[TheRetiredBridgeburner]

Poor mite, sounds like an absolute clusterfuck in terms of organisation making an already fraught thing worse. Sorry to read QT.

I think it's worth trying just with you in the park - if he can have fun like that, maybe its worth building on. If he still hates it without all the external stuff of other people looking, organisation, pressure etc then I think that might be a clearer answer.

[QuickTidal]

TheRetiredBridgeburner, on 29 May 2026 - 12:16 PM, said:

Poor mite, sounds like an absolute clusterfuck in terms of organisation making an already fraught thing worse. Sorry to read QT.

I think it's worth trying just with you in the park - if he can have fun like that, maybe its worth building on. If he still hates it without all the external stuff of other people looking, organisation, pressure etc then I think that might be a clearer answer.

Yeah, for sure. I think that's definitely what I'm going to try.

[Abyss]

Cause, on 29 May 2026 - 06:44 AM, said:

So continuing my adventures as someone who doesn't carry cash. Ever. I think it's a habit from South Africa.

I was at an Indian restaurant and after my meal I asked for the bill. The waiter brought a machine to the table and he told me to skip the tip. I said I was happy to tip. He explained that the restaurant keeps the tips if they are not cash. I told the waiter that was illegal and he shrugged resigned.

I know it's illegal. There was a recent story about a restaurant that did the same thing. Eventually got reported and the state fined them. I think the restaurant closed.

So while I want to fight for workers rights I also feel it's not my place to report it if they know it's illegal and have chosen not to report it themselves. I don't want to report wage theft and end up costing them their jobs instead.

I typically ask and if i get anything other than a clear 'yes we do' i either don't or leave cash if i'm carrying. Ive also started paying more attention to bills since i spotted 'service charge', 'convenience charge' and 'local improvement fund charge' on some bills. Some can't be avoided and were even noted in small print on the menu - k fine, some they waive if you make it a thing. I particularly liked where I said i would pay cash so they would waive the 'convenience fee' but they couldn't explain what was convenient about it, or waive it. I don't make a point of picking these fights bcs they rarely change anything but every now and then i get annoyed/curious/bored enough to bother.

[Tiste Simeon]

Argh QT that sounds hideous. We have an annual kids sporting event here and in the weeks leading up to it the kids all do sports to them play on the day (it's called the Manx Youth Games and it's a really great thing)

My kid loved doing cricket (ew) and we supported him every week and on the day itself. But the thing that makes it a success is that the people organising it are involved, communicative and have a whole host of volunteers to help. So there's a plan. Kids at that age (my son is 7 and his year group is the youngest allowed) do not pay that much attention for long and so there needs to be planning and organising from the get go.

What you described has none of that and I'm baffled that they would not postpone it if all 3 decided not to be there!

[TheRetiredBridgeburner]

Tiste Simeon, on 30 May 2026 - 09:11 AM, said:

Argh QT that sounds hideous. We have an annual kids sporting event here and in the weeks leading up to it the kids all do sports to them play on the day (it's called the Manx Youth Games and it's a really great thing)

My kid loved doing cricket (ew) and we supported him every week and on the day itself. But the thing that makes it a success is that the people organising it are involved, communicative and have a whole host of volunteers to help. So there's a plan. Kids at that age (my son is 7 and his year group is the youngest allowed) do not pay that much attention for long and so there needs to be planning and organising from the get go.

What you described has none of that and I'm baffled that they would not postpone it if all 3 decided not to be there!

That sounds like such a lovely event!

[Tiste Simeon]

Yeah they have like a ton of different sports for kids to get into which culminates in the games in May. It's really well run and attended & a very positive thing for the kids.

What QT describes is... Not that.

[QuickTidal]

Tiste Simeon, on 01 June 2026 - 11:41 AM, said:

Yeah they have like a ton of different sports for kids to get into which culminates in the games in May. It's really well run and attended & a very positive thing for the kids.

What QT describes is... Not that.

