[Tiste Simeon]

It's nearly 5am. I've been on duty since 5 yesterday evening. I should have finished 3 hours ago. I'm tired...

I love my job but I'm tired!

[Macros]

Travel day.
Bad traffic en route to airport so no time for breakfast.
Bah


ETA
On the plus it's one of easyjet new planes, with the slimline seats, so there's far more leg room than the older models

This post has been edited by Macros: 09 March 2017 - 08:35 AM

[LadyMTL]

Thanks everyone for the suggestions / tips about my PC "dilemma", I appreciate them all. I did check out Tiger Direct last night, and spoke to a friend of mine who's pretty good with computers (he also builds his own), and he said he'd go the custom build route too, so I'm definitely giving it some serious thought. Alas for me he doesn't live here in Canadaland, or I probably would have hired him to build it for me, heh.

Now, I must slink off to work even with this groove-messingly bad migraine that's been with me for three freaking days now and that woke me up at 4AM today because it hurt so much. Stupid head.

This post has been edited by LadyMTL: 09 March 2017 - 12:23 PM

[amphibian]

 Briar King, on 09 March 2017 - 03:46 AM, said:

I sure would love a magic spell that would make my face, nethers, & chest hair never grow again. This Grooms doesn't like to groom at all.

You can laser/electrolysis the roots and they will never grow again. Lots of people do this.

[Andorion]

Spent all day alternating between headache and nausea. Teaching like that is no fun at all.

[JPK]

Sleep training is not going well. At all. I've been averaging between 2.5-3.5 hoes of sleep a night for the last 4 months solid and it's taking a serious toll on me at this point. I've been making tons of mistakes that just seem so simple to get right, and it hass been eating at me.

I just want the adorable little shithead to sleep for two nights. I'd even settle for 6 hours a night twice a week. It gets better, right?

[Abyss]

 JPK, on 09 March 2017 - 06:10 PM, said:

Sleep training is not going well. At all. I've been averaging between 2.5-3.5 hoes of sleep a night for the last 4 months solid and it's taking a serious toll on me at this point. I've been making tons of mistakes that just seem so simple to get right, and it hass been eating at me.

I just want the adorable little shithead to sleep for two nights. I'd even settle for 6 hours a night twice a week. It gets better, right?

Stay clam. It totally gets better.

Then it gets a cold and goes back to shit.

Then it gets better.

Then teething, back to shit.

Then better.

Then gas, wet diaper, full diaper, flooded diaper, loose diaper, diaper wedgie, milestoning, growth spurts, more teething, flu, rash, diaper rash, viral rash, drool rash, other rash, really gross rash, hey is that a rash?, still more teething, bump on the head, hand/foot/mouth/gross disease aka super gross rash, slapped cheek thing, molar teething, overtired, overstimulated, not enough activity, excess energy, tummy ache, hungry, ate too much, thirsty, yes there are still two more molars teething... and possibly any combinations of 2-3 of the foregoing at the same time or overlapping.

Then better.

[QuickTidal]

 Abyss, on 09 March 2017 - 06:38 PM, said:

 JPK, on 09 March 2017 - 06:10 PM, said:

Sleep training is not going well. At all. I've been averaging between 2.5-3.5 hoes of sleep a night for the last 4 months solid and it's taking a serious toll on me at this point. I've been making tons of mistakes that just seem so simple to get right, and it hass been eating at me.

I just want the adorable little shithead to sleep for two nights. I'd even settle for 6 hours a night twice a week. It gets better, right?

Stay clam. It totally gets better.

Then it gets a cold and goes back to shit.

Then it gets better.

Then teething, back to shit.

Then better.

Then gas, wet diaper, full diaper, flooded diaper, loose diaper, diaper wedgie, milestoning, growth spurts, more teething, flu, rash, diaper rash, viral rash, drool rash, other rash, really gross rash, hey is that a rash?, still more teething, bump on the head, hand/foot/mouth/gross disease aka super gross rash, slapped cheek thing, molar teething, overtired, overstimulated, not enough activity, excess energy, tummy ache, hungry, ate too much, thirsty, yes there are still two more molars teething... and possibly any combinations of 2-3 of the foregoing at the same time or overlapping.

