[Tiste Simeon]

Puckstein, on 07 November 2015 - 10:48 AM, said:

Aaaand I officially have no home anymore. I honestly, truly do not care anymore what my mother does. I have just started picking myself back up, with therapy and getting this self-employment thing under way. I don NOT need her to drag me back down. So yeah, she threw me out.

While that does suck I think it will be good for you. You can be you now!

[Puck]

Let's be honest, if I do manage to find a place to stay, everything will be better. Also, I can at least still sleep at 'home' for a bit, though I do not know for how long. May be two days, may be a week, may be two weeks. The problem is that I have just started getting things back together. On the other hand, that's probably just what I need to let go of my guilty feelings and stop looking at what my mother wants.

Also, and that's the annoying part, while I can probably just up and leave and crash with friends, I have just started to work properly as a freelancer and am mostly busy trying to pull in contracts and build up a reputation, and I need my desk and my supplies to be able to work. She's been obstructing my self-employment for half a year now because she thinks the tax office is the devil (though I don't even have to pay taxes anyway, for now), last week I went and got the registration form from the tax office - against her will, naturally. The wrath at hom was a sight to behold.

Thanks everyone for their concern. I actually have a much clearer picture of what to do now that I've decided to stop feeling guilt anymore (not that actually doing so is as easy as it sounds, but I'm working on it - though it does get me stuff like 'Don't look at me with those shameless eyes like your father!'.. yeah, whatever you say..) I just need to somehow get there. I'd asked for help with living expenses at the social assistance office (or whatever it's called in English) way back in May, but they've been ignoring me all this time. They can't anymore now, especially since now six months have passed and I can legally threaten them with contacting a lawyer.

So, basically, nothing's well, but the therapy's helping. I just wish it's wasn't a weekend day and I could get to doing stuff now, instead of having to wait several days.

This post has been edited by Puckstein: 07 November 2015 - 12:13 PM

[Egwene]

You have got some real talent, Puck. Just follow your gut instincts where your career is concerned and you'll be ok. You might even find that you get on better with you mother with a bit of distance between you! Hope all goes well with the social assistance office! *Ich drueck Dir beide Daumen!!!*

[HoosierDaddy]

In more stupid and far less important groove messing: The "History Channel"'s World War doc of 6 hours, part 3, is easily the worst fucking documentary I've ever seen. And there are actual historians involved, who I'm sure feel awful now that they were involved. Incorrect information, incomplete information, just an absolute shit show.

[Andorion]

HoosierDaddy, on 08 November 2015 - 06:18 AM, said:

In more stupid and far less important groove messing: The "History Channel"'s World War doc of 6 hours, part 3, is easily the worst fucking documentary I've ever seen. And there are actual historians involved, who I'm sure feel awful now that they were involved. Incorrect information, incomplete information, just an absolute shit show.

Just read a good book. There are some excellent books. I could recommend a few, if you are interested

[HoosierDaddy]

My history major was WW2, with a heavy concentration on the eastern front. But, I'm always up for recommendations!

[Mezla PigDog]

Abyss, on 06 November 2015 - 04:28 PM, said:

You are glowing.

You just cant see it under the sweat grime dust puke kitchen scraps dirty socks...



Re the nausea, for what its worth, eating, even a snack, when you're NOT feeling hungry or nauseous can help in some cases. There can be different reasons for the nausea but if you're one of those people who is getting in in reaction to hunger (more or less), it can help.

Maybe the grey pallor could be called "glowing" in some circles.

Is there anything Le Chat does not know about? I'm eating every 2-4hrs or so. It's going to be the first baby incubated entirely on crackers and fish finger sandwiches. Allegedly I'll perk up at some point within the next couple of weeks .... unless I'm one of the unfortunate few. Maybe I should not have cursed god upthread.

@Puck - bad luck on the housing situation but assuming you can work something out elsewhere I reckon it's the best thing. It's amazing how much more tolerable family is when you don't live under the same roof. And if you are inclined you can cut your mum off entirely.

[Traveller]

You SO need to get away, Puck, you will be far better off cutting those ties and claiming your independence, no matter how hard it is to do. I went through something similar. I can now handle visits to my mum, for a short amount of time, but things were impossible when we were under the same roof - things only improved after I put a lot of distance between us, cleared all her perceived financial ties, and left it a few years. Best of luck!

You too Mez, you will feel better once the sickness calms down. I think my boy was pretty much grown on fish finger sandwiches and he turned out fine!

This post has been edited by Traveller: 08 November 2015 - 01:33 PM

[Andorion]

HoosierDaddy, on 08 November 2015 - 09:03 AM, said:

My history major was WW2, with a heavy concentration on the eastern front. But, I'm always up for recommendations!

Oh in that case you probably know a lot more about it than I do.

