[Gust Hubb]

Apt, on 04 August 2016 - 07:36 AM, said:

Gust Hubb, on 04 August 2016 - 12:47 AM, said:

Ah the down. Really depressed, more tired and hopeless. I flick through photos of beautiful women in seemingly vibrant lives and feel passed by as no one responds as usual. I want to have a life again, but feel everyone is too busy or distracted to bother. It's the loneliness that kills.

Time to start self-prescribing happy pills, Gust? Or maybe speak with a councilor? You are going through a pseudo-grief period.

It is a pseudo grief period and the anti-anxiety meds work that way too. It's just the roller coaster of everything from sucky days at work to hoping someone will take a shine to me since obviously my ex never entirely did.

I'm sure life has good points, but in times like these, it generally sucks.

[QuickTidal]

Gust Hubb, on 04 August 2016 - 11:37 AM, said:

Apt, on 04 August 2016 - 07:36 AM, said:

Gust Hubb, on 04 August 2016 - 12:47 AM, said:

Ah the down. Really depressed, more tired and hopeless. I flick through photos of beautiful women in seemingly vibrant lives and feel passed by as no one responds as usual. I want to have a life again, but feel everyone is too busy or distracted to bother. It's the loneliness that kills.

Time to start self-prescribing happy pills, Gust? Or maybe speak with a councilor? You are going through a pseudo-grief period.

It is a pseudo grief period and the anti-anxiety meds work that way too. It's just the roller coaster of everything from sucky days at work to hoping someone will take a shine to me since obviously my ex never entirely did.

I'm sure life has good points, but in times like these, it generally sucks.

I would advise to get involved in something extracurricular. Be it a sport, or a class, or just something that isn't work or home. It could even be one of those painting and wine dealies.

[Gust Hubb]

QuickTidal, on 04 August 2016 - 12:33 PM, said:

Gust Hubb, on 04 August 2016 - 11:37 AM, said:

Apt, on 04 August 2016 - 07:36 AM, said:

Gust Hubb, on 04 August 2016 - 12:47 AM, said:

Ah the down. Really depressed, more tired and hopeless. I flick through photos of beautiful women in seemingly vibrant lives and feel passed by as no one responds as usual. I want to have a life again, but feel everyone is too busy or distracted to bother. It's the loneliness that kills.

Time to start self-prescribing happy pills, Gust? Or maybe speak with a councilor? You are going through a pseudo-grief period.

It is a pseudo grief period and the anti-anxiety meds work that way too. It's just the roller coaster of everything from sucky days at work to hoping someone will take a shine to me since obviously my ex never entirely did.

I'm sure life has good points, but in times like these, it generally sucks.

I would advise to get involved in something extracurricular. Be it a sport, or a class, or just something that isn't work or home. It could even be one of those painting and wine dealies.

Good advice. I will look into it.

[Gorefest]

Painting and wine? That's a thing? Why was I never told? I love painting wine!

This post has been edited by Gorefest: 04 August 2016 - 02:38 PM

[Abyss]

Gust Hubb, on 04 August 2016 - 11:37 AM, said:

...
I'm sure life has good points, ...

Your kids.

[worry]

Why weigh being in a relationship so heavily anyway? What's the rush?

[Macros]

Yeah gusty. I get you're used to being in a relationship, having that, or at least the illusion of, stability and comfort.
But there's nothing wrong with flying solo for a while. Go watch films you want to see, go alone, you don't have to compromise or pander to anyone else's needs at all. Make this a moment for Gusty, was there anything you wanted to try but couldn't due to marital constraints? Maybe your ex didn't like the idea of rock climbing but you've been hankering to try it.

Harness up

Climb that fucking wall.

[Gust Hubb]

Haha, yeah, that is what I am already trying to do. I am not expecting anything at this point, but I need friends. I have this one friend who cancelled on me now 2 nights in a row when I was offering to make dinner and hang out. And such is common among those with whom I associate.

I am lonely guys, and not just looking for love. Any friend, a true non-flakey one, would do. I have never had luck establishing anything that lasted beyond 9 years..

I am today looking into joining some kind of group, trying to figure out what is out there.

[worry]

Ah that makes a lot more sense. Sucks you can't make friends at work -- everybody there's such a stiff.

[Macros]

I see now what you mean, the only time I had to deal with that was working in France, I found a local bar that showed premier league football and just got chatting to people there, I wouldn't go out and call them friends, but we got along and it helped having somewhere I could go hang out and basically be guaranteed someone to chat and have a beer with

[Vengeance]

Gust Hubb, on 04 August 2016 - 02:33 PM, said:

QuickTidal, on 04 August 2016 - 12:33 PM, said:

Gust Hubb, on 04 August 2016 - 11:37 AM, said:

Apt, on 04 August 2016 - 07:36 AM, said:

Gust Hubb, on 04 August 2016 - 12:47 AM, said:

Ah the down. Really depressed, more tired and hopeless. I flick through photos of beautiful women in seemingly vibrant lives and feel passed by as no one responds as usual. I want to have a life again, but feel everyone is too busy or distracted to bother. It's the loneliness that kills.