Then better.

My experience is not as full as Abyss' but he's right it does get better. And I've learned that all kids are different.

We Ferberized our little munchkin at 6 months, and it took roughly a week and change to really get her to be able to put herself to sleep on her own. She's pretty good now and we usually only hear crying for a few minutes and she goes down.

Depending on your method, it can take time and your little one's sleep patterns are going to be mucked up as you try to regulate them.

Can I ask, do you follow a daytime nap schedule? When we were sleep training her, we noticed that unless she was getting a decent nap every 2hours or so during the day (usually for a 4nap total...ranging in time from 30min to 1hr or more for each nap) that getting her to sleep for long periods overnight was rough...but once we settled her into a daytime nap routine, she started sleeping longer at night.

But yeah, it sucks...and it will get better eventually.

[JPK]

Qt, yeah we've had her on a nap schedule for several months now. Up at 7am, nap at 930, nap at 2 is the current schedule.

I'll usually read her about half a chapter of a book as calming time before bed, and then put her down and tell her goodnight and she's out within minutes. She just doesn't stay down. We know she's teething right now with her upper incisors, so that hasn't been helping, but this has been an established nap schedule (we did drop from 3 naps to two asst the beginning of last month) for awhile now and she won't stay asleep for longer than a 90 minute stretch at night. The Mrs will do a feed at 10pm and at 1am but we've been fighting the sleep association with feeding time.

She also won't put herself back to sleep at night, but will instead pull herself up the side of the crib and then try to climb out. She's not strong enough to pull it off yet, but it's not stopping her from trying. I'm pretty sure she's close in age to your little one QT, maybe a month older if I remember right.

[Vengeance]

We broke both of our childs will at bed time. They cried and cried and we ignored them until almost the breaking point. Kept having to say in 15 minutes I will go in. Then in 20 minutes if she hasn't stopped I will go in. Eventually she would fall asleep. Of course we did that before she could move around 4 months I think. By the time she could move she was already used to just going to sleep on her own. When she teeths we give her medication to help her sleep at night. Usually not more then a 5th of whiskey.




- kidding about the 5th. more like a thimble.

[QuickTidal]

 JPK, on 09 March 2017 - 07:26 PM, said:

Qt, yeah we've had her on a nap schedule for several months now. Up at 7am, nap at 930, nap at 2 is the current schedule.

I'll usually read her about half a chapter of a book as calming time before bed, and then put her down and tell her goodnight and she's out within minutes. She just doesn't stay down. We know she's teething right now with her upper incisors, so that hasn't been helping, but this has been an established nap schedule (we did drop from 3 naps to two asst the beginning of last month) for awhile now and she won't stay asleep for longer than a 90 minute stretch at night. The Mrs will do a feed at 10pm and at 1am but we've been fighting the sleep association with feeding time.

She also won't put herself back to sleep at night, but will instead pull herself up the side of the crib and then try to climb out. She's not strong enough to pull it off yet, but it's not stopping her from trying. I'm pretty sure she's close in age to your little one QT, maybe a month older if I remember right.

A few things to try (if you've not already).

1. Your Mrs. can try what is called a "dream feed", at a time when you know the kid is going to be asleep (so if they are usually up at 10, try a dream feed at 9:45)...she picks them up gently and puts them on the boob (or the bottle) while they are still (mostly) asleep. They will nuzzle and feed a bit, but it should help them go back to and stay in a deeper sleep as they never fully wake up. It requires less time and energy than a full feed and will mean the 10PM feed is eliminated allowing more sleep for all involved. The dream feed also removes the sleep association with feeding as they are kind of unaware it's happening.