As for books I have read recently on WW2

Andrew Roberts: The Storm of War
Anthony Beevor: The Second World War

Richard Overy Russias War
RHS Stolfi: Hitlers Panzers East
James Holland: The Battle of Britain
Robert Kershaw: War without Garlands
Douglas Porch: Hitlers Mediterranean Gamble
David Glantz: Barbarossa
Dennis Showalter: Armour and Blood also Hitlers Panzers

[Raymond Luxury Yacht]

Mez morning sickness is associated with a decreased risk of miscarriage, so that's a good sign. Add a lot of ginger to your diet. Ginger ale made with real ginger, ginger candy, candied ginger, dehydrated ginger, etc. it helped my wife a lot.

[HoosierDaddy]

Sex with gingers, too?

If so I need to get pregnant.

[Solidsnape]

HoosierDaddy, on 08 November 2015 - 06:51 PM, said:

Sex with gingers, too?

If so I need to get pregnant.

It's time to worry when you get a Ginger pregnant.
Twice.

[Maark Abbott]

Solidsnape, on 08 November 2015 - 07:54 PM, said:

HoosierDaddy, on 08 November 2015 - 06:51 PM, said:

Sex with gingers, too?

If so I need to get pregnant.

It's time to worry when you get a Ginger pregnant.
Twice.

It spreads faster than the T-Virus if both parents have ginger.

[EmperorMagus]

My awkwardness and social ineptitude. I seriously wish I could act like my father when I'm around people while I'm still this young. Why can't I be young and actually intelligent?
I would be more specific but the specifics are so embarrassing that I'd prefer not to mention them.

[amphibian]

EmperorMagus, on 09 November 2015 - 08:56 AM, said:

My awkwardness and social ineptitude. I seriously wish I could act like my father when I'm around people while I'm still this young. Why can't I be young and actually intelligent?
I would be more specific but the specifics are so embarrassing that I'd prefer not to mention them.

For most people, this takes practice. Lots of it.

And a sort of go-to set of ice-breakers that you resort to with complete strangers. I like to talk about whether hot dogs are sandwiches (they are, and so are samosas and gyros), what their favorite movie is, and whether they have any interesting trips coming up.

I got lucky in that where I come from and who I have become is somewhat unusual for the city I'm in, so if they turned the tables on me and wanted to know about me, I was able to work out how to still be interesting enough to maintain attention.

[QuickTidal]

I didn't want to overshadow Mez's recent news with my downer news (and frankly my wife and I were in pieces for the last few weeks so I wasn't sure about sharing), but since you all knew that we were expecting a child I may as well let you know that at one day shy of the 4th month, we lost the baby to miscarriage. According to the Doctors nothing abnormal or anything we could have done, just a statistic (apparently 1 in 4 women experience this, which is a hugely high number to me)...and it reduced us to a mess together. As emotional as it was for me, it was ten times worse for my poor wife who essentially had to go through labor pain for two straight days in hospital.

Anyways, that's still messing with my groove. We will be trying again obviously, but now the fear has set in that something could go wrong again. Which means we may have trouble allowing ourselves to be as happy as we were the first time because we will now of course worry all the time.

It pretty much sucks.

[Andorion]

QuickTidal, on 09 November 2015 - 04:26 PM, said:

I didn't want to overshadow Mez's recent news with my downer news (and frankly my wife and I were in pieces for the last few weeks so I wasn't sure about sharing), but since you all knew that we were expecting a child I may as well let you know that at one day shy of the 4th month, we lost the baby to miscarriage. According to the Doctors nothing abnormal or anything we could have done, just a statistic (apparently 1 in 4 women experience this, which is a hugely high number to me)...and it reduced us to a mess together. As emotional as it was for me, it was ten times worse for my poor wife who essentially had to go through labor pain for two straight days in hospital.

Anyways, that's still messing with my groove. We will be trying again obviously, but now the fear has set in that something could go wrong again. Which means we may have trouble allowing ourselves to be as happy as we were the first time because we will now of course worry all the time.

It pretty much sucks.

Oh QT I am so sorry to hear that. It must be terrible for you and your wife. You have my commiserations and I hope you two can come out of this stronger

[QuickTidal]

Thanks man. We are coping well enough, and hopefully it does make us stronger.

[QuickTidal]

Briar King, on 09 November 2015 - 05:35 PM, said:

I can't imagine the feeling. It does happen often. Y'all don't give into fear and tell Mrs thoughts and love are beaming up from Louisiana.

Will do Tanner, thanks.

[Mezla PigDog]

Really sorry to hear that QT. I have a few friends and family members who had the same thing happen and then have gone on to have healthy babies so just give it some time and then focus on the positive stats if you can. It's a real weird situation though, feeling proper grief for something but without the usual experiences to allow you to channel it and talk to people. Good luck to both of you.