Cause, on 13 November 2023 - 11:57 PM, said:
My friend who I have been having the troubles with that I mentioned previously messaged me a little bit earlier. On the chance that she is struggling I have expressed support and tried giving her the benefit of the doubt and not brought up the issue again which she has completely ignored over the last two months since we last spoke about it. As I cant have a one way conversation I have mostly kept to not reaching out untill she replies to the last message I sent her. She replied to a a few messages I sent her 11 days ago wishing her well on her vacation and answering a few questions she had asked, including mentioning I would be going to Vegas for a long weekend next month.
Her message was a greeting, a question asking if I have seen a particular TV show and than she asks why I didnt invite her to Vegas, followed by a question asking if we are still friends. The tone of the first two questions seem like an attempt to reach out I dont know what to make of the tone of the last two questions. I don't think it was her intent but they seem mocking rather than playful, and in light of the nature of the issue I have previously raised just a generally wierd thing to say.
Im trying to decide what to reply but dont even know how to interpret the message.
The Vegas question and the are we still friends question are the same question of "Have I damaged the relationship enough that I should go away?". She's someone who doesn't get directly to the point and yet within this response you get a pretty serious decision point here.
I would be wary of doing too much. Don't go over the top, promising you'll be friends forever etc.
"Hi. It didn't seem like the right fit at the time to invite you to Vegas. Sure, we're still friends. What's been fun lately?"
Light-hearted, true, not rejecting, not committing to anything.
Then you walk away and let her deal with her end. Good luck.
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