[Tsundoku]

Yes Morgy, but we've already established that Norway isn't like other nations ...

http://forum.malazan...ost__p__1213262

[worry]

Yeah, not everyone can do it the Nor way.

[Morgoth]

Tsundoku, on 22 December 2015 - 07:40 AM, said:

Yes Morgy, but we've already established that Norway isn't like other nations ...

http://forum.malazan...ost__p__1213262

True. We are fundamentally awesome. My greatest mistake was to marry someone that was not of a pure Norwegian stock.

[Egwene]

Morgoth, on 22 December 2015 - 07:37 AM, said:

I don't know about that. My parents divorced when I was three. It was a peacefull divorce and they remained friendly. I lived mainly with my mother and visited my father every other week end.

I never felt abandoned. Never felt betrayed. I certainly did not blame my parents for what happened.

There is no rule here about what will happen or how the people involved will feel. All one can do is act according to ones principles.

As you said, Morgoth, your parents were both still around. I was talking of cases where children were deprived of that.

[Gust Hubb]

I ain't going nowhere. Trying to figure out how to establish a home city with my wife (one year of fellowship at a good school and then I probably can get whereever I want).

[Morgoth]

Just make sure you give them cooler gifts than what they get from their mother. It is the only metric that matters.

[Gust Hubb]

Morgoth, on 22 December 2015 - 12:56 PM, said:

Just make sure you give them cooler gifts than what they get from their mother. It is the only metric that matters.

Haha, that is going to be the toughest task anyone has ever given me. Though I did get my wife a nail gun and compressor for Christmas.

[Lizradusa]

Let your children know you love them often and also let them know that this decision is good for you and your wife both.
A friend of mine is often very depressed when he goes home, because his parents stayed together for him and he sees them being unhappy and wondering if it hadn't been better if they had separated at that time.


Best of luck for you future, Gusty.

[Egwene]

Rather than outdoing each other on presents, outings, bedtime rules etc. - a slippery slope to nowhere if ever there was one - make sure the two of you discuss those things. If the kids know that mummy and daddy are still 'in it together' in matters concerning them, you save yourselves years of:

'Daaaadddyyy, why don't you give me that? Mummy always lets me have what I want'

Mummy of course gets to hear the opposite version of that phrase.

[Gust Hubb]

Update, not really groove or happy thread material. Just is.

The household split is now going crazy, my wife going into full tilt cleaning, repairing, and sorting stuff. Unfortunately, the landlords are not being too charitable, and we cannot get out of the lease for the next two months. So while we have momentum, and my wife a place to go, we will be playing balancing game with the limited finances to keep it moving forward. It will work, just a little juggling.

In the meantime, the official paperwork launches next week, and hopefully we can finalize before my most dreaded rotation.

I must be going through the five stages of grief or something, because despite the recent lysis of extremely happy and sad emotions, yesterday I was randomly grumpy/angry/frustrated for no direct reason. I really hate this emotionally labile period. And trying to fill the void with friends is difficult when everyone is always busy. I'm still kind of expect the undergraduate college model, where there is always someone down for something or other. Adult, real life sucks.

Anyway, enough stream of consciousness for now.

[worry]

Please tell us you're at least past the listening to Goo Goo Dolls stage.

[Gust Hubb]

[LinearPhilosopher]

When's your next vacation? I'd advise travelling and doing something stupid.

[Andorion]

Nothing wrong with Goo Goo Dolls, though my personal 'sad' music is Coldplay. Bullet for my Valentine if I feel violent

[Maark Abbott]

Andorion, on 24 January 2016 - 03:06 PM, said:

Nothing wrong with Goo Goo Dolls, though my personal 'sad' music is Coldplay. Bullet for my Valentine if I feel violent

Sad music: death metal
Angry music: death metal
Happy music: death metal

Basically always death metal.

[Abyss]

Maark, on 24 January 2016 - 05:19 PM, said:

Andorion, on 24 January 2016 - 03:06 PM, said:

Nothing wrong with Goo Goo Dolls, though my personal 'sad' music is Coldplay. Bullet for my Valentine if I feel violent

Sad music: death metal
Angry music: death metal
Happy music: death metal

Basically always death metal.

Very life affirming.

[Gust Hubb]

Next vacation in 6 months minimum (this is America after all!).

Sad music: Radiohead and Nothing but Thieves
Happy music: Panic at the Disco
Angry music: Several varieties of heavy metal, rock, etc. including NIN, Tool, Breaking Benjamin

[Maark Abbott]

Abyss, on 25 January 2016 - 04:04 AM, said:

Maark, on 24 January 2016 - 05:19 PM, said:

Andorion, on 24 January 2016 - 03:06 PM, said:

Nothing wrong with Goo Goo Dolls, though my personal 'sad' music is Coldplay. Bullet for my Valentine if I feel violent

Sad music: death metal
Angry music: death metal
Happy music: death metal

Basically always death metal.

Very life affirming.

What makes a man feel more alive than watching the light drain out of someone's eyes*?

*Except for eating, breathing, sex, basically anything else

[QuickTidal]

Gust Hubb, on 25 January 2016 - 12:20 PM, said:

Sad music: Radiohead and Nothing but Thieves
Happy music: Panic at the Disco
Angry music: Several varieties of heavy metal, rock, etc. including NIN, Tool, Breaking Benjamin

Recommendations for more (in case you need them. We all need music to help us along. )

Sad music: Skeletons - Yeah Yeah Yeah's
Happy music: Laughing In the Sugar Bowl - Veruca Salt
Angry music: Against You - Lacuna Coil and you never go wrong with Caught Out There - Kelis