Bought the tee ball stand, but didn't get a chance to use it with him yet (kids had a super busy Weeknd with their cousins who were in town), he did a practice yesterday with the team that my wife claims was good (I was texting her how disappointed I am so far with the people running it; and she told me I should chill and that circumstances made things how they were and the people are nice)...but I dunno. He has a game this Thursday. We will see how that goes.

I sat with him and told him I just want him to have fun and I asked if he felt like he was getting the hang of the rules and actions of the game and he said yes, and I said if you keep doing it and it's causing you too much anxiety we can reevaluate, but that it should be fun first and foremost. "Are you having fun when you play?" "him: "yes"

Okay so that's where it stands now, but I've got my eye on the coaches to see how the next few games go.

[Tiste Simeon]

Ah that's good.

[worry]

QuickTidal, on 01 June 2026 - 11:56 AM, said:

kids had a super busy Weeknd

Talk about The Weeknd once and autocorrect never lets you live it down.

[QuickTidal]

worry, on 01 June 2026 - 02:44 PM, said:

QuickTidal, on 01 June 2026 - 11:56 AM, said:

kids had a super busy Weeknd

Talk about The Weeknd once and autocorrect never lets you live it down.

SNORT

[Slow Ben]

QuickTidal, on 01 June 2026 - 11:56 AM, said:

Tiste Simeon, on 01 June 2026 - 11:41 AM, said:

Yeah they have like a ton of different sports for kids to get into which culminates in the games in May. It's really well run and attended & a very positive thing for the kids.

What QT describes is... Not that.

Bought the tee ball stand, but didn't get a chance to use it with him yet (kids had a super busy Weeknd with their cousins who were in town), he did a practice yesterday with the team that my wife claims was good (I was texting her how disappointed I am so far with the people running it; and she told me I should chill and that circumstances made things how they were and the people are nice)...but I dunno. He has a game this Thursday. We will see how that goes.

I sat with him and told him I just want him to have fun and I asked if he felt like he was getting the hang of the rules and actions of the game and he said yes, and I said if you keep doing it and it's causing you too much anxiety we can reevaluate, but that it should be fun first and foremost. "Are you having fun when you play?" "him: "yes"

Okay so that's where it stands now, but I've got my eye on the coaches to see how the next few games go.

I was going to suggest getting a T ball stand. It’s a great place to start at any age. Albert Pujols might be the best Right handed hitter of all time and always worked on his swing with a T. It really helps build confidence and work on your swing. I coach both my girls summer teams and always start every girl off on the T.

I also missed a reunion of all my college friends I haven’t seen in a year because we had games, so Fuck those coaches.

Good luck to little QT!!

[Maark Abbott]

Slow Ben, on 02 June 2026 - 12:30 AM, said:

QuickTidal, on 01 June 2026 - 11:56 AM, said:

Tiste Simeon, on 01 June 2026 - 11:41 AM, said:

Yeah they have like a ton of different sports for kids to get into which culminates in the games in May. It's really well run and attended & a very positive thing for the kids.

What QT describes is... Not that.

Bought the tee ball stand, but didn't get a chance to use it with him yet (kids had a super busy Weeknd with their cousins who were in town), he did a practice yesterday with the team that my wife claims was good (I was texting her how disappointed I am so far with the people running it; and she told me I should chill and that circumstances made things how they were and the people are nice)...but I dunno. He has a game this Thursday. We will see how that goes.

I sat with him and told him I just want him to have fun and I asked if he felt like he was getting the hang of the rules and actions of the game and he said yes, and I said if you keep doing it and it's causing you too much anxiety we can reevaluate, but that it should be fun first and foremost. "Are you having fun when you play?" "him: "yes"

Okay so that's where it stands now, but I've got my eye on the coaches to see how the next few games go.

I was going to suggest getting a T ball stand. It's a great place to start at any age. Albert Pujols might be the best Right handed hitter of all time and always worked on his swing with a T. It really helps build confidence and work on your swing. I coach both my girls summer teams and always start every girl off on the T.

