Tapper, on 30 April 2012 - 06:24 PM, said:
the more interesting wade-newb, on 30 April 2012 - 05:10 PM, said:
I've always known my girlfriend was easily influenced by her friends' poor decisions, and she tried smoking tonight. Despite her obvious regret etc, she did admit she likes it. Now I'm afraid she'll get addicted. And I can't break up her friendships just to get her away from the bad influences.... I'm really lost for ideas right now. It's not often I don't know what to do... But here I am, completely helpless before someone else's decison.
What have I gotten myself into...
You can't do much about it.
There's the deterrents you can mention: cancer, it is fricking hard to get rid of the habit once addicted (and yes, it is an addiction, also for those who think they're immune to those), expensive (probably less so in the States), her teeth will grow stained over time, the house will smell, and while freshly burnt tabacco smells kind of nice, your house won't acquire that smell. However, perhaps the best argument you can use without sounding like a patronizing dad instead of her BF: she tastes like an ashtray when making out.
^^This.
There truly isn't much you can do about it aside from telling her how it's pretty bad as a habit (I'm an ex-smoker, so I know), and how it makes her smell to you ect...stuff she already knows probably.
Other than that you kind of have to leave her to it.
That said, you are not beyond your rights to say to her down the line, "If you don't stop smoking, I may have to move on." Which seems pretty harsh...but trust me that when you are a non-smoker dating a smoker, the smell and taste of them will be detrimental to the relationship in the long run.
I now can't STAND the smell of someone who smokes. My brother-in-law's mom smokes and she always reeks so bad I have to move away from her. When I am walking down the street behind someone who smokes I always attempt to get ahead of them otherwise I get it in the face when they exhale.
It's nasty, and no one should expect you to live with it.
Aside: I find it hilarious when people say "I'm trying to quit". No you aren't. If you were trying to quit, then you'd quit. People aren't TRULY able to quit smoking until they really WANT to. Because if you really WANT to...you won't need to try. I smoked for 10 years, and one day I decided I'd had enough, threw out half a pack and never smoked another cigarette ever.
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