[Grimjust Bearegular]

Silencer, on 04 June 2011 - 03:27 AM, said:

SadCountenance EmoDropBear, on 03 June 2011 - 12:07 PM, said:

HoosierDaddy, on 03 June 2011 - 11:52 AM, said:

SadCountenance EmoDropBear, on 03 June 2011 - 08:51 AM, said:

My bf and I have almost broken up twice during the past two days. I feel like we've been growing apart for awhile, he says he loves me more than ever and I don't have a fucking clue what to do.

This was all brought on by me meeting a guy on a trip to Poland, who I had more in common with than anyone I've ever met...and he doesn't even read Steven Erikson!

Me and said guy are just friends, and nothing at all happened during the wekeend we spent together, but my bf forbids me more or less from being friends with him, and it really feels like the last straw...I don't know if the good stuff outweighs the bad stuff anymore.


And we haven't even lived in our new apartment for a month yet......FUCK.

Cohabitation is a big deal, Grim. Could your boyfriend, if he became an ex, deal with other guys being around? Tough stuff. I wish you the best, but I think you might have to make a clean cut. That sort of possession is tough to get rid of in a ex-boyfriend.

He'd never deal with that...he's extremely jealous. And a clean cut, although the best option, is also the hardest option. We've been together for almost 8 years, lived together for 4, we own this apartment together and we're real close with each other's families. We just have so much invested in each other, but what if that's the only reason I'm staying?

Can we work through our problems, or are the differences just too big? Do I even want to work things out?

FUCK, this past year has been hell...some light at the end of that tunnel would've been nice

Yeah, you do seem to be having a rough patch, Grim.

I know this isn't exactly an advice thread - and hell, I'm not the most qualified person around to offer any, believe me - but I think the simplest thing to do is to ask yourself whether you're considering leaving because things are tough, or because there is something fundamentally askew in your relationship. If the former, it's obvious that you can work through it - both of you can develop, and talking alone should help push things to a resolution of one kind or another. If the latter, then you have to accept that you're sticking around because leaving is just scary, because you're ending a long-standing relationship.

Personally, I'd say that if you've made it this far, you probably already know whether the relationship is working or not. Hell, most people don't last that long for no reason, right? "Do I even want to work things out?" is just another way of saying that you're putting off doing so because the potential fallout scares you - which means you're invested in the relationship in more ways than just time.

Anyway, hope that helps, or at least gives you somewhere to start the thought process again.

You are very wise, sir. Thank you

Loki, on 06 June 2011 - 04:43 AM, said:

I got called in the middle of the night by my mum on Saturday night/Sunday morning to tell me to get to the hospital because my brother had been taken there in a critical condition and the doctors weren't confident he'd live through the night. He'd suffered severe head trauma that was consistent with a fall of at least 5 metres. Earlier that night he had called my mum and told her that he was scared for his life and could she come get him. Unfortunately, he wasn't where mum thought he was and she spent 2 hours looking for him before getting a call from the police.

By 4am the doctors said that they were confident that he wouldn't die as the scans showed significant change in the pressure on his brain but that given his injuries the likihood of brain damage was extremely likely but that they wouldn't be able to assess functunality until he was awake and they were not sure when/if that would happen.

8am my brother woke up and was talking and very aware of his surroundings etc. The doctor said that by all rights he should be dead and he (the doctor) was 'absolutely amazed that he doesn't have significant brain damage.'

He had surgery today to drain the blood off his brain and the doctors need to keep him under observation as there is a possibility of delayed bleeding on the brain.

Before the doctor returned to check him over after his surgery my brother took it upon himself to LEAVE THE FUCKING HOSPITAL!!!

From being told my brother is going to die, to being brain damaged, to being okay and now to him leaving the hospital without medical consent I do believe I have experienced every bloody emotion there is in the last 36 hours.

That is seriously fucked up, Loki! How are you holding up?

[Gothos]

To ease the mood a bit... lastest messing, if light: what the hell is wrong with the world when facebook has almost twice the monthly users of wikipedia?
Anyone?

[Shiara]

Define 'user' in the context of wikipedia?

[Gothos]

visitor, ie. the number is unique visitors in a month.

[Gothos]

BLAH. the mild numbness and cramping up in my left hand has been an annoyance, sure, but it's seriously encroaching on my guitar capabilities. Even simple Chariots of Fire theme is becoming difficult. Fuck this shit, I need a neurologist.

[Adjutant Stormy~]

I worry that since I wake up SO OFTEN with my arm or arms asleep from cutting off the circulation that I might be getting nerve damage myself.

