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#29921 User is offline   Briar King 

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Posted 30 June 2021 - 01:33 AM

Donít yíall hate it when your the ripe one in the bunch? Phew itís past time to clip the pits. Iíve just been forgetting to do so. Of course today was also a product of one of the little angels swiping my anti-perspirant so I only have deodorant and that ran off quickly!
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Posted 01 July 2021 - 01:31 AM

I no longer have any hope survivors will be found in condo collapse. Sounds shitty but I hope everyone of those poor people expired immediately and were spared the panic and slow death trapped in that hell. It will be amazing if someone is found. Letís hope ďElsaĒ doesnít affect efforts.
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Posted 02 July 2021 - 09:27 PM

Professional dilemma. About 5 years ago I was due on maternity leave and my boss quit and recommended me as replacement for her role. It would have been a big leap and I was like a beached whale at the time and had the whole baby thing and a year off to do so didn't apply. I had one colleague who I thought was a good alternative and she ended up being the sole applicant and has been really good in the role and a lovely boss since. Fast forward 5 years and we have worked well together but I'm frustrated constrained below her with no options of advancement but equally quite happy that she gets a lot of the shit and I have a supporting role with a better work life balance.

This week a new post was advertised internally in our business that is a big surprise and is above us both but off to one side in the hierarchy. It is really suitable for my boss and being objective I reckon I'd be the second best placed person to take the role if she didn't want it. The ideal scenario is that my boss applies and gets it and I hopefully get promoted into her current position. Second best scenario is that she doesn't apply, I do and I get it and she stays where she is. I don't especially want the new role, I want her role but I'd take the new role over staying where I am right now.

I'm friends with my boss(ish). I asked her out right and she said she will probably apply. So now my conundrum is - until she gets the new role, a replacement for her is not needed. So do I hedge my bets and wait and hope things play out in my favour or do I apply for a role that I don't really want and am blatantly not the best person for? I don't want to look like a chump applying for something out of my league when I actually want the post slightly below but also I don't want to look like I have no ambition after already not applying for the last big opportunity in the past.

I think I need to not overthink, apply for it, show what qualities I have and hope it all plays out as it should.... Just not looking forward to the process or gossip if I lose out when actually that was fine for me all along so long as the end game is ok.

Career!! Awful word.
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Posted 02 July 2021 - 09:42 PM

You should take your own advice and not overthink it. Apply!
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Posted 03 July 2021 - 08:09 AM

View PostMezla PigDog, on 02 July 2021 - 09:27 PM, said:

Professional dilemma. About 5 years ago I was due on maternity leave and my boss quit and recommended me as replacement for her role. It would have been a big leap and I was like a beached whale at the time and had the whole baby thing and a year off to do so didn't apply. I had one colleague who I thought was a good alternative and she ended up being the sole applicant and has been really good in the role and a lovely boss since. Fast forward 5 years and we have worked well together but I'm frustrated constrained below her with no options of advancement but equally quite happy that she gets a lot of the shit and I have a supporting role with a better work life balance.

This week a new post was advertised internally in our business that is a big surprise and is above us both but off to one side in the hierarchy. It is really suitable for my boss and being objective I reckon I'd be the second best placed person to take the role if she didn't want it. The ideal scenario is that my boss applies and gets it and I hopefully get promoted into her current position. Second best scenario is that she doesn't apply, I do and I get it and she stays where she is. I don't especially want the new role, I want her role but I'd take the new role over staying where I am right now.

I'm friends with my boss(ish). I asked her out right and she said she will probably apply. So now my conundrum is - until she gets the new role, a replacement for her is not needed. So do I hedge my bets and wait and hope things play out in my favour or do I apply for a role that I don't really want and am blatantly not the best person for? I don't want to look like a chump applying for something out of my league when I actually want the post slightly below but also I don't want to look like I have no ambition after already not applying for the last big opportunity in the past.

I think I need to not overthink, apply for it, show what qualities I have and hope it all plays out as it should.... Just not looking forward to the process or gossip if I lose out when actually that was fine for me all along so long as the end game is ok.

Career!! Awful word.

My thoughts: you both should apply for it and interview etc. They will pick the person they like. If they pick you, great. If they pick her, you can then slide into the vacated position.

Neither of you lose by applying and trying for it.
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Posted 03 July 2021 - 09:54 AM

View PostMezla PigDog, on 02 July 2021 - 09:27 PM, said:

Professional dilemma. About 5 years ago I was due on maternity leave and my boss quit and recommended me as replacement for her role. It would have been a big leap and I was like a beached whale at the time and had the whole baby thing and a year off to do so didn't apply. I had one colleague who I thought was a good alternative and she ended up being the sole applicant and has been really good in the role and a lovely boss since. Fast forward 5 years and we have worked well together but I'm frustrated constrained below her with no options of advancement but equally quite happy that she gets a lot of the shit and I have a supporting role with a better work life balance.

