When the exit poll results landed last week, one of my oldest friends and I ended up having mildly sharp words. Not because we voted differently, but because I choose not to condemn everyone who did as stupid, racist, cruel, uneducated and a whole host of other descriptors. I've no doubt people who fit some or all of that exist but to tar everybody with the same brush is too simplistic and to me a bit narrow minded. I was really disappointed with the result too, but not so much that I think people who think differently to me shouldn't be allowed to vote etc - put shortly, for the Left to get back into power, they need the votes of some of the more central right-wing and you won't get those by calling them names.
Jump forward to yesterday, and she's deleted me off everything without a word. 10+ years of close friendship thrown away because I don't want to call a bunch of people names.
Having had an evening to digest it, I think if she's become so rigid in needing complete agreement with everything then if it hadn't have been this then surely it would have been something else. I also think the fact I'm a falconer and she's an ever-more militant vegan would have probably been raised eventually (she hadn't done so far, but I've been involved in an education project recently so posting a lot about that and I suppose it might have been a factor.) In my heart of hearts I knew she had been becoming more and more "everyone who doesn't think exactly like me is a monster". I don't like it, but she was definitely morphing more and more into the stereotype that makes "so much for the tolerant Left" such an easy win soundbite for some people.
Aside from the fact I think it's a bloody stupid reason, I'm really taken aback that all that time and closeness wasn't even worth talking about whatever her problem was. Just gone without a word.
This post has been edited by TheRetiredBridgeburner: 18 December 2019 - 07:10 AM