polishgenius, on 13 May 2020 - 08:21 PM, said:
QuickTidal, on 13 May 2020 - 07:44 PM, said:
Bottom line. I've always thought she's basically Delirium from Sandman...like straight loopy and I would put good goddamned money on her having mental health issues (whether that's NPD or BPD, or even straight BiPolar). This doesn't absolve Gaiman of anything either if he's being petty too...I imagine he's set in his ways and has had his share of issues....but yeah, these two were 100% DOOMED from the start man. I'm truly surprised it took this long for the relationship to implode...and I feel REALLY bad for that kid cause this is going to get messy.
I have little doubt that she's the instigator of the two (though I wouldnt compare her to Delirium since I like Delirium, and the initial reason I always thought their relationship was odd was that even if he's not a perfect person, his response to getting things wrong and being called out is usually quite thoughtful and respectful to the critic, whereas she is the queen of doubling down even when the thing she is doubling down on is for example using the n-word repeatedly) but the goodreads thing is a terrible look (and he
might have been hacked but 'cmon, that is the most cliche excuse these days) and whatever the reasons for it him leaving his son on the other side of the world during a quarantine when he will not be able to get back to him for the forseeable future is a
terrible look.
Obviously we can't speculate too much because, well, we don't know them, but I don't think he's gonna come out of this clean.
I did a deeper dive on this last night, and discovered some things.
1. The GoodReads update is likely not a hack...as someone else noted, he only recently began using his GoodReads acct. again about 2 weeks back. Good Reads acct's are now autolinked to Amazon accounts, so what may have happened is he was reading the book off amazon, and it autoupdated the status to Goodreads, and he didn't realize. Then ran damage control when it seemed like a petty look.
2. As someone who enjoyed some of her music (and had seen her in concert), I had absolutely no idea how much people in her early career and life orbit HATE Amanda Palmer. Like in Boston amounts the theatre kids she grew up around and went to school with, she's considered insufferable. To the people of Boston "society" on her level of famous, also find her insufferable.
3. Is it a bad look for Gaiman to leave his wife and 4-year old kid in NZ during a pandemic as he bolts to the UK? Yes. But consider the possible particulars, if his wife does fall into the mental health spectrum...imagine trying to take your son from someone who is already hanging on by threads...add in a pandemic and it's a recipe for way worse shit. So Gaiman (obvs deciding he could not be around her anymore) made the only viable choice, leave his son with her and go. And let's be frank, the legal system is tailored to lean in favor of the mother anyways, so he cut his losses and went. I also
hate the "he left his child on the other side of the world!" notion....if he and Amanda were having insurmountable problems in their marriage that came to a head on pandemic...then
staying in that situation was only going to traumatize Ash further (as the child of a broken marriage, I can confirm that the two weeks where my parents tried to stay together to "make it work"...were horrible, and made things infinitely worse). So Gaiman didn't do anything wrong in my view, as the only other option would be to take Ash from Amanda....and what's a worse look, leaving without him, or taking him from his mother? They are both bad looks, but one is a footnote in a story of their breakup, and the other would be major headlines of a father stealing his child from their mother.
4. The fact that she only released the "reasons" behind the split on her patreon at the $20 level is sick. She's literally monetizing her separation/marital problems. That's fucked up. But according to my friend who used to be a BIG fan of hers....he used to pay for her Patreon and he said he bailed out when he got tired of the random shit she was releasing each month and asking people to pay for. So this is par for the course. Recall this is the woman who refused to pay musicians she had asked to participate in her shows for a whole tour. Then doubled down on her reasons.
5. It seems like Gaiman tried to keep this all private between them...but Amanda being Amanda decided to air it in public...so Gaiman was quasi-forced to as well. This is just who she is. She was never going to keep quiet about it.
This post has been edited by QuickTidal: 14 May 2020 - 12:18 PM
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