Puckstein, on 16 October 2015 - 02:07 PM, said:
I guess I should clear up some things, as I provoked more of a response than I meant to, though this is probably going to get me more flak..
Look, I am perfectly aware that having almost waist-long dreads will provoke looks. You get used to it or cut them off. What provoked my rant yesterday was me almost missing my train stop because a couple of young women, of whom one was too busy playing with her smartphone to be able to walk, and the other was too busy staring at me to walk. They were standing in my way, and the doors were about to close, so I made a gesture to remind the latter one to get over herself and out of the freaking train (the gesture being pointing at the doors), at which point she gave me a look like I'd just threaned to personally kick her out of it, and scuttled off with her friend. And that was the second such incident yesterday, and I'd had a bad mood even before that. And then there was this guy on the next train who gave me a look like I was going to shoot him, both times I walked past him while looking for a seat, so it was no accident. And I'd like to know what the hell that was. I've had random people ask me if I take drugs, because 'uuuh, your hair, you probably smoke something funny' and I've had a random, fifty-year-old bus driver try to kiss me (long story, creepy as hell), but somehow I find those 'staring and stopping whatever they were doing'-people annoying while everyone else is just mildly weird to amusing. Or nice, like that older lady on the bus last week who after some uncomfortable looking just up and asked me stuff, so we had a nice little chat. It's okay to stare, please go on, just get on with life and don't stand in the way, ever, no matter what you're doing - staring at people, talking on the phone, picking your nose - on public transport or other such areas.
I don't give a crap about what people think, but I do give a lot of crap about what they do, especially if that means being obstructive. It's equally annoying as some people being seemingly unable to get their eyes off their phone for three seconds to get off the train without obstructing anyone else, or talking on the phone while standing in line and it being their turn, and so on.
By people getting over themselves I mean 'Get you eyes off your phone, your nose, your fingernails, other people, or whatever else takes up too much attention to walk' when you're in a crowded area and people are trying to get past you. Yeah, I mostly talked about staring in my previous post, but that's what the issue comes down to, the staring was just what particularly annoyed me yesterday.
Call me unable to get over myself. As some of you have pointed out, I should not give a crap, and I don't, actually. Most of the time.
Edit: bah, spelling!
Wear headphones, and avoid eye contact, by looking past or through people. Shades help, but that's optional.
If you're not out to enjoy a stroll but actually running errands and need to get from point A to point B, making yourself oblivious to the world helps. People generally read that body language and understand the "I have 0 desire to be social with randoms" attitude. And they move out of the way when they see you're not gonna slow down - you're the oblivious one, after all. Tends to get me much more personal space.
Edit; messing with my groove is being sore after 3 indoor games in 2 days. Having a desk job is great for the bruises in the feet, but my thighs and hamstrings get ridiculously sore and tight.
And I can't go swim to loosen it all up until tomorrow after work, b/c the new season schedule only has rec swims on Wednesdays and Fridays, unlike the summer when I could go 4 days a week.
I need to buy a condo in a building with an indoor pool.
This post has been edited by Mentalist: 20 October 2015 - 04:53 PM
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