[Centzon Totochtin]

bah stupid babies.

Still can't sleep and jelly brain is melting. only 2 days to go...

[tiam]

girlfriend is going out with 'just a friend' tonight and she goes an stays at his house sumtimes. He has liked her for ages but shes been with a boyfried, either me or her ex, for the last 2 years. We broke up a while ago for a bit an all of a sudden surprise he starts making his move subtly. We got back together an she didnt tell him for a bit an while he thouight she was single his whole demeanour changed towards her. She just tinks hes a 'friend' and is 'to much of a gentleman to try anything' which as we all know is how some blokes work. Shes knows he likes her so is either naieve or knows how much it drives me crazy and does it every now an again to keep me on my toes which i dont need as am insecure about this relationhip as it is. All it wil take is us to have one arguement and him to come out the woodwork as 'just a friend' and then im fucked.

Any ideas, possibly ones that wont get me arrested although any thoughts are welcome

This post has been edited by tiam: 21 July 2009 - 01:08 PM

[Slum]

Umm...dump her a find a girlfriend who doesn't make you feel insecure and doesn't spend the night other dudes' houses.

[Aptorian]

Well, a perfectly staged "accident" wont get you arrested.

[Zanth13]

Set that guy up with a GF, or if thats to hard, invite him out drinking and get him laid, take pictures... show her...

[Anomander]

I am so incredibly pissed at my university right now....

So here's the situation: I transferred to my current school in December of last year to start the winter semester. Everything seemed fine, the dean accepted a lot of my transfer credits and it was looking like I would only need one more academic year after the winter semester to be all caught up. I passed that semester with a B- average and about 2-3 weeks ago go to register my classes for the upcoming year. 'Lo and behold the engineering department hasn't bothered passing along my file for 7 months and none of my transfer credits are in the system. Those credits were basically all my pre-reqs to get into all my classes for this year so essentially I'm fucked until they get off their asses and fix the mess. Thankfully the registrar agreed that none of this was my fault so if by the time the situation was sorted any of the classes I need are full they would talk to the prof about getting me in the class. This happened last week and I was pleased with the situation, eagerly awaiting when I could finish registering.

I get a call on Friday telling me that everything is sorted and I should be free to go from now on. Today was the first day I was near a computer long enough during work hours to pick my classes but once again all that's coming up is errors. I'm quite pissed at this point and phone the registrar once again. Apparently the prof who entered my credits mixed up my first year engineering programming class for some credit in the computer science department and as this was an essential requirement for my upcoming classes once again the system will not let me register anything. On top of this, I'm apparently signed up to do a Bachelor of Science as well and was told if I didn't want this that I would need to fill out more forms to get that information changed on my file. So now I'm stuck until I can meet with the dean of science and sort this mess out.

But it gets even better!

For my degree I'm required to do a certain amount of electives, basically some writing classes to balance all the science ones. As such I did 2 second year French grammar classes at my previous school after being told they would count. No such luck, during the transfer process I was told because they're language classes they wouldn't count. Ok, that's annoying, but I move on and take different electives this past semester. Well, apparently the registrar actually took a moment to look at what those classes entail (ie. a lot of fucking writing) and realized they may actually count afterall! By this point I'm just about spitting mad at having potentially paid for a class I may not have needed, but I won't be certain of this until this dean fellow and I have our meeting.

Honestly, just kill me now.

[tiam]

Slumgullion Spitteler, on Jul 21 2009, 02:17 PM, said:

Umm...dump her a find a girlfriend who doesn't make you feel insecure and doesn't spend the night other dudes' houses.

to be fair they have been friends for ages and i dont think anythiing happened as i was on the fone to her most of the nite.

Aptorian, on Jul 21 2009, 02:21 PM, said:

Well, a perfectly staged "accident" wont get you arrested.

Im with Apt on this one

Still no text from her. *sigh* ah well Halo 3 for a while followed by oblivion. Love that mages garden apt tw

[caladanbrood]

Fuck the deceiving whore!


No, not talking about taim's lady, sorry

[tiam]

well halo 3 and oblion is over and still feel like shit. Insecurities are the cause of the world problems

[Slow Ben]

tiam, on Jul 21 2009, 08:06 AM, said:

and she goes an stays at his house sumtimes.

NOT....GOOD!

Letting her hang out with the guy is one thing, but this shit should NOT fly!

[lobo the wolfman]

Slow Ben, on Jul 22 2009, 08:28 AM, said:

tiam, on Jul 21 2009, 08:06 AM, said:

and she goes an stays at his house sumtimes.