2. Are you giving her a quick feed before bedtime? Our routine is a book, and then my wife does a quick feed right before bed...but makes sure to pull her off the boob as she starts to doze and BEFORE she's asleep (this helps remove the food association, but she still gets a topup before sleep)...then she says goodnight and puts her down. She cries but eventually goes to sleep after a few minutes. For sleep association with feeding just make sure that the kid isn't falling completely asleep on the boob/bottle...that he/she is pulled off just as he/she begins to doze.

The dream feed especially helps. It pushes the night wakeup to much later, like 2AM in our case. We also put her in a nighttime diaper which lasts for 12 hours and that helps us in the fact that diaper changes in the middle of the night will wake them up for sure. She seems fine in them. Do you have your crib on the lowest setting? Ours has a higher level (which she's on now), but the mattress level drops when she's able to standup and grab the bars (probably will be sooner rather than later). If you fear her getting up the side of the crib, make sure it's on the lower down mattress setting (hopefully your crib has the option).

I do highly support Ferber method though. It's a week or two of crying (like horrible, parental-heart-rending crying sometimes)..and the act of having to go in and offer comfort for 2min intervals (should be done by you not your wife...as she will smell like mommy and that won't help) and NOT look them in the eye is tough to do. But it does work. Not trying to push that method on you if that's not what you are aiming for...but just noting that it worked for us. I usually get a full night sleep and my wife gets about the same shy of the maybe 20min total she's up for feeding in the middle of the night now....compared to before we sleep trained and she was up sometimes 4-5 times!

Solidarity man, it's not fun at all.

This post has been edited by QuickTidal: 09 March 2017 - 07:52 PM

[Vengeance]

 JPK, on 09 March 2017 - 07:26 PM, said:

Qt, yeah we've had her on a nap schedule for several months now. Up at 7am, nap at 930, nap at 2 is the current schedule.

I'll usually read her about half a chapter of a book as calming time before bed, and then put her down and tell her goodnight and she's out within minutes. She just doesn't stay down. We know she's teething right now with her upper incisors, so that hasn't been helping, but this has been an established nap schedule (we did drop from 3 naps to two asst the beginning of last month) for awhile now and she won't stay asleep for longer than a 90 minute stretch at night. The Mrs will do a feed at 10pm and at 1am but we've been fighting the sleep association with feeding time.

She also won't put herself back to sleep at night, but will instead pull herself up the side of the crib and then try to climb out. She's not strong enough to pull it off yet, but it's not stopping her from trying. I'm pretty sure she's close in age to your little one QT, maybe a month older if I remember right.

If you can try to get the missus to drop the 1am feeding do so unless she is still young enough to need it. Each time she starts to cry make her wait longer before you go into her. She needs to slowly realize that you won't just hop up and come running when she cries at night. By the end of a week you should be looking at 30min to an hour of crying before you go into get her. At that point try not going in at all and let her cry until she goes to sleep. It doesn't hurt the spawn and they won't hold it against you in the morning. Also if she is teething for the love of god give her drugs.

[amphibian]

I'm going to love being deaf when my kids come into being. I'm going to volunteer for 90% of the night work and break wills like Vengy above.

[amphibian]

If you hate areas of hair enough to regularly shave them, then yeah, this makes sense. It's trading money for time, "not having to do it", plus comfort.

I look at it the same way I did with my LASIK. Worth it, even if it cost a bunch.

[LadyMTL]

 Briar King, on 10 March 2017 - 03:18 AM, said:

 amphibian, on 09 March 2017 - 04:50 PM, said:

 Briar King, on 09 March 2017 - 03:46 AM, said:

I sure would love a magic spell that would make my face, nethers, & chest hair never grow again. This Grooms doesn't like to groom at all.

You can laser/electrolysis the roots and they will never grow again. Lots of people do this.

I know. I've frequently thought about getting one of those NoNo devices to try but I must admit to feeling a bit of dread at the thought of using it around nipples and along the rod and fruits. Which makes no sense considering I'm pressing a razor blade on above anyway.

