azath Vitr (D'ivers]

amphibian, on 28 May 2026 - 11:25 AM, said:

Cause, on 28 May 2026 - 05:42 AM, said:

I don't know why it's bothering me so much but today I tried to buy a packet of crisps at a convenience store. $2.69. I have made this purchase several times. Today there was a new employee and she told me there was a $3.00 minimum and I'd have to buy something else. She was floored when I said I'd just leave it then and headed for the door.

Nothing costs 31 cents and I don't want to buy something I don't want. I don't know why but her reaction to me choosing to leave the transaction has been on my mind ever since. Like I did something wrong.

If you were paying by credit card, there's a processing fee that basically means the merchant pays more on fee than they made off what you bought if it's below a certain amount. Many stores have a 5 or 10 minimum for credit cards. 3 is actually low.

Yes, but then why didn't they ask if he had cash, or explain the credit card minimum? One might expect that instructions to do that would be relatively fresh in a new employee's mind.

Also, while he doesn't state it explicitly, by "I have made this purchase several times. Today there was a new employee" he seems to be implying there was a new employee at a particular store location at which he had made "this purchase"---which he probably intended to mean this exact purchase of $2.69 crisps and nothing else---several times. And if it was in fact an official policy change it seems like an odd coincidence that it would happen when they got a new employee, unless they replaced more of the staff, possibly including the manager, or had a new owner.

[amphibian]

I'm going to tell you that gas station employees are not trained consistently and a new person who's had something like proper training could be closer to the actual policy. We aren't going to know for a specific employee or a gas station, but it's a really common thing to see (in the US) minimum dollar amounts for credit card transactions at registers.

[Azath Vitr (D'ivers]

amphibian, on 28 May 2026 - 04:00 PM, said:

I'm going to tell you that gas station employees are not trained consistently and a new person who's had something like proper training could be closer to the actual policy. We aren't going to know for a specific employee or a gas station, but it's a really common thing to see (in the US) minimum dollar amounts for credit card transactions at registers.

Wonder if the more experienced cashiers had just seen how many people respond by getting angry, threatening to shoot them, pooping on the floor, etc. and decided they probably wouldn't get fired if they just did the transaction anyway, even if the store was losing money on it and the manager could tell exactly which cashier had rung it up against protocol... then again maybe that's how they got fired?

Still, the issue of why they wouldn't allow cash payments stands---are they so busy that they don't have time for change?

[QuickTidal]

Ten years ago today, the timeline slipped into whatever hell this is....

[Cause]

It’s not the policy that bugged me, although this sudden change is annoying. I also don’t know if she was a new employee or just new to me. However the part that bothered me was her reacting like I had committed some kind of error in etiquette by choosing to walk away rather than add something unnecessary to my purchase to complete it.

[Azath Vitr (D'ivers]

Cause, on 28 May 2026 - 05:24 PM, said:

It's not the policy that bugged me, although this sudden change is annoying. I also don't know if she was a new employee or just new to me. However the part that bothered me was her reacting like I had committed some kind of error in etiquette by choosing to walk away rather than add something unnecessary to my purchase to complete it.

If it was something you got off a shelf you did remember to put it back I'd assume...

Apparently Gen Z employees tend to have worse in-person social skills. And Gen Z service workers have become infamous for responding with "the Gen Z stare"---but that's supposed to be a blank look, not what you seem to be describing.

This post has been edited by Azath Vitr (D'ivers: 28 May 2026 - 05:30 PM

[QuickTidal]

Cause, on 28 May 2026 - 05:24 PM, said:

It’s not the policy that bugged me, although this sudden change is annoying. I also don’t know if she was a new employee or just new to me. However the part that bothered me was her reacting like I had committed some kind of error in etiquette by choosing to walk away rather than add something unnecessary to my purchase to complete it.

I would have walked out too, good for you. Fuck this BS. If the store has a problem with the CC companies for the charge, then they should fight with them, not their customer.

[Macros]

They should kick back and offer incentives to use cash, so we don't just keep feeding the bank 2% of every single fucking transaction. (yes it upsets me greatly seeing how much we pay the banks in fees with the driving range when the cash is fee free.)

Actually I'd offer 2% off at the till on all purchases made in cash just to stick it to the drive to go cashless.