NOT....GOOD!

Letting her hang out with the guy is one thing, but this shit should NOT fly!

I'm in agreement with Slow Ben, your Gf should not be staying at a other mans house, unless you are are there with her. I get the feeling that she is playing you man, even if nothing is happening between them.

[tiam]

*brace ureself for stereotype*

Shes different (dun dun dunnnnn).

seriously she is. Weve been having an arguement for about an hour an a half now so i will get a reply up as its still going on

[Raymond Luxury Yacht]

your girlfriend should not be spending the night at another guy's house. Hanging out is one thing, sleepovers is another. Move on.

[Shiara]

My sister did this - hung out with another guy to make her boyfriend jealous. I don't think he noticed. Then this other guy (who is really lovely and nice) confessed his feelings for her, and SHE got shitty at HIM. Broke off all contact with him - like, how dare he have feelings for her when she was just using him for her own selfish ends?

Times like those I don't respect my sister much...

[stone monkey]

The situation is markedly different, but I've slept over at my best mate's girlfriend's house when he wasn't there. Although I had been babysitting her kids on those occasions and it was easier for me to get to work the next day from her house.

It's a matter of trust, I think. Even if she's only playing games; i.e. making you well aware that she has other options, I think the pair of you really need to be looking at your relationship. You two would definitely need to sit down and talk about it, so you both know where the other stands on the situation. Whilst you shouldn't be dwelling on the issue, you do need her to be aware that the situation makes you uncomfortable. What she does then is up to her. Laying down the law is a bad idea; she isn't your property, she's an adult who can do what she wishes.

Trust works both ways, though. If she feels you don't trust her or you feel that you can't, then you're in trouble. But imo the way to deal with insecurities of this kind is to get them out in the open. Once the subject is out in the light of day you can both work out together what needs to be done about it.

This post has been edited by stone monkey: 22 July 2009 - 12:22 AM

[Shiara]

stone monkey, on Jul 22 2009, 10:21 AM, said:

It's a matter of trust, I think. Even if she's only playing games; i.e. making you well aware that she has other options, I think the pair of you really need to be looking at your relationship. You two would definitely need to sit down and talk about it, so you both know where the other stands on the situation. Whilst you shouldn't be dwelling on the issue, you do need her to be aware that the situation makes you uncomfortable. What she does then is up to her. Laying down the law is a bad idea; she isn't your property, she's an adult who can do what she wishes.

Trust works both ways, though. If she feels you don't trust her or you feel that you can't, then you're in trouble. But imo the way to deal with insecurities of this kind is to get them out in the open. Once the subject is out in the light of day you can both work out together what needs to be done about it.

What he said

[Centzon Totochtin]

Anomander, on Jul 22 2009, 04:18 AM, said:

I am so incredibly pissed at my university right now....

......

Honestly, just kill me now.

OUCH! Hope it all works out Ano! If you were at my uni I would help you out

This post has been edited by Centzon Totochtin: 22 July 2009 - 01:54 AM

[amphibian]

tiam, on Jul 21 2009, 09:06 AM, said:

[Strange drama stuff]
Any ideas, possibly ones that wont get me arrested although any thoughts are welcome

You're in your teen years. It's not worth going through all this hassle of arguing on the phone, sniping at people behind their backs and being all dramatic. Some girls like having boy toys that let the girl walk all over them.

Giving ultimatums and commanding spouses doesn't work so well in relationships. A side point to the great advice StoneMonkey gave is that people do what they want. Telling them to do otherwise usually backfires - especially when boinking is involved.

Sounds like she's doing what she wants. So far she's not putting the issue to rest by either stopping the suspicious behavior or truly reassuring you that it's you she wants to be with and nothing's going to happen.

My advice: Cut ties. Move on.

Tell her "It's not worth this hassle" and do not shit-talk her to anyone else in your social circles. Be the good guy. Don't take her back. You'll likely find someone else even cooler pretty soon.

If you can tom cat around with her hotter friend or friends within a week, that'd be 1) awesome and 2) somewhat hilarious.

Focus: I got kicked out of a KFC. Stone sober.

This post has been edited by amphibian: 22 July 2009 - 02:54 AM

[Raymond Luxury Yacht]

What for?

[Tremolo]

amphibian, on Jul 22 2009, 03:51 AM, said:

Focus: I got kicked out of a KFC. Stone sober.

For impersonating Illy or did you ask the girl behind the counter whether she had some big breasts for you?

My gripe? No tickets for the Metallica concerts in Copenhagen.