I saw the laser operation on 📺 a few yrs ago

I got a Silk'N device (sort of like a No-No), it uses light to zap the hairs and eventually stops it from growing back. It's really easy to use, all you have to do is shave the area first and then go to town; I've used it pretty much everywhere from the neck down. It's not perfect, though. The cons, IMHO, aside from the cost:

* The light flash from my Silk'N can be very bright, so if you have sensitive eyes or just don't like seeing purple spots in your field of vision I'd suggest either getting protective glasses or just looking away when you press the trigger.
* My device has 5 intensity levels, and if you start at the higher ones it not only can sting quite a bit but you might irritate your skin.
* It takes quite a while to see results, and they might not be permanent. Ideally you use the thing every 10-14 days, but it'll be at least 2-3 months before you notice any reduction in hair growth. I've had mine for close to 3 years and I still use it for touchups here and there. Admittedly, I often forget about using it for weeks at a time, so I'm probably a bit to blame for the hair still growing back.
* If you have darker skin or light hair it might not work at all. Now, I'm pale as milk and I have very dark hair, so basically I'm their ideal "subject", but blondes, people with white or grey hair, dark skin, etc have often complained that it doesn't work.
* The bigger the area you want to treat, the more time you need; for example, for my legs it can often take me 15-20 minutes per, depending on how thorough I am and how high up I want to go. (I'm 5ft7, so it's not like I have crazy long model-legs, hehehe)

So...yeah. Even with all that I do like it, and I don't regret my purchase. It is more of a long-term thing than electrolysis, but it is cheaper and - so I've heard anyway - a lot less painful. Also, you don't have to go to a salon or spa or wherever and let some random stranger remove your body hair, you do it in the privacy of your own home.
Anyway, enough of my yapping. I hope this was at least a little bit helpful!

This post has been edited by LadyMTL: 10 March 2017 - 12:22 PM

[QuickTidal]

 amphibian, on 10 March 2017 - 02:25 AM, said:

I'm going to love being deaf when my kids come into being. I'm going to volunteer for 90% of the night work and break wills like Vengy above.

Unless you have breasts (or are bottle feeding the kid), then as a male you physically can't do 90% of the night work. The night work largely consists of breastfeeding the woken child back to sleep. You can offer to do the diaper changes, or rock the child if they don't happen to fall asleep at the breast (rare). But I'd say if you do that then you could count for maybe 20% of the night work maximum.

Trust me, as the guy you can offer support of all aspects, but the simple fact is that the overnight phase in the first 6 months or so is largely mommy and baby, with you possibly doing the offshoot things like diaper changes in the wings if it's required.

I honestly thought that my wife and I would be co-sharing all duties overnight prior to having a child...but in my experience there really is very little to it other than "Baby is hungry, feed baby, baby falls asleep".

You will probably end up with more day/evening jobs to be honest. While your wife feeds the child and sleeps while the child sleeps...your job is to do all the dishes, laundry, shopping, and other housework that she cannot.

This post has been edited by QuickTidal: 10 March 2017 - 01:00 PM

[Tiste Simeon]

Day off, looking forward to starting Dishonoured 2. The second hand copy I got from a supposedly reputable company is smudged and grimy and I can't get rid of some of them. So now I have to demand a refund. I have ordered a new copy (as in brand new) so I will still be able to play it but now I have to wait again!

I know, #firstworldproblems but I'm annoyed!

[Raymond Luxury Yacht]

I picked that up too but I'm waiting to get into it until I beat horizon.

[Andorion]

It's really strange how the human mind works.

Ocassional bouts of intense depression - like an hour each time. They are paralyzing. I just can't do anything when it happens.

Yesterday evening I basically ditched all work and just read for 3 hours. Helped a little bit.

[Macros]

Over in London for a job, they're badly short of men and under pressure.
I know the supervisor, used to work with him years ago.
He went on the pissast night, hasn't turned in today and told the lads to take a half day.
Aparently this is a regular occurrence.
And they wonder why the job is behind and under pressure.
He was a fuckwit when I knew him, god knows how he ended up as a supervisor.
Annoying because it's a good project and good money. And he's going to make a fuck of it, doesn't realise the opportunity he has on his first time running a job