This week a new post was advertised internally in our business that is a big surprise and is above us both but off to one side in the hierarchy. It is really suitable for my boss and being objective I reckon I'd be the second best placed person to take the role if she didn't want it. The ideal scenario is that my boss applies and gets it and I hopefully get promoted into her current position. Second best scenario is that she doesn't apply, I do and I get it and she stays where she is. I don't especially want the new role, I want her role but I'd take the new role over staying where I am right now.

I'm friends with my boss(ish). I asked her out right and she said she will probably apply. So now my conundrum is - until she gets the new role, a replacement for her is not needed. So do I hedge my bets and wait and hope things play out in my favour or do I apply for a role that I don't really want and am blatantly not the best person for? I don't want to look like a chump applying for something out of my league when I actually want the post slightly below but also I don't want to look like I have no ambition after already not applying for the last big opportunity in the past.

I think I need to not overthink, apply for it, show what qualities I have and hope it all plays out as it should.... Just not looking forward to the process or gossip if I lose out when actually that was fine for me all along so long as the end game is ok.

Career!! Awful word.


Definitely apply - all bases are then covered. Hopefully you get the outcome you want, but if they offer the role to you then you still get a change from your current role, even if not technically the one you woudl prefer. I take it that it wouldn't preclude you from applying for your boss's current position should it become available later?



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Posted 03 July 2021 - 08:59 PM

Seeing my parents sad. Yesterday we had to said goodbye to their Boxer Ziva of almost 10 years old. She approved my wife during my wife's first visit at my parents. She was our maid of honor and ring bearer at our wedding in 2015 and now she's gone. The vet that has treated her most of her life (Ziva was her pet project since they both shared a bad food intolerance for certain ingredients) helped her over to the bridge. She was shocked when Ziva walked into her practice (in the last years she had changed specialty and hadn't seen Ziva in a while) and told my parents that they did the right thing, surgery wasn't an option, the cancer just went too fast.
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#29928 User is offline   Briar King 

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Posted 03 July 2021 - 09:18 PM

Thatís rough. Sorry to hear that.
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Posted 04 July 2021 - 07:36 AM

Just saw vision of Lytton, BC and all I could think about was the summer of 19/20 here. :(
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Posted 04 July 2021 - 02:43 PM

Missed walking through this by an hour:

'white supremacists marched in front of Philadelphia City Hall Saturday night, drawing jeers from onlookers, as well as small scuffles.


The group of dozens of men wore white face coverings, k[[kk]h]akis, blue shirts and tan hats and waved flags with insignias appearing to belong to the Patriot Front organization.


[...] Some could be seen holding shields as watchers-on shouted at them, demanding they leave Philadelphia. [Bullet-proof shields? Oh well. The one time I might not mind some people getting shot by City Hall....]


A few people could be seen engaging in minor pushing and shoving with members of the group. An NBC10 [TV news] photographer had his cellphone taken from him by members of the group [...]


Patriot Front, [...] based out of Texas, is [...] "a white supremacist group whose members maintain that their ancestors conquered America and bequeathed it solely to them."'

https://www.nbcphila...y-hall/2869038/

Ugh. Was out last night to desensitize myself to seeing/being around people. Though situations where there is a (not highly improbable) potential physical threat tend to make me feel calm and focused---adrenaline and fight/flight response rather than vague foreboding and mini-seizures (if I don't close one eye...). It was unpleasant; at first my eyes kept reflexively hyper-focusing on faces and immediately darting away (as if lashed by lightning) as my body spasmed, but few if any noticed and no one seemed to care much (despite the taboo on 'staring' at people, and social paranoia about drug use and mental illness), and squinting and unfocusing my eyes while generating pro-social emotions and channeling them to the area around my eyes helped. Music also helped induce a more positive mood. One of the nice things about live performances is that there's no taboo on looking at the performers for an extended period of time, though some forms of 'staring' may still be inappropriate (for example, extended hyper-focus on a particular body part, or with an angry expression, etc.).


'Woman's Transphobic Rant Sparks Violent Protests Outside L.A. Spa


[...] demonstrators with religious, transphobic, and homophobic signs gathered outside the establishment


[...] Counter-protestors were also at the scene to show support for the business and the trans community.


[...]


It wasn't long before the tensions escalated into physical violence, prompting the Los Angeles Police Department to declare an unlawful assembly. [...] at least [...] two [...] victims of assault with a deadly weapon.