[Gatekeeper]

Loki. I wish for you to have one day of peace.

[Gwynn ap Nudd]

Canucks down 4-0 in game three. Never expected us to sweep the Bruins, but this is getting pathetic.

[Gust Hubb]

Yeah, I would check on those nerve things....

[Shiara]

Chat = broken

[Ain't_It_Just_]

I would love nothing better than to soak up every glorious inch of E3...but I have a Literature SAC tommorow. >

[Silencer]

Ain, on 07 June 2011 - 08:56 AM, said:

I would love nothing better than to soak up every glorious inch of E3...but I have a Literature SAC tommorow. >

You're not missing much, unfortunately.

[RodeoRanch]

Strep throat.

No sexy time with the lady love this week. Awww.

[Tapper]

My addiction to poker shows on television.
They're all bad, none of them teach you anything about the game at all and high level poker players in general are a weird, weird breed, so why am I watching? I dunno, but I'm still fascinated.

[MWKarsa]

Man- office politics at my job just went super-nova today. My main boss who had been angling to fire/get rid of my direct supervisor finally got her wish and he put in his 2 weeks notice today. The guy was a great supervisor and one I counted on as a friend as we got along very well and he was the one person in RL who knew more about MMA than I did and we could talk about fights endlessly. Now comes the part where everyone is going to start angling for his job and start that kind of strife in the office. He said it would probably be me and though I'd love the extra money I've seen my main boss fire the supervisor before him and now get this one to quit all in less than 2 years.

I'll be pissed if I don't get the job and someone who doesn't deserve it over me gets it but slightly relieved my head won't be on the chopping block. If I do get it I'll be happy with the money until my head starts looking juicy to lop off. This is gonna be a super-wierd/tough/hopefully not too nasty time at the workplace.

[Ain't_It_Just_]

Silencer, on 07 June 2011 - 10:16 PM, said:

Ain, on 07 June 2011 - 08:56 AM, said:

I would love nothing better than to soak up every glorious inch of E3...but I have a Literature SAC tommorow. >

You're not missing much, unfortunately.

Damnit....anything new/good?

[Silencer]

Ain, on 08 June 2011 - 06:54 AM, said:

Silencer, on 07 June 2011 - 10:16 PM, said:

Ain, on 07 June 2011 - 08:56 AM, said:

I would love nothing better than to soak up every glorious inch of E3...but I have a Literature SAC tommorow. >

You're not missing much, unfortunately.

Damnit....anything new/good?

Battlefield 3...EA are kicking the living crap out of Activision in this round.

Far Cry 3...though I'm not sold on the idea of another FC game, after #2. Especially with the BS hype around 'characters' being important and engaging. Yeah right.

The Wii U has a horrid controller. Probably going to be another Wii (i.e. gimmicky, suited for casual gamers, with poor third-party game support, and not powerful enough for the next generation to keep it alive beyond the next year) except it will be crazy overpriced.

Uhm...Skyrim is performing well, but looking more and more like an action game and less like an RPG. MW3 is pretty much definitely going to be a carbon copy of MW2 with few improvements. Kinect and Move and 3D tech are getting a lot of pushing.

Most games you already know about - not much in the way of new material. Ghost Recon: Future Warrior has been completely restarted, though people are still complaining about it.

There really isn't much. I'm sure I'm missing something, but it's obviously nothing spectacular.

[Gothos]

Nature is intent on murdering me. It seems I must be developing allergies for certain plant seeds or something.

[Tiste Simeon]

The fact that I have to invite members of my family to my wedding who have had little or nothing to do with my life so far yet as they are family they are worth spending all the money. This means that people who I really want to be there can't be. My parents sympathise with me, but apparently it is the done thing and as they are paying for a vast majority of it I want to appease them... It's just a bit annoying that people who could have come to the whole thing, who have had a bigger impact on my life than a couple of my uncles & aunts (I had to ask my dad what one of his brothers wives was called!), won't be there!

*sigh*

[Coco with marshmallows]

Tiste Simeon, on 08 June 2011 - 04:37 PM, said:

The fact that I have to invite members of my family to my wedding who have had little or nothing to do with my life so far yet as they are family they are worth spending all the money. This means that people who I really want to be there can't be. My parents sympathise with me, but apparently it is the done thing and as they are paying for a vast majority of it I want to appease them... It's just a bit annoying that people who could have come to the whole thing, who have had a bigger impact on my life than a couple of my uncles & aunts (I had to ask my dad what one of his brothers wives was called!), won't be there!

*sigh*

Getting in your excuse for not inviting forumites early I see....