[Loki]

I'm confused. I thought you were from Australia - the age of consent is 16 years here.

[Gothos]

ImpiusMotus, on 15 July 2011 - 12:20 PM, said:

It was an affair, he has a partner, and it was consensual.

Pedophiles should have their lives ruined. He is 34 years old.

Your comment has made me feel worse.

Maybe you are right anyways.

Sorry, but here's a few points:
1. A guy going for 16 isn't really what the world should be worrying about; after 14 or 12 or less: kinda, yeah, then.
2. Seems an awful lot of effort on your part instead of just informing someone when it started. Two years? That's a serious, voracious sadistic streak.
3. By consenting to this you've actually helped create the problem. Perhaps none of this would've happened if you just rebuffed him back at the start. It's like an anti-corruption agency approaching people with bribes.
4. I can see why the english teacher wouldn't want to be associated with you - you just spent two years building someone's trust with only betrayal and hurt in mind. I wouldn't let you anywhere near my dog, let alone any human relations, professional or otherwise.

[Satan]

Loki, on 15 July 2011 - 12:21 PM, said:

I'm confused. I thought you were from Australia - the age of consent is 16 years here.

ImpiusMotus, on 15 July 2011 - 12:29 PM, said:

It is. Why?

Because...

ImpiusMotus, on 15 July 2011 - 11:55 AM, said:

He made a few passes at me when I was 16, and I played along. I let him think I was cute and innocent and naive for a year and a bit, then just recently (I'm 18 now) I have shown him what I'm capable of.

I'm sorry about the rape stuff when you were younger. That's shit, and I can understand that'll leave some hefty scars and all. But welcome to the internet. You're a c**t.

This post has been edited by Brynjar: 15 July 2011 - 12:38 PM

[Loki]

You called him a pedophile - technically, a consensual relationship with a 16 year old, whilst maybe not ethical, doesn't make you a pedophile. Unless, you are both male then it is 18 years and that would legally allow for him to be charged with child related offences.

The guy sounds completely unethical and I have no sympathy or concern for anyone who cheats on their partner or abuses their authority in such a manner but at the same time the situation says just as much about you as it does him - you're bragging about leading him on and looking forward to the day you ruin his life. I just don't think it's something to be proud of.

[Ulrik]

So, you have sex in a 16 (as we understand) and he is pedophile??

[Solidsnape]

This thread just got weird.

@ImpiusMotus - Why are you punishing him if it was consensual?

[Solidsnape]

Brynjar, on 15 July 2011 - 12:37 PM, said:

Loki, on 15 July 2011 - 12:21 PM, said:

I'm confused. I thought you were from Australia - the age of consent is 16 years here.

ImpiusMotus, on 15 July 2011 - 12:29 PM, said:

It is. Why?

Because...

ImpiusMotus, on 15 July 2011 - 11:55 AM, said:

He made a few passes at me when I was 16, and I played along. I let him think I was cute and innocent and naive for a year and a bit, then just recently (I'm 18 now) I have shown him what I'm capable of.

I'm sorry about the rape stuff when you were younger. That's shit, and I can understand that'll leave some hefty scars and all. But welcome to the internet. You're a c**t.

Lol. Succinct, to the point. Let's not beat around the bush here.
A C**t!
You give females a bad name.

[Solidsnape]

In that case......
I'm out.
Later....

[Loki]

IM - I'm sorry for things that have happened to you but I think you may have mishandled this situation, understandably given your circumstances, but mishandled nonetheless. I'd strongly urge you to seek advice from someone more qualified then those of us on this board. The kid's help line isn't just for kids, it's for young adults as well and they are really understanding, considerate and can help you. Please think about contacting them - 1800 55 1800

[Centzon Totochtin]

@IM: I suggest you call someone like lifeline (13 11 14) or go to a counselor to ask this sort of advice, not the internet... those people are trained to help you with this stuff.... we are just people from around the world who wont understand your situation and can't give you good advice. don't let anything people say on this forum get to you in that sort of way, but also this is probably not the place to look for that sort of advice and understanding from. Lifeline is very good (well the people i have talked to on it are good) and there are a lot of free counselling/psychology services around the place that can give you good help and advice on these sort of things.

