King Lear, on 11 January 2014 - 09:47 AM, said:
Don't worry guys, apparently Daeg's life experience > everyone else's
Some people don't get out okay, but for those that do, you've done them a terrible disservice with that comment Daeg. Belief that nothing will ever change and that you're permanently fucked if you've had a hard life and have mental health issues is probably the single least helpful thing you can do for anyone currently fighting their demons, short of lobotomising and institutionalising them 19th century style. You may have given up on yourself Daeg, as well as the people around you, but you can't serious expect not to be challenged on this, not when other people have gone through similarly awful experiences and fought tooth and nail to come out the other side as fucking amazing human beings.
So you can add me as hit #3 if it makes you feel better, but I'm not going to give up on my friends and family, and I'm not going to give up on myself just because of one sad sack on the internet. You can proclaim all you want that you didn't mean to be offensive, but that's not going to change how offensive your comments are. You might think that it's "just your opinion" but it's an opinion that can directly harm people who come into contact with it.
So like Silencer and Studlock, I'm firmly on the NOPE side of your opinion.
On thread topic, and slightly related to the above, what's with the current rampant anti-intellectualism? Theses people aer coming out of the woodwork EVERYWHERE. It's like a bunch of them have gone "New Years Resolution: stop believing in science because reasons".
Hit #3
I never said that medication or counseling wouldn't help minimize the behavorial effect of an illness. I never said that people should not try to get some relief from the issues effecting them.
I said that people are who they are and that doesn't change.
If, like myself, someone is an alcoholic, they will always be an alcoholic. They might stop drinking and have a somewhat normal life, but they will always be an alcoholic and 1 step away from going back to the nightmare that comes with it.
If a person has a mental illness that tends to cause them to be violent, it can be medicated. However, the people around them should never forget the danger if that person should stop taking their meds.
If a person beats his wife/kids, the chances of him ever being completely trustworthy again is very low.
If a child molester moves into your neighborhood ( and I believe this is a mental illness more than a sexual deviation) who has been to prison and counseling, do you trust him when your kids are out in the yard and he's walking down the street?
If someone has been violated and you enter a relationship with that person, the violation will be part of that relationship to one degree or another for the entire life of the relationship. You should know that and accept it before you enter the relationship.
What makes you think I've given up on life? I have a wife and 4 kids, although only 3 live with me. I am successful at work. I coach my 8 year old daughters' soccer team. I have close friends who think i'm an OK guy. We own cars and a house. BUT I am an alcoholic and a drug addict. Nothing will ever change that.
If you have problems and think i'm saying that you should give up then you have misunderstood me. I am saying that you can accept those problems, because they are part of you and probably always will be. Once you accept that, remember that you can never go back to the habits (or stop taking your meds) that have brought you to this terrible place. If you're not ready to accept it, then relapse (or not taking meds) is likely to be in your future.
If a person has an illness of this nature, it is their responsibility to inform a prospective mate about their issue somewhat early in a relationship. The reason is simple, because the illness is a part of that person and should be disclosed so the mate can make an educated decision.
I am not anti intellectual. Understanding what causes mental illness is one thing but using that knowledge to deny its nature is another. Understanding something does not change its nature.
What I am anti about is this, using so-called great understanding to dismiss my opinions. People calling me ignorant because my opinion does not agree with theirs. So if I was only as educated as you I wouldn't have the same opinion? If only I went to the same school then I wouldn't be expressing my horrendous world views?