[...]

"Police repeatedly use batons to push back counter protesters and strike a man on the ground."'
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The spa was also 'Featured on Tucker Carlson's Show' before the protest....

[Edit: having a hard time getting paragraph breaks to display correctly here recently....]

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Posted 05 July 2021 - 05:00 PM

PF yíall gonna have a wet and windy night and morning. Hope you got some supplies for the fam just incase. Stay safe.
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Posted 06 July 2021 - 12:52 PM

My nonno is in hospital - he's been in and out for more than 2 years now but I think this might be it. He's so frail and tired. I wish he had twenty more years in him, but...
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Posted 06 July 2021 - 05:20 PM

View PostBriar King, on 05 July 2021 - 05:00 PM, said:

PF y'all gonna have a wet and windy night and morning. Hope you got some supplies for the fam just incase. Stay safe.



Thanks BK. We're watching but aren't concerned with this one. I just love Hurricane Hype Season.
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Posted 07 July 2021 - 04:00 PM

I feel this guy's frustration. The 4th was Sunday, so I'm fine with the weekend (hell I was okay if people started with the fireworks Thursday night). But fuck man, last night? Inconsiderate jerks were still at it in my vicinity. 4th of July is over assholes, time to shove the box of fireworks back into the crawl space.



"pretending to be a firework is also going to run afoul of our noise ordinances." ... heh, made me chuckle.
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Posted 07 July 2021 - 07:34 PM

View PostMalankazooie, on 07 July 2021 - 04:00 PM, said:

I feel this guy's frustration. The 4th was Sunday, so I'm fine with the weekend (hell I was okay if people started with the fireworks Thursday night). But fuck man, last night? Inconsiderate jerks were still at it in my vicinity. 4th of July is over assholes, time to shove the box of fireworks back into the crawl space.



"pretending to be a firework is also going to run afoul of our noise ordinances." ... heh, made me chuckle.



Lol. I am no more than an hour away from where that took place. We have all kinds here in Florida...



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Posted 08 July 2021 - 03:35 AM

View Postparan falcon, on 07 July 2021 - 07:34 PM, said:

View PostMalankazooie, on 07 July 2021 - 04:00 PM, said:

I feel this guy's frustration. The 4th was Sunday, so I'm fine with the weekend (hell I was okay if people started with the fireworks Thursday night). But fuck man, last night? Inconsiderate jerks were still at it in my vicinity. 4th of July is over assholes, time to shove the box of fireworks back into the crawl space.

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"pretending to be a firework is also going to run afoul of our noise ordinances." ... heh, made me chuckle.



Lol. I am no more than an hour away from where that took place. We have all kinds here in Florida...

The loonies are going to extend the revelry with TBL holding on to Lord Stanley's Cup. So that guy is probably going back into "firecracker firecracker, bottle rocket, boooooom!" mode again.Posted Image
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Posted 08 July 2021 - 03:37 AM

Damn bruh old man told me heís likely taking our 20 year old cat to be put down in morning and my son has no clue he said this and I donít know if I have the heart to tell him and fuck his night up with that emo whammy. Kids are going to be crushed as she is by far their oldest pet. Iím kinda stumped with this one.
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Posted 08 July 2021 - 04:01 AM

That's a tough one, but ultimately I'm of the opinion that giving folks a chance to say goodbye is better than sparing them some sadness for a little bit that's gonna come soon anyway.
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Posted 08 July 2021 - 04:24 AM

I was just about to when he got on a PS partyÖ

Fuck
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Posted 08 July 2021 - 04:32 AM

If it's a choice between killing them immediately to stop them from suffering or giving them lots of drugs to ease them into death through a haze of opioids (or maybe even better drugs than those---might even like LSD, etc.)... while their loved ones can still talk to them and stroke them through the haze... even if the process takes days, and the drugs kill them faster than the disease, it's still better than dying immediately. Personally I would almost always hold out for the hope of recovery, while still trying to give the cat as much comfort and care as possible (so far...). Then again, I'd suppose drugs can be expensive... I think the aversion to suffering in US culture is overrated, and veterinarians in particular go on about it because they charge exorbitant fees for immediate (and often if not always 'nonconsensual', from the pet's perspective) euthanasia.

But telling a child right before bed is probably not the best thing to do, as BK explained....

However a child probably should be given some time to say goodbye and have some final moments with the cat---which they'd otherwise regret having missed. Though it might be emotionally easier, either for the parent or the child, to simply tell the child the cat has died, especially if the child is young and the parent doesn't want to explain their decision to euthanize (or how they would feel about the child deciding to euthanize the parent...).
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