Edit: or kids helpline as loki suggests, they are great too

back on topic on what is making me happy: Friday night! No work for 2 days... and then only a 3 day week next week

This post has been edited by Centzon Totochtin: 15 July 2011 - 01:04 PM

[QuickTidal]

Nimbus Broom logo t-shirt @teefury and Portal 2 t-shirt at Jinx.com will break the bank, but are glorious and SO ordered!

[Solidsnape]

And in case you hadn't noticed, this isnt the 'I really need to talk to someone about something' thread.
It's the 'OMG I'm so over the moon/happy right now I could burst' thread.
I understand you would want to talk to someone, that's not exactly something you'd botte up, but bringing it onto the 'wahoo!!' thread suggested you were getting a big kick from ruining this guys life.
You can understand why members are instantly taken aback by your rather jovial approach to what seems to me as a very VERY serious subject/situation.

[Gothos]

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and I played along. I let him think I was cute and innocent and naive for a year and a bit,

And now you're saying he manipulated you when you were down. I'm not seeing consistency here.

In any case, vengeance will never bring satisfaction, you're just putting more evil into the world. That kind of makes you turn slowly into the very people who screwed up YOUR life earlier. It's really like a parent beating their kids regularly just because their parents did it to them. Break the circle. Take the rest of your life and do something constructive with it. I'll up you with a quote: Ain't no shame in holding on to grief... as long as you make room for other things too.

It's just not going anywhere this way.

Now, I didn't negrep you or anything (yeah like virtual points mean anything anyway). I'd just ask you to consider collateral damage (does he have a 'regular' family, ie. kids, wife, anything? Siblings, nephews and nieces?). If you need to get back at someone, don't use someone else as a substitute. Get back at the fucker who did it to you, not other people who "might" share some characteristics. But better, really, stick it to the world by having a happy life. Deny that shit control over your life.


As a side note, you wanted to talk to a community... well, talking goes both ways, and it's not just expecting everyone to high-five you if they disagree. People can give you their thoughts, but if the subject is as ugly as this, they won't be pretty at all. I understand you come from a really fucked up upbringing, but here's us lucky people with a normal one - it's how we think. Maybe you can take that as a direction, it's really up to you. But I do wish you good luck and a less destructive life.

[Ulrik]

ImpiusMotus, on 15 July 2011 - 12:51 PM, said:

I can't believe this is happening.

I have struggled my whole life with all sorts of things that shouldn't have occurred. And two years ago, when I am in my worst state of depression, and just out of hospital from getting my stomach pumped of alcohol and stillknox, he started to take advantage of me.
He manipulated me while I was at my worst. I did things with him that make me feel frustrated and angry when I look at him, and it was never love, he just wanted a fuck because his boyfriend had a back injury and wouldn't have sex with him.
He reminds me of the same man who stuck a finger inside me when I was only 6 fucking years old. Who took also took advantage of me after my dad died and my mom was too depressed to properly keep an eye on me.

I didn't so much as come to boast about all this, I actually have been feeling restless and unsure about it all, and I wanted someone elses opinion. Because obviously I can't talk to my friends about it.

I have been manipulated before, and I didn't want someone to do it to me again. This is all so overwhelming. I logged into this site to find a community I could talk to and all that, and now I just want to die more.

I'm sorry for upsetting everyone.

@Solidsnape: I'm a guy.

Mate, Im really, really, really sorry for thing that happended to you as a child. Those people should suffer eternally. And longer... For rest... I believe that from certain age people are responsible for their actions. I know what torn mind can do to you, but... In every shit you are still yourself, not "former me, who was depressed and was defenseless". I agree that his actions were unethical and probably not true. But man, you ´ve been 16, you weve already responsible for your life and adult, despite of laws written on paper. Nobody forced you to have a sex with him... and wishing him to have life ruined and maybe take his own life... thats too harsh for me. Disgusting. Its like wishing some of my ex jumps from cliff, just because she left me.

So, do not wish to die, you have many many years before you, where you´ll find someone worth of living for... and dont wish death to someone who hurt you... but you let him, willingly. So, try to live to build something, instead of ruining someone...him, or you.

[Ulrik]

OK, back to topic of happiness, our little stafforshire bullterier...

This post has been edited by Ulrik: 15 July 2011 - 01:17 PM