Anyway

[Tiste Simeon]

amphibian, on 28 May 2026 - 11:23 AM, said:

Tiste Simeon, on 26 May 2026 - 06:24 PM, said:

TheRetiredBridgeburner, on 26 May 2026 - 09:36 AM, said:

Sorry to read that Tiste. I'm glad the parents reacted in the right way and made them clean it up - but it seems a weird amount of effort to do to anyone, let alone people who've been kind to them.

Thank you yes it's weird and I doubt the kids even knew what they were thinking. Oh well! Life goes on!

There's some element of punishing you for not being there going on in that. I would bet some doughnuts that they were jealous about not being included - this isn't rational, but it sounds like their actual home isn't a place they want to be all that much, so you get some complicated feelings coming over your way.

There were two kids who lived on the floor below my family for a year and were essentially abandoned by their mother when they weren't in school. At 7 and 5, they would go through the neighborhood as basically feral children looking for attention, good or bad, because they couldn't get anything at home. They meant well, but didn't have much in the way of manners so they ended up getting on the nerves of most people around.

Yeah this was one of my thoughts though it's certainly not the first time we've gone out (especially when the weather is good we take our kids all over the place and never had problems). Ah well.

And the TT is on and already (4 days into it) a rider has died and a 2 year old spectator and her mum were rushed to hospital in an air ambulance. Brutal.

This post has been edited by Tiste Simeon: 28 May 2026 - 09:34 PM

[Cause]

So continuing my adventures as someone who doesn’t carry cash. Ever. I think it’s a habit from South Africa.

I was at an Indian restaurant and after my meal I asked for the bill. The waiter brought a machine to the table and he told me to skip the tip. I said I was happy to tip. He explained that the restaurant keeps the tips if they are not cash. I told the waiter that was illegal and he shrugged resigned.

I know it’s illegal. There was a recent story about a restaurant that did the same thing. Eventually got reported and the state fined them. I think the restaurant closed.

So while I want to fight for workers rights I also feel it’s not my place to report it if they know it’s illegal and have chosen not to report it themselves. I don’t want to report wage theft and end up costing them their jobs instead.

[QuickTidal]

We've put our son in baseball (baseball is big in our small town), and bought him all the gear. He's only had two practices (he's the youngest on the team and doesn't really know what he's doing) and last night they had their first game...and it was a dumpster fire.

Firstly, the coaches were none of them able to be present (for whatever reason; this annoyed me...it's the first game and NONE of the three of you can be present?) so parents were texted to help....two dads my age (maybe a bit younger) helped be base coaches, and one did the pitching (machine), while a mom and a teenager handled the batting order. To say that it was disorganized nonsense is...being kind. That said, for whatever stupid reason they put my son up first to bat (something he may have done once or twice)...and he's a min-version of what I was like as a kid, so riddled with anxiety which spikes when lots of people are looking...and the first pitch hit his hand. He whiffed the other 4 pitches, and I thought eveythguin was okay till he turned towards me and he was crying. I picked him up and consoled him and he said "I hate this. I want to go home. I don't want to do this anymore. I hurt my hand"....then he went and hid in the bushes.

I went up to the girl handling the batting order, explained he was feeling anxious and hurt his hand and asked if he could sit out an inning, and she said "He HAS to bat"....way to read the room lady...so that made shit worse.

After a lot of talking to him, I coaxed him out of the bushes and he was able to take his place in left field...where he promptly ignored the ball when it came near him.

The next at bat he said he wasn't going. And I spent another few minutes telling him just to go up and try and see, and that it's a game and it's supposed to be fun. So he goes up., and he gets a piece of one of the five pitches and starts to run...but it went foul and his face dropped...and he was miserable again. I tried to explain that getting a hit, no matter that it went foul is a great thing and an achievement to celebrate. Nope. He was not having it. The last time he had to go up to bat, it took even more coaxing...and he whiffed all five and was upset.

The only time he smiled the whole time was when he got his snack at the end of the game.

Now, I want him to do something he finds fun and I don't want him to look on this as a chore (I had various sports I was forced to play as a kid and I hated them)...so this weekend I'm going to take him to the local park with his bat and glove and see if I can't get him more comfy with swinging and catching and just the general mechanics of the game...but I feel like if he struggles with it I should pull him. Not because I don't think he can do it, but because I don't want him to resent it if he truly hates it.

What a mess. It doesn't help that his older sister has not only done and excelled at various sports (martial arts being the peak among them) but was determined to do them even when she struggled at the beginning. So he looks at her and thinks he can't be as good as she is at this stuff and it makes him feel worse. Poor lad.

This post has been edited by QuickTidal: 29 May 2026 - 12:06 PM