Time to start self-prescribing happy pills, Gust? Or maybe speak with a councilor? You are going through a pseudo-grief period.

It is a pseudo grief period and the anti-anxiety meds work that way too. It's just the roller coaster of everything from sucky days at work to hoping someone will take a shine to me since obviously my ex never entirely did.

I'm sure life has good points, but in times like these, it generally sucks.

I would advise to get involved in something extracurricular. Be it a sport, or a class, or just something that isn't work or home. It could even be one of those painting and wine dealies.

Good advice. I will look into it.

Gust I am pretty sure I have already told you to go to a beginner yoga class. Get your ass there already. Find one usually a place is cheap for the first month and start doing yoga.

A. you will meet cool people
B. You will feel better after and for longer periods
C. Usually a lot of single girls

[Mentalist]

re: yoga: meeting girls? most likely

Feeling good? HELL, NO. every part of your body will hurt like hell.

Mentalist, hates yoga.

[Gust Hubb]

Haha, yeah actually I think I found my best shot in this meetup thing. I just decided on a whim to go out and loved it.

Venge, I like hot girls, I just don'the want to get caught staring...

[Macros]

Wear sunglasses.
Simples.

I've alway been tempted to take up yoga or Pilates or something, purely because my lack of flexibility is quite frankly embarrassing and I'm relatively sure it's linked to my intermittent back problems

[Morgoth]

Gust Hubb, on 04 August 2016 - 09:47 PM, said:

Haha, yeah, that is what I am already trying to do. I am not expecting anything at this point, but I need friends. I have this one friend who cancelled on me now 2 nights in a row when I was offering to make dinner and hang out. And such is common among those with whom I associate.

I am lonely guys, and not just looking for love. Any friend, a true non-flakey one, would do. I have never had luck establishing anything that lasted beyond 9 years..

I am today looking into joining some kind of group, trying to figure out what is out there.

I know that feeling very well. The sudden absence of... something. A presence, a distraction or whatever. I still miss having Sarah with me.

What about a boardgame group, a boardgame cafe or something? It's easy to become friends with people that crush you brutally in games, preferably while drinking beer.

[Raymond Luxury Yacht]

Are you single now morgoth? I think I missed that.

[Morgoth]

Raymond Luxury Yacht, on 05 August 2016 - 06:41 AM, said:

Are you single now morgoth? I think I missed that.

Yeah, for about a year and a half. Feels like a lifetime ago in some ways.

[Tsundoku]

Macros, on 05 August 2016 - 04:51 AM, said:

my lack of flexibility is quite frankly embarrassing and I'm relatively sure it's linked to my intermittent back problems

Ditto. I just have to find someone who can do all the annoying stretching for me, cheaply.

EDIT: I just received a text from a mate saying they assumed I wasn't coming to the game tonight. It's just after 9pm and I live an hour's drive away from the place it's held.

I've been looking forward to it since before I went away for work and I just ... forgot. I remember thinking about it this morning, when I put my car in for a service and wondered if it would be back in time for me to drive to the game. Then ... nada. Got the car, went to the bookfest and picked up a few of Matthew Reilly's for mum - the SFF section was at least 50% paranormal romance, of that at least 40% were Twilight - then came home and got on the computer, waited for dinner, had dinner and then the text arrived.

Yeesh.

Turns out my earlier post wasn't only diagnostic, it was prophetic too.

EDIT2: I texted back apologising profusely offering no excuses. Their reply "Apology accepted, Captain Needa". It's a Star Wars Edge of the Empire game.

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[Gust Hubb]

Morgoth, on 05 August 2016 - 06:24 AM, said:

Gust Hubb, on 04 August 2016 - 09:47 PM, said:

Haha, yeah, that is what I am already trying to do. I am not expecting anything at this point, but I need friends. I have this one friend who cancelled on me now 2 nights in a row when I was offering to make dinner and hang out. And such is common among those with whom I associate.

I am lonely guys, and not just looking for love. Any friend, a true non-flakey one, would do. I have never had luck establishing anything that lasted beyond 9 years..

I am today looking into joining some kind of group, trying to figure out what is out there.

I know that feeling very well. The sudden absence of... something. A presence, a distraction or whatever. I still miss having Sarah with me.

What about a boardgame group, a boardgame cafe or something? It's easy to become friends with people that crush you brutally in games, preferably while drinking beer.

Yeah definitely gonna look for those, and, sigh, may try yoga. Just getting out last night roughly salvaged this week for me though. And it was all guys I was hanging with. I just need people around despite my supposedly introverted nature.

Thanks all yet again.

[QuickTidal]

People who don't like being told a file (usually a zip file) sent in is corrupt. They want to talk to me on the phone about why....and I'm like I can literally share no further information with you other than it's corrupt. You need to find who made it and hassle THEM not me. But noooooo, I gotta baby step through everything repetitively.