I also missed a reunion of all my college friends I haven't seen in a year because we had games, so Fuck those coaches.

Good luck to little QT!!

hehehehehehehehehehe. Pujols.

[Slow Ben]

Maark Abbott, on 03 June 2026 - 07:36 AM, said:

Slow Ben, on 02 June 2026 - 12:30 AM, said:

QuickTidal, on 01 June 2026 - 11:56 AM, said:

Tiste Simeon, on 01 June 2026 - 11:41 AM, said:

Yeah they have like a ton of different sports for kids to get into which culminates in the games in May. It's really well run and attended & a very positive thing for the kids.

What QT describes is... Not that.

Bought the tee ball stand, but didn't get a chance to use it with him yet (kids had a super busy Weeknd with their cousins who were in town), he did a practice yesterday with the team that my wife claims was good (I was texting her how disappointed I am so far with the people running it; and she told me I should chill and that circumstances made things how they were and the people are nice)...but I dunno. He has a game this Thursday. We will see how that goes.

I sat with him and told him I just want him to have fun and I asked if he felt like he was getting the hang of the rules and actions of the game and he said yes, and I said if you keep doing it and it's causing you too much anxiety we can reevaluate, but that it should be fun first and foremost. "Are you having fun when you play?" "him: "yes"

Okay so that's where it stands now, but I've got my eye on the coaches to see how the next few games go.

I was going to suggest getting a T ball stand. It's a great place to start at any age. Albert Pujols might be the best Right handed hitter of all time and always worked on his swing with a T. It really helps build confidence and work on your swing. I coach both my girls summer teams and always start every girl off on the T.

I also missed a reunion of all my college friends I haven't seen in a year because we had games, so Fuck those coaches.

Good luck to little QT!!

hehehehehehehehehehe. Pujols.

😆

I laughed way too hard at that.

[Tiste Simeon]

He played for the Angels, right? I remember cos I actually got to go and see them when I was last in CA and my wife and I had a little giggle every time they mentioned his name haha

[Tsundoku]

Our dog just passed. She'd been very ill for 2 weeks. We had taken her to the vet last week and we were just waiting, giving her pain/anxiety relief medicine and all the pats and cuddles.
But this afternoon it was time, so we called the vet in.

Feeling a bit low atm, but it was the right thing to do.

Already miss that silly, barking, shedding (SO MUCH SHEDDING!) girl.

RIP Sadie, you beautiful girl.

She and the boy got on quite well.

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[TheRetiredBridgeburner]

What a beautiful girl. I'm sorry to read that Tsundoku, it's never easy. The kindest thing for them is inevitably the hardest for us.

[Tsundoku]

TheRetiredBridgeburner, on 05 June 2026 - 09:12 AM, said:

What a beautiful girl. I'm sorry to read that Tsundoku, it's never easy. The kindest thing for them is inevitably the hardest for us.

Thanks, you are 100% correct. I nearly broke, definitely had apple-sized lumps in the throat and stumbled over my words a few times.

The mobile vet was amazing though, would recommend her to anyone.

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[Tiste Simeon]

Ah Tsundoku I'm very sorry to hear that.

[champ]

Tsundoku, on 05 June 2026 - 10:11 AM, said:

TheRetiredBridgeburner, on 05 June 2026 - 09:12 AM, said:

What a beautiful girl. I'm sorry to read that Tsundoku, it's never easy. The kindest thing for them is inevitably the hardest for us.

Thanks, you are 100% correct. I nearly broke, definitely had apple-sized lumps in the throat and stumbled over my words a few times.

The mobile vet was amazing though, would recommend her to anyone.

Sorry to hear that mate, that is heart breaking but you know you have done the correct thing if she was suffering.

Hope you are on the up soon.

[QuickTidal]

Aww that's always sad. She was